Hey all i just have a situation i need a little insight on.
I met this girl about 2 weeks ago. we talked online, txt nearly everyday and been on 2 dates. First date we saw a movie and had dinner and i let her drive a manual car for the first time (my car), so it was a fun date. 2nd date we played minigolf and went up to this lookout garden/point overlooking the sea and just took a walk and chilled out. After the 2nd date we got to talking about how weve been txting alot, and saying certain things to eachother like she says im cute and funny, and tells me she doesnt have a bf etc and what it means etc etc.. I think i may have killed it here.. Then in the car before i dropped her off i asked "why do u sometimes say u have a bf and sometimes u say its an ex".. truth is her bf wanted a break from her, and he aint gona be here til the end of jan (hes overseas) and she wants to resolve it. She wants closure on the situation whether it be split up/stay together (she doesnt care) and doesnt wanna get into anything else until she gets it. (seemed like a fair reason to me). Shes reluctant to get out of the car, and when she turns around to get out she kinda looks me in the eye for a long second a few times.. i took it like she was expectin a kiss?? but i dunno since im mad rusty in the game.
I told her i wanted to hold her hand and if shed feel weird, so i grabbed it and held it and said 'well make it into a game or somethin'.. and we sat there holdin and she laughed after around 10 secs n pulled away.. and said all that "cant do anythin til ive resolved it with my ex/bf/dontknowhat" stuff.. i asked what shed do if she was single and she said "id see how things go with you".. so i thought that was cool..
other details about this girl: been with 1 guy for 2 years, religeous, virgin (yea i find it hard to believe too, its probably why he dont want her anymore), she thinks of marriage..
i like this girl quite a bit. She knows theres underlying things happening and she said she did feel a lil weird around me after we talked/held hands etc.. but we talked on the fone last night and it was all good.. she was saking stuff like "tell me something about u i dont know" etc which i took as an IOI..
Im just wantin to know how i pursue this girl? Hang out a few more times and just go the kiss anyway? she does still agree to meet me and says that there is feelings there etc..Should i pay too much attention to what shes sayin about resolving **** with her bf?? a friend of hers and mine told me that the situation is the bf dont want her but shes havin trouble dealing with that.. its weird.. cos when we first start talkin she was sayin ex ex ex too??
Im gona drop a soft toy and card at her place on xmas with a friendly note cos she said she never gets gifts on xmas even from her fam.. so i duno.. i thought it might be cool..i said to her on the fone that "on xmas u wil lrecieve instructions from me" she was real curious etc and i was like "sorry its top secret on what the instructions will be".. so im messin with her to make it interesting.. I just feel i hav to ad SOME AFC in my game based on the type of girl she is.. just seems that way.. i feel it.. she iant gona go for someone tryin to kiss her after 2 dates i can tell.
What do you think the next wise step for me is??
I met this girl about 2 weeks ago. we talked online, txt nearly everyday and been on 2 dates. First date we saw a movie and had dinner and i let her drive a manual car for the first time (my car), so it was a fun date. 2nd date we played minigolf and went up to this lookout garden/point overlooking the sea and just took a walk and chilled out. After the 2nd date we got to talking about how weve been txting alot, and saying certain things to eachother like she says im cute and funny, and tells me she doesnt have a bf etc and what it means etc etc.. I think i may have killed it here.. Then in the car before i dropped her off i asked "why do u sometimes say u have a bf and sometimes u say its an ex".. truth is her bf wanted a break from her, and he aint gona be here til the end of jan (hes overseas) and she wants to resolve it. She wants closure on the situation whether it be split up/stay together (she doesnt care) and doesnt wanna get into anything else until she gets it. (seemed like a fair reason to me). Shes reluctant to get out of the car, and when she turns around to get out she kinda looks me in the eye for a long second a few times.. i took it like she was expectin a kiss?? but i dunno since im mad rusty in the game.
I told her i wanted to hold her hand and if shed feel weird, so i grabbed it and held it and said 'well make it into a game or somethin'.. and we sat there holdin and she laughed after around 10 secs n pulled away.. and said all that "cant do anythin til ive resolved it with my ex/bf/dontknowhat" stuff.. i asked what shed do if she was single and she said "id see how things go with you".. so i thought that was cool..
other details about this girl: been with 1 guy for 2 years, religeous, virgin (yea i find it hard to believe too, its probably why he dont want her anymore), she thinks of marriage..
i like this girl quite a bit. She knows theres underlying things happening and she said she did feel a lil weird around me after we talked/held hands etc.. but we talked on the fone last night and it was all good.. she was saking stuff like "tell me something about u i dont know" etc which i took as an IOI..
Im just wantin to know how i pursue this girl? Hang out a few more times and just go the kiss anyway? she does still agree to meet me and says that there is feelings there etc..Should i pay too much attention to what shes sayin about resolving **** with her bf?? a friend of hers and mine told me that the situation is the bf dont want her but shes havin trouble dealing with that.. its weird.. cos when we first start talkin she was sayin ex ex ex too??
Im gona drop a soft toy and card at her place on xmas with a friendly note cos she said she never gets gifts on xmas even from her fam.. so i duno.. i thought it might be cool..i said to her on the fone that "on xmas u wil lrecieve instructions from me" she was real curious etc and i was like "sorry its top secret on what the instructions will be".. so im messin with her to make it interesting.. I just feel i hav to ad SOME AFC in my game based on the type of girl she is.. just seems that way.. i feel it.. she iant gona go for someone tryin to kiss her after 2 dates i can tell.
What do you think the next wise step for me is??
then logic and morals kicked in and made her let go haha.. thats the kicker i guess.. she rejected me and didnt at once :S