Single mommy living in Beta's home and driving his car wants him to "pick up the slack"

[MatureDJ]

I Sued My Employer and Won, but Things Didn’t Turn Out Like I’d Hoped

How do I get back to where I was?

slate.com

I’m a single mother of two children, one of whom is only with us for the summers. My older daughter’s father is deceased, and she receives the minimum Social Security survivor’s benefit through my bank account. She and I have lived with my boyfriend for over three years, and I have been dating him for over four years. During that time, I have held a part-time, work-from-home job with a high-enough hourly rate to pay most of my bills, with the exception of student loans, housing, and car payments. The student loans had been in deferral and/or income-based repayments of $0. My boyfriend has never asked for rent and bought a car for me to drive. I filed a Chapter 7 bankruptcy that completed in January 2020, but my lawyer refused to even try to get my loans discharged. I owe over $150,000 in total and have an MBA to show for it.

I left our family business in 2016 and have been trying since then to get another full-time professional job. However, each month that passes makes me less employable. Recently, my part-time job dried up, and I had to go on unemployment, which is barely enough for basics, much less saving or paying debts. It feels very unfair of me to use my daughter’s social security money to pay my bills. On the other hand, it also seems unfair to ask my boyfriend to pick up my financial slack when he is clearly not interested in changing our current arrangement.

I have tried to find other work but am either overqualified or disqualified because of my nonlinear career history. Friends have advised me to “think of what’s best for your kids,” which I interpret as “stay with the guy as long as he lets you hang around,” but I don’t feel like that’s a healthy basis for a relationship. The big question for me is: Should I stay or should I go? He doesn’t want to get married and won’t discuss money with me, which makes me very uncomfortable and anxious. I could move in with friends and try to rebuild my life, but the fallout from that would be detrimental for my kids, and there is no guarantee that a move would improve my situation. I don’t know what to do, but at some point doing nothing will no longer be an option.

—Millennial MBA Failure

my opinion: Wow, she is getting free rent, and even a free car, and she is complaining that he is a bum?

 

[SW15]

The only thing marketable about her is her vagina. Her vagina isn't all that marketable.

She did absolutely nothing with her MBA. She is a Millennial, so that means she got her MBA somewhere between 2007-2015. In that time, spending over $100,000 means that this was a decent MBA. Even with her likely graduating into a shiit economy post MBA, that MBA is likely to be enough to get her a job to be self supporting. I graduated with an MBA in of the worst years in history to be an MBA graduate. I managed to self support and I did not get preferential hiring treatment as she would likely get to due her being born female. I also was responsible with my birth control practices. I knew that I couldn't use my anatomy to get free rent and a free car like she has.

This article shows how worthless MBA degrees can be and how thirsty men can be. It's amazing that a man can simp for a woman with an MBA (likely to be more careerist-feminist than feminine) and a single mom.

 

[Not Dead Yet]

"pay most of my bills, with the exception of student loans, housing, and car payments"

Lol. So you pay for...your groceries?

"I filed a Chapter 7 bankruptcy that completed in January 2020, but my lawyer refused to even try to get my loans discharged."

Student loans can't* be discharged in bankruptcy. Your lawyer probably didn't feel like banging his head against a wall and running a bill your deadbeat ass can't pay.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

The only thing marketable about her is her vagina. Her vagina isn't all that marketable.

She did absolutely nothing with her MBA. She is a Millennial, so that means she got her MBA somewhere between 2007-2015. In that time, spending over $100,000 means that this was a decent MBA. Even with her likely graduating into a shiit economy post MBA, that MBA is likely to be enough to get her a job to be self supporting. I graduated with an MBA in of the worst years in history to be an MBA graduate. I managed to self support and I did not get preferential hiring treatment as she would likely get to due her being born female. I also was responsible with my birth control practices. I knew that I couldn't use my anatomy to get free rent and a free car like she has.

This article shows how worthless MBA degrees can be and how thirsty men can be. It's amazing that a man can simp for a woman with an MBA (likely to be more careerist-feminist than feminine) and a single mom.

Loved Aaron Clareys book worthless. Bought a copy for my cousin who i treat like he was my brother. There's no special treatment or upward trajectory for men in corporate. Every moron has a pronoun in their bio. Shoot me now. Not sure how you deal with it nor play jekyll and Hyde. Dj by night and choir boy by day. Gotta be batman up in this *****. Clarey had a rant about letting women have corporate. I couldn't agree more.

 

[SW15]

Loved Aaron Clareys book worthless. Bought a copy for my cousin who i treat like he was my brother. There's no special treatment or upward trajectory for men in corporate. Every moron has a pronoun in their bio. Shoot me now. Not sure how you deal with it nor play jekyll and Hyde. Dj by night and choir boy by day. Gotta be batman up in this *****. Clarey had a rant about letting women have corporate. I couldn't agree more.

Much of white collar corporate life is unfriendly to males. A lot of degree programs can also be worthless. Blue collar, tradesman jobs are a good place for men. I have some skills that are good for white collar environments. There are many days where I think that my life path would have been easier in a blue collar role.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Much of white collar corporate life is unfriendly to males. A lot of degree programs can also be worthless. Blue collar, tradesman jobs are a good place for men. I have some skills that are good for white collar environments. There are many days where I think that my life path would have been easier in a blue collar role.

Agreed. I think the come up is much quicker. A tradesmen can easily start a biz. Far more challenging coming from corporate. Not impossible. Just a different path far less stream lined.