Single guys who sleep around, how are you finding hookups during this time where you have to stay seated at the bars?

[BPH]

Blender/Badoo beats the pants off all other dating apps in my opinion

I assumed when you said Blender you were referencing photography since I know that's some sort of editing/animating software.

Never heard of those apps, are you from the US?

 

[Jacob40]

Blender/Badoo beats the pants off all other dating apps in my opinion

Some of these apps use the same type of interface, and actually are the same app with a different name. If you place your profile on Blendr, you will also find it on one of their sister apps too. I've found exact same people, word from word profile between different apps. I just looked at Badoo in my location here in USA. Nothing but 4's and below on it.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Wow, this thread got a lot more replies after the first two. I thought it just kinda died...anyway I read through these so I'll try to reply as much as I can



Problem is I live in Delaware, we have very few options for going out and none of them are particularly close. I feel like it would be pretty lame to just drive 20 minutes to a busy street and just walk up and down it trying to find girls to talk to. I did that kinda stuff at the mall when I was first learning to talk to girls, and while it worked once it wasn't really worth the time investment.



I would if it weren't getting in the way of me meeting some women. I don't know how many truly think that since the amount that have TOLD me this is relatively small. But for every one that tells me they think I'm fake there's probably another 3-5 that swipe left because they assume it.



They are but my strength is that I don't care about rejection so I can go up and talk to anyone and usually make a night out of it. The girls on Tinder and Bumble are largely there for validation or to try to get simps to follow them on Instagram or pay them on Venmo. I remember standing in line at the bar once and this girl was talking to her girlfriends about how she matched with a guy she didn't like because she just wanted to see if he liked her. It might be the same people but it's definitely not the same thing...



This. Yeah I know how Tinder is. I have extremely low expectations and rather high standards. I'm not willing to pay for it either. I'm just disappointed because my strength (approaching) is pretty much taken away from me since the only places I really met women were out at the bars here. Delaware is pretty lame in that respect. And even with the college towns right now UD is just having everything online and people just sit in their dorms.



I know I'm a good looking guy, but I agree that I'm probably not "impossible" good looking, I'm just saying I've had some girls voice suspicion about me because they think I'm a catfish or fake. That being said, I don't get a lot of openers because I'm picky with my matches. Statistically guys swipe right on like 40% of women I think they said? I swipe right on maybe 5%.

I know high standards and Tinder as a guy don't really go hand-in-hand, but that's also why I'm here posting to see what some people might recommend as alternatives.



Not sure what's funny, but you're welcome.



I don't want to quote both your replies so I'll respond to this one. I agree with the point on 6s and 7s...I have a friend who's crushing it, but I wouldn't swipe on half the girls he's banging. I think I have pretty high standards and I don't like to let them go just for some booty. My results IRL are also generally better because I'm looking at what I'm interested in rather than hoping the person online is who I hope they are.

I live in suburban Delaware in the USA, it's a very small state with very little nightlife. So now that the spots where everybody WOULD meet girls are pretty lame. I was at the most popular bar in town last weekend for Halloween...it's at 60% capacity which isn't a lot, we had to stay seated once there, and everybody else is at tables spaced far apart. After that my FOMO quickly dissipated.

That being said, I have a FWB I can resort to, but as far as new women I've been pretty disappointed in how long it's been.

One of my mates has the pro edition. He gets a ton of matches. The analytics is there but he boosts. He did a cost evaluation of boost, time, dinner, and ZERO guarantee of poon. Compared to the guaranteed service for escorts or sugar babies, he said its night and day difference. I don't live like that but he's modern day Sterling Archer come to life. He argued, i make a behemoth amp of money. You do a cost analysis for the drive, dinner, time courting, etc its a headache. Note he doesn't approach.

If i spent absolute ridiculous amount of time suck on game and pickup only to acknowledge that it is not ideal, it would be a ****ty reality check. Instead, the ability to use game and pickup is now MONUMENTAL more than ever. The importance of approaching IRL, not reliant solely by swiping or passive OLD.

