Shyte tests and low interest

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You really must be chad thunderc0ck for them to reply to that lol
Nope. I have tried other openers too but this, by far, works the best to get a positive response.

1.) Its laid back (no pressure and thats my natural personality)
2.) Its subtle- I've had women who I went out with tell me they didnt know if I was interested or not when they got that first message.
3.) It is non complimentary- women are actually put off by immediate compliments because of all the "Hey beautiful"messages they get.

The most common response I get back is "Hey! Doing great. How are you doing?" which is easy to respond to....

A lot of you guys need to stop knocking stuff until you try it. I guarantee that if you are decent looking and have a decent fb account (decent pics and pics that show that you get out and live life and not sit around on the couch) , it will work on fb messenger. It also works great in real life.
 

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I would add that a woman may also do it to a guy she is really into just to verify she isn't making a mistake. But by comparison it may be insignificant and not last or repeat very much. If she is happy with the guy, realizes he isn't like all the other losers, then it all settles down and that is the end of it.
I wont argue this as it is true. If she sees you as very high value, she will be less inclined to self destruct the relationship (which shyte tests will do with a high value guy- we have no time for it). If she sees you as easily replaceable, the shyte tests will be more frequent as she knows your value compared to hers, and that you are not easily replaceable.

Women have a natural nack of dismissing men when the man doesnt do something right in her eyes (if her interest is medium to lower). So the shyte testing amplifies (in her eyes) if a man will raise his value or completely lose his value based on how he responds to it.

Men have a natural nack of instantly qualifying a woman even though he knows little about her and she has done nothing to show that she is worthy of a man's time.

I totally agree with the others that say the best response to a shyte test is to ignore it.

Think of a toddler in the checkout of a grocery store. They put the candy there for a reason.......Does the parent give in and let the toddler have the candy or do they just ignore them knowing the toddler will soon stop once the opportunity for the candy is gone?

Thats the best analogy of a shyte test and how to handle it. Just ignore.
 

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A lot of you guys need to stop knocking stuff until you try it. I guarantee that if you are decent looking and have a decent fb account (decent pics and pics that show that you get out and live life and not sit around on the couch) , it will work on fb messenger. It also works great in real life.
True, FB is way different than IG in that regard, people feel more up to chatting on FB than they do on IG. I have pretty much 0 response rate on IG for that, though
 

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Nope. I have tried other openers too but this, by far, works the best to get a positive response.

1.) Its laid back (no pressure and thats my natural personality)
2.) Its subtle- I've had women who I went out with tell me they didnt know if I was interested or not when they got that first message.
3.) It is non complimentary- women are actually put off by immediate compliments because of all the "Hey beautiful"messages they get.

The most common response I get back is "Hey! Doing great. How are you doing?" which is easy to respond to....

A lot of you guys need to stop knocking stuff until you try it. I guarantee that if you are decent looking and have a decent fb account (decent pics and pics that show that you get out and live life and not sit around on the couch) , it will work on fb messenger. It also works great in real life.
I'm with you on this. Never ever pay a compliment without meeting her, especially on messenger. My generic opening is:
"Hey ___! How's it going today?"

No pressure. Easy to respond to. Doesn't seem too eager. Then I try to get the number and/or close on a date within the first few messages if IL seems good.
 

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I'm with you on this. Never ever pay a compliment without meeting her, especially on messenger. My generic opening is:
"Hey ___! How's it going today?"

No pressure. Easy to respond to. Doesn't seem too eager. Then I try to get the number and/or close on a date within the first few messages if IL seems good.
Try the "Hey whats up"..... No exclamation points. "How is it going today" never worked as great for me compared to "Hey whats up"
 

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All this worrying about "sh!t tests" comes form a scarcity mindset. If you are spinning multiple plates (which, as a single guy, you should be) and if you have other things going on in your life, you simply won't have time to respond to stupid or low interest texts from women. You will naturally ignore them and spend your limited free time talking to more promising prospects.
 

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Try the "Hey whats up"..... No exclamation points. "How is it going today" never worked as great for me compared to "Hey whats up"
Do you think most guys on the apps and messenger are leading with "hey, what's up" though?
 

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Do you think most guys on the apps and messenger are leading with "hey, what's up" though?
No. Its normally "hey beautiful " followed by a dic pic. Or they try to shower the chick with compliments right off the bat.

Plates show me this stuff. Its pathetic how beta most men are when they try to message a chick
 

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No. Its normally "hey beautiful " followed by a dic pic. Or they try to shower the chick with compliments right off the bat.

Plates show me this stuff. Its pathetic how beta most men are when they try to message a chick
That's wild. Alright then, "hey what's up" will be the new line!
 

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I was checking a girl from my work place, nearly 6 months of trying to pin down a date/sex session. It never happened.

However she did give me 4-5 BJ's at work, so probably medium interest level.

I nexted her 3 months ago... Total indifference from my end.

I get a Facebook freind request off her last night.. Out of the blue.

How do I respond? Ignore her!

If a girl isn't making it easy or giving me sex.. I have absolutely no use for her... Next!
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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I believe wholeheartedly that trying to pass or even passing the so called shyt test is feminine.

Poking fun at her for trying such a stupid thing or completely ignoring her with utter and complete dismissal of her for her assumed higher elevation is the correct action.

Women are highly skilled at positioning. It’s an advertisement ploy. An actual technology. You have to wreck her assumption that she is so valuable that she can say anything she wants to you and you will explain, try to counter or in any way adjust or counter. There is nothing to handle. She has zero authority.
The “shyt test” technology out there is some seriously flawed idea as it doesn’t snap you out of the feminine imperative power grab. You learn to operate in the feminine paradigm. You don’t even fukking belong there.

