A 45 year old childless single woman believes her date asked too many questions trying to find what's wrong with her, instead of what's right her.
Her date asked her these questions:
"Have you ever been married?"
"Have you come close? Like engaged or lived with someone?"
"When was your last long-term relationship?
"But you're attractive and smart. I can't believe you haven't had a boyfriend in a while,"
"Like how long?" my date continues. "How many years?"
"That's OK," Brian offers as consolation. "Some people aren't interested in having a serious relationship."
"So, what's the issue?" he asks. "I can't believe you would still be single. You must be picky."
"Some people choose to focus on their careers and some choose to have families,"
"I have a friend who admits she spent too much time focused on her career and not her dating life," Brian says, like it's a diagnosis: "Career-Womanitis."
"Brian, if you spend the rest of our date searching for what's wrong with me, you'll never discover what's right with me,"
He hails a cab and asks me for a second date.
"Yes," I say. "I'd like that." I'm open to a relationship, after all.
Does she have a point? Should her date have focused on what is RIGHT with a single / childless / 45 year old woman?
Single, Childless and 45: So What's Wrong With You?
Perhaps the better question is: What's right with you?
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Her date asked her these questions:
"Have you ever been married?"
"Have you come close? Like engaged or lived with someone?"
"When was your last long-term relationship?
"But you're attractive and smart. I can't believe you haven't had a boyfriend in a while,"
"Like how long?" my date continues. "How many years?"
"That's OK," Brian offers as consolation. "Some people aren't interested in having a serious relationship."
"So, what's the issue?" he asks. "I can't believe you would still be single. You must be picky."
"Some people choose to focus on their careers and some choose to have families,"
"I have a friend who admits she spent too much time focused on her career and not her dating life," Brian says, like it's a diagnosis: "Career-Womanitis."
"Brian, if you spend the rest of our date searching for what's wrong with me, you'll never discover what's right with me,"
He hails a cab and asks me for a second date.
"Yes," I say. "I'd like that." I'm open to a relationship, after all.
Does she have a point? Should her date have focused on what is RIGHT with a single / childless / 45 year old woman?