Shy Girl

MikeYikes122

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Well guys i hope your reading this because you know a little something about shy girls. Please give me some advice and dont be scared to shoot me straight.

So there is this girl i met in one of my classes (no im not in high school, this is a college class) she sits down by me the first day over hears me say where I'm from, pops around and tells me she is from there too. So im real attracted to this girl and she reminds of a girl i dated in high school, but had to dump because our lifestyles were too contradictory to each other. Well the semester progresses on and im getting nothing but good vibes from this chick, she's smiling at me, laughing at my stupid ass, and she acts weird around me, so i know ive got her. So about a week and a half two weeks into class i get her phone number to go out with her and somehow the **** hit the fan....

Now keep in mind this girl is extremely shy, but she never was too bad with me....

The next day she doesn't sit by me, she doesn't say hey to me, she doesn't even f*ckin look at me, i don't pass go, and i certainly dont collect 200 dollars. It just gets weirder from here. The next day she is a little warmer, waits for me to walk her to the bus stop, makes an effort to talk to me, but this is the last sign of warmth i got. So i call her that weekend to go out with her we pretty much make plans, but they get ruined due to reasons beyond our control (her friends came into town and i really dont have a car here at school so i have to borrow one).

And after that day things just get weird. She sits next to me everyday and still says hi or whatever, but she wont start any conversations. She wont really say anything, she always tries to act busy like studies real vigorously. I dont know what the hell to make of it. It really is just bizarre. Like she doesn't wait for me to walk her out to the bus stop anymore. I even called her to study once she kind of said she wasnt going to study, but this doesnt mean much because i wasnt going to either and her response was immediate, im pretty sure she really wasnt studying. I dont know what to make of it, I mean i thought PMS for a while then i realized it doesnt last for two weeks and if it does that's just really f*cked up and i dont think i would have ever dated a girl for more than a month if that was true...

I have a few theories, 1. This is all in my head like all my girl friends tell me it is. But i doubt it for some reason. 2. Mid-terms were taken the past two weeks, high levels of stress. 3. She is extremely shy and maybe she just has never had a guy get this close to her, but she is pretty good looking. 4. She doesnt feel comfortable dating me here and she would rather back at home, and this would be cool as sh*t with me because i kind of feel the same way i just dont want her to lose interest in me having to wait that long. 5. Somehow this girl lost interest, but i dont know, i didnt make a mistake anywhere i dont think. This just doesnt seem possible. Other guys hit on her all the time and i just watch and kind of laugh at it in private.

So guys help me here. My experience with this shy girl BS is pretty much slim to none, maybe one girl in high school like when i was a sophomore or something....
 

MikeYikes122

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Well thanks to insomnia and frustration over midterms ive come up with maybe another possibility after kind of surfing around here, some stuff i didn't bring to my attention.

Well, she is pretty hot, like a 9.25 maybe, maybe im being a little generous, maybe not, but i realized now that hot girls are pretty insecure. Maybe she's so concerned and so insecure that she is too scared of screwing up so she just keeps her mouth shut all the time. It sounds like a stretch though and maybe a stupid theory i come up with late at night... Ohh well i need to go to bed, i will check this thread again after class tomorrow... Thanks in advance
 

confus4ever

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My best advice is to make her feel comfortable. Try to "open the air" around you both.
 

MikeYikes122

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I guess I see what you mean. That's kind of an obvious thing, but im glad you brought it to my attention because I may have forgotten about it easily. Does anyone else have anymore advice here? I could really use it...
 
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