Sick and Tired of Rejections and Humiliations

[NeedToImprove]

i just want to end it put a gun to my head or something. i hate my life, hate how i look, hate my parents for letting me grow up with these ****ing defects on my face, something that could be avoided if they wanted and they neglected it and said there was nothing wrong with me when they knew there was, hate myself for going through everything i could and couldnt and even then it didnt worked... i'm just desperate and frustrated.


something happened to me that ****ed my hair and my face in my 30's (i'm 39 btw not 29 as someone thought), i dont know if genetic or not (doctor said Treacher Collins syndrome) since then my life went downhill. in my 20's i was still able to pick up girls, my face was fine and i had hair so i could pull it off. but now they see me as a ****in monster.

this was in my 20's

http://i1188.photobucket.com/albums/z416/Picollo30/12935_920.png
http://i1188.photobucket.com/albums/z416/Picollo30/6703_920.jpg

and now: in my 30's with a difference in time of 5 years since i started surgeries (2010-2015) - just click the link to the question and click the pics

http://www.realself.com/question/pollybeak-negative-canthal-angle-fixed-pics-before-after


believe me guys i've been through all this for nothing, i have one major surgery coming on BSSO+Lefort1+genioplasty, but i dont know if its worth it, i know i will still be ugly as sin

Surgeries: Otoplasty, Septoplasty/Rhinoplasty, Canthoplasty for negative canthal angle (droopy the dog eyes) / Strabismus Surgery and various malar fat injections (didnt work as i still have hollow cheeks). Waiting for double jaw surgery, mandible surgery and chin advancement all in one surgery

here's the objective of the surgery

https://www.scienceopen.com/documen...82f1fc16/PubMedCentral/image/1746-160X-3-15-4

is it really worth it? should i stop and accept that i dont stand a chance? just be honest guys. i know i may sound like a loser, but i've been through so ****ing much.

is it my face? if so what is it?

 

[Bible_Belt]

Obsessing over your looks is your problem, much more so than anything about the way you look. Other than having less hair, I can't even see whatever it is that you think is such a huge problem about yourself. You don't look defective; you look normal. It's all in your head.

 

[NeedToImprove]

tell that to females. maybe they see something you dont.yeah im bald, but i have bald friends who have a g/f, so the issue here is not the bald head. its obviously something else.

bald friend with girl

https://fbcdn-sphotos-h-a.akamaihd...._=1428543607_281f8a3f689d2fb6262d0488139843a4

 

[Alvafe]

what I see its a lot of insegurity about your looks, you worry more about your look then a female are. try to look clean and sharp, have charm, work out to get in better shape if you want but stop worrying so much about your looks alone.

from your posts alone I consider you boring, superficial, and are worried about what others think, stop doing that.

 

[jurry]

so the issue here is not the bald head. its obviously something else.

You got that right. You have an incredibly weak, poor me attitude.

Be a man, stop fishing for sympathy and justification for your failure and go out and make it work.

A good line I see on girls OLD profiles sometimes is this : "if YOU dont even enjoy being you, why would I want to spend time with you?" This is a great piece of advice for men, you in particular.

 

[NeedToImprove]

You got that right. You have an incredibly weak, poor me attitude.

Be a man, stop fishing for sympathy and justification for your failure and go out and make it work.

A good line I see on girls OLD profiles sometimes is this : "if YOU dont even enjoy being you, why would I want to spend time with you?" This is a great piece of advice for men, you in particular.

Have you at least seen the 2010-2015 pics? Are you saying i didnt need the surgeries?

 

[Thefakeslimshady]

it seems like you have an issue of innergame and self confidence. Girls are picking up how you feel about your self and that is why you are getting rejected. The way women treat you or how much attention they give you should not dictate your happiness. I don't see any of the things wrong with your face that you are talking about. Its all in your head. It only looks like you got older which is natural.

 

[Building_and_Loan]

Wow, I clicked on your link expecting to see some ugly sad sack of a man, I was almost too frightened to look.

You look like a normal guy. I honestly don't know what you're talking about, and suspect this could be a troll thread.

Do you smile very often? Take care of your teeth/whiten? No matter what you think of your face, you can always work on your body. A six pack and solid biceps will increase your value and self confidence, which sounds like it'll help you.

 

[jurry]

Wow, I clicked on your link expecting to see some ugly sad sack of a man, I was almost too frightened to look.

Haha I did the exact same thing, even pulled my phone further away to prepare myself for how bad it could be lol

 

[NeedToImprove]

Wow, I clicked on your link expecting to see some ugly sad sack of a man, I was almost too frightened to look.

You look like a normal guy. I honestly don't know what you're talking about, and suspect this could be a troll thread.