The correct handling is to in any way, stick your nose in the air in the face of her audacity. She needs men. You have the upper hand because you don’t need a woman to live a successful life. Women are to have sex with or have babies.
Brilliant post mate.. Love it
 

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A lot of you guys are flooding the forum with all these "shyte tests" that you think women are throwing your way. While its true that women use shyte tests on men, it is much more likely for a woman with LOW interest to do so. Any woman that has high interest/sexual interest in a man will be far less likely to throw such tests at a man. Low interest women shyte test because they want you to prove yourself to them, automatically putting the man in a position of less power than she is. I think we can all agree that when a woman controls the power dynamic in any relationship, its all but over. Why? Because there is also a lack of respect.

Therefore there is a lack of respect when a woman throws shyte tests at a man. Some of these shyte tests are boarderline, if not downright disrespectful. Yet some of you dudes are on here asking how to respond to such disrespectful behavior? I dont get it.

In short, this is how I deal with shyte tests, low interests woman and any woman that isnt showing me signs of HIGH interest:

1.) I dont respond.
2.) I dont respond.
3.) I dont respond.

Read that again. And again.

If a woman is not making it easy for me getting her out for drinks, then getting her to my place on date 2, 3 or rarely date 4......there is no need for me to further respond.

One thing that every man MUST understand is this- Just because a woman texts you, you do not have to respond. Just because she calls you, you do not have to answer the call.

It would blow most people's mind how often I DO NOT respond to something some chick sends me. To me its either not important enough to respond to or its insignificant....or the chick is showing signs of lower interest.

Yet many of you try to find some magic response because you already know she is low interest and you are trying to raise her interest. Its a waste either way.

The last shyte test I got from a chick was quite some time back. I didnt respond. She later asked me while on a date why I never responded and I told her that I didnt feel it was worth a response. Simple as that.

Most shyte tests are a double edge sword. If you answer and it doesnt suit her, she will write you off. If you answer and it suits her, she will probably write you off because you just showed that you are compliant to her requests, even when they are stupid.

The only play that you have is to not respond.

As an added pro tip that I will give everyone, its this: If you want to know where a woman's interest level is......easy to do:

Just dont respond to her for a few days. If she reaches out, you know she is interested. Ask her out and if she agrees and shows up, she has at least a medium interest level. So on and so on.

But many guys are too scared to lose contact with the chick. Scarcity mindset is a killer. I on the other hand dont respond to half the stuff women text me (unless they are asking about making plans to see me or have a direct and legitimate question/topic). I go days without texting specific women. How do they react to that? They chase.

Happy hunting
I agree. Lads to need to chain gun getting girls. Pull or rejected, go get more girls. in fairness, there is a lot of frauds, guys championing game, don't approach, can't pull but got some new program or ebook. YouTube is full of these frauds. Screamer red pull and hypergamy. You got the typical dude bro in financed beamer over a decade +. Women need to disqualify dorks and betas. It's blatant disrespect. I #next at ambiguity. I approach, pull or I next. No free attention.
 

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Try the "Hey whats up"..... No exclamation points. "How is it going today" never worked as great for me compared to "Hey whats up"
Lol tried a cold approach on IG with this exact line, it worked
 

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No. Its normally "hey beautiful " followed by a dic pic. Or they try to shower the chick with compliments right off the bat.

Plates show me this stuff. Its pathetic how beta most men are when they try to message a chick
yeah, but if you compliment them enough and agree with them a lot, eventually they reward you with sex .

it’s called “nicegame”. I’m thinking of writing a book on it.
 

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I have experienced this myself. BJ almost every day for a couple of months. BJs are sex. I was happy with the outcome. An attractive woman on her knees up the back stairs to an empty fourth floor? I thought it was awesome. She was good too.

Intercourse? Intercourse with her mouth is nice. Submissive and enthusiastic. Just my type.
Bjs are great.. However I definitely would prefer to smash too.. Which in this case just wasn't happening lol

Can't complain too much, most dudes don't even get Bjs from low interest or medium interest girls
 

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@Glassguy.

For instance, there is a very good looking HB 8 who is somewhat connected to one of my social circles (she is not part of it per se but is friends with 1-2 of my friends). She has a great job and is by all accounts a good woman on top it (she recently is out of an LTR). Admittedly, I know nothing about her - but I wouldn't mind putting some feelers out and even doing maybe a bit of legwork to put myself around her to see what she is like. Now, I know some people may say no woman is worth going too above and beyond for. Do you ever put in some work up front to see if there is anything there and then apply the more aloof approach after? Or do you never take any extra steps?
Yea of course you have to be in it to win it

"dont put feelers out " straight up add her on social media or better approach her in person and just say something like

XYZ told me you were single now is it true ?

It' an immediate statement of intent and she will know exactly what you are wanting
 

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Can someone offer some examples of very common female shyt tests? I want to gain a better understanding of low interest vs. a true shyt test vs. normal female behavior. From my understanding the most common one I have "passed" is not responding to a woman, and if she reaches out without me initiating conversation usually her IL is at least medium.

The number one favourite of all time is her leaving you on read after you think the convo is going well

Another one is acting sassy / rude to see how you handle it

I have met women who use VERY strong sexual **** tests
 

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Could you explain these, and how you handled the situation?
The ones i have encountered are usually quite abrupt .....so usually if a female is attracted to you she will brush against you or maybe touch your arm / shoulder something like that all very subtle

a sexual sh1t test would be her grabbing your a$$ , d1ck , putting her hand on your crotch .....she's testing to see how submissive you are but some guys will absolutely sh1t themselves over it too

I would usually stop her and say "i'll decide when i want you to touch me"

another favourite is

"do you think i have big t1ts" ..
 
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