START APPROACHING. The pandemic is a great thing for pickup. Higher prevalence to 1) rejection 2) pickup. Less hot and cold fence sitters. The stack should be you chain gunning pickup just so that you can get past AA. Do it. Get out of the city. Acquire anonymity. Go wild. After, a handful of approaching a day will suffice. Always be sourcing. Always lift. Looks max. Moreover, get paper right.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Wow, this thread got a lot more replies after the first two. I thought it just kinda died...anyway I read through these so I'll try to reply as much as I can



Problem is I live in Delaware, we have very few options for going out and none of them are particularly close. I feel like it would be pretty lame to just drive 20 minutes to a busy street and just walk up and down it trying to find girls to talk to. I did that kinda stuff at the mall when I was first learning to talk to girls, and while it worked once it wasn't really worth the time investment.



I would if it weren't getting in the way of me meeting some women. I don't know how many truly think that since the amount that have TOLD me this is relatively small. But for every one that tells me they think I'm fake there's probably another 3-5 that swipe left because they assume it.



They are but my strength is that I don't care about rejection so I can go up and talk to anyone and usually make a night out of it. The girls on Tinder and Bumble are largely there for validation or to try to get simps to follow them on Instagram or pay them on Venmo. I remember standing in line at the bar once and this girl was talking to her girlfriends about how she matched with a guy she didn't like because she just wanted to see if he liked her. It might be the same people but it's definitely not the same thing...



This. Yeah I know how Tinder is. I have extremely low expectations and rather high standards. I'm not willing to pay for it either. I'm just disappointed because my strength (approaching) is pretty much taken away from me since the only places I really met women were out at the bars here. Delaware is pretty lame in that respect. And even with the college towns right now UD is just having everything online and people just sit in their dorms.



I know I'm a good looking guy, but I agree that I'm probably not "impossible" good looking, I'm just saying I've had some girls voice suspicion about me because they think I'm a catfish or fake. That being said, I don't get a lot of openers because I'm picky with my matches. Statistically guys swipe right on like 40% of women I think they said? I swipe right on maybe 5%.

I know high standards and Tinder as a guy don't really go hand-in-hand, but that's also why I'm here posting to see what some people might recommend as alternatives.



Not sure what's funny, but you're welcome.



I don't want to quote both your replies so I'll respond to this one. I agree with the point on 6s and 7s...I have a friend who's crushing it, but I wouldn't swipe on half the girls he's banging. I think I have pretty high standards and I don't like to let them go just for some booty. My results IRL are also generally better because I'm looking at what I'm interested in rather than hoping the person online is who I hope they are.

I live in suburban Delaware in the USA, it's a very small state with very little nightlife. So now that the spots where everybody WOULD meet girls are pretty lame. I was at the most popular bar in town last weekend for Halloween...it's at 60% capacity which isn't a lot, we had to stay seated once there, and everybody else is at tables spaced far apart. After that my FOMO quickly dissipated.

That being said, I have a FWB I can resort to, but as far as new women I've been pretty disappointed in how long it's been.

If these woman are only on dating apps for validation how have I banged almost 40 of them in 5 years? 2 of them were my long term girlfriends of a year and a year and a half each where I was only with them after the first 3 or 4 months.

So effectively I banged close to 35 women in 2.5 years off of dating apps. Does that seem like simply wanting validation to you?

I mean come on man...these ridiculous posts about dating apps just need to stop because they have no basis in reality. It is like one guy comes up with this idea and then everyone else just parrots it even tho some have literally ZERO experience on these apps sometimes.

Let's come back to reality and start viewing dating apps as what they are. Places you meet and date women. And for those who haven't figured how to do that I am sorry you arr having problems but that really is a YOU issue not an app issue.

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

Some of these apps use the same type of interface, and actually are the same app with a different name. If you place your profile on Blendr, you will also find it on one of their sister apps too. I've found exact same people, word from word profile between different apps. I just looked at Badoo in my location here in USA. Nothing but 4's and below on it.

You are right, the apps share the same population.

Thats ****ty man, this is where all my plates come from during covid after a random encounter got me sick, been loving it, Tinder is a waste of time in my area compared to these apps

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

I assumed when you said Blender you were referencing photography since I know that's some sort of editing/animating software.

Never heard of those apps, are you from the US?

Ironically I use Blender, it's a fantastic program capable of a lot and it's free, Python also a decent start if you want to get into programming, just as a side.

Im in Canada, but I know they are available in US, but maybe not as popular out there from the sounds of things

 

[BPH]

One of my mates has the pro edition.

Sorry, the pro edition of what exactly? Badoo/Blendr?

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Sorry, the pro edition of what exactly? Badoo/Blendr?

Name it. Its a poor choice for spending. There's a poor use of money. I highly don't recommend that.