Do you smile very often? Take care of your teeth/whiten? No matter what you think of your face, you can always work on your body. A six pack and solid biceps will increase your value and self confidence, which sounds like it'll help you.

I dont smile i have braces on (5 years with them) because im still waiting for the jaw surgery. Its obviously not a troll thread, look at the pics the big ears, the slanted downward eyes...do you think i would go under the knife and multiple sedations just for fun?

 

[mangotot]

I can see your problem dude. You were a decent looking chap in your 20s as shown by photos but now gone downhill a notch. I don't think you look bad now, if you ask me you look like an average looking guy. You should sort out your fashion that will help a lot.

 

[mangotot]

Should add you have the classic problem hot women face. They were hot in their 20s and 30s and now they are in their mud 40s the looks have gone. They no longer get attention. How do they deal with that? Most just move on with life instead of moping. As for you, your problem is psychological more then anything else.

 

[guru1000]

I'm sorry I mentioned Scupltra in the other thread a few months back. I didn't know you have a psychiatric problem.

You need no surgery. You look fine just the way you are. Shave the beard--and the head--and keep body fat in the 10-12% range. Once you enfranchise "out of your head," you will be pulling tail like crazy.

Again, DO NOT get anymore surgery. You are fine, as is.

 

[NeedToImprove]

if anything and with luck i will be a beta provider

plus i dont think my skull shape goes well with being bald. if that's it im literally fu***d

 

[NeedToImprove]

"man you legit look like a piece of dog****. i dont think there is any chance you can get an somewhat attractive girl unless you are making mad bank.
your only hope is the double jaw surgery...it improves the face of alot of people quite significantly...but still you will remain bald and thats really killing you man.
try to run escort-game man"


at least one pm from an honest guy here

i knew i was effed up. i just knew it

 

[Atom Smasher]

I too was afraid to look. Especially in your 2015 picture you look PERFECTLY FINE, dude.

I'm not blowing smoke here. With a little bit of style in your clothing you'll do perfectly well.

Always remember that women are attracted to the whole package, not just the face. It's critically important for every man to realize that A woman will always believe what you believe about yourself.

I'm going to repeat this... You look absolutely fine. I would be doing you a disservice if I were to be dishonest about this. What YOU YOURSELF are seeing is each and every microscopic imperfection that you have known all your life. You've got to come to understand that other people simply don't pick up on this.

Geez, dude, you have incredible potential after what you've been through. You just need to get your focus off the imperfections that others simply do not perceive.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Deleted Post. Took care of this post thru PM instead.

 

[Genos]

You have only failed if you hit the ground and refuse to get back up.

Even if people say these things to you, are you just going to not try? I admire the man who tries 1,000 times and succeeds once (hell even trying 1000 times and failing every time) more than the man who wallows in his perceived inadequacy and does not try at all, or concedes and gives up; for at least the man who tried had the will and mental fortitude to start himself on the path to bettering himself and making the best of his lot. That is what truly defines a man. And this process, this struggle, this journey towards self-improvement and success? It never ends! Which is one of the beautiful things about life.

A quote, from Ruroni Kenshin: https://i.imgur.com/oCHH3yl.jpg
EDIT: some additional quotes: http://imgur.com/gallery/eSGTM

No matter what setbacks you face, continue moving forward. Life is precious - live each moment with joy and enjoy the people around you.

And man... c'mon. You honestly look fine lol

 

[LondonTowers]

Dude, please stop this surgery nonsense. You've been on SoSuave for 10 years yet your inner game is still on ground zero. Your problem is self esteem and evident case of body dysmophia. You look absolutely fine and youthful for someone hitting 40. Your psychological problems have robbed you of life and developing a happy personality. The reason why women aren't attracted to you is because they sense your unease with your self which is the biggest killer of them all. I've met guys like you and it comes off instantly how self conscious you are. So do yourself a favour, quit surgery and use the money on a great therapist, a great personal trainer and a great meditation teacher. Read books about self esteem, character development and masculinity. The only superficial thing you need to do is shave your beard and get a new wardrobe. All these men have spoke the truth to you.. I think we are all shocked at how normal you look as your posts have portrayed something so far from reality. And the guy who PM'ed you saying you're ugly is a weak troll f*cker who is trying to play with you head.. He obviously wasn't man enough to say it in front of the rest of us. Good luck.

 

[dk1990S111]

you look a lot like a buddy of mine in your 2010 picture. he might have the same thing now that i find out that its an actual condition not just his genetics. Guess what though....he has a great sense of humor and gets plenty of girls.

Stop with the surgery nonsense, its all in your head. You need to stop letting this consume you for your own good. Im with all the others, you probably would have had no problem getting girls in 2010 if you just had your mind right.