I was at a social gathering recently and my best friend's girlfriend asked him straight up if he would rather hear about potential guys hitting on her or not. It made me think and I realized I don't know the answer either. What should you respond if your girlfriend asks that?
Should you want to hear about guys hitting on your girlfriend?
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I think it's best to just assume they do (because they do), espcially when you're not around as the boyfriend. Ex boyfriends are the biggest culprits I've found; usually texting or facebooking, etc. Orbiters are also very blatant 'likers' and commentators on social media, but they're hardly cause for concern. Colleagues will be the same. I don't let it bother me. The moment you do let it get to you, you've lost the battle, frame disintegrated, probably never to be seen again. Jealousy, among all other things, is probably the biggest faux pas.
If a girls asks, I'd say 'Of course they do darling, look how fit you are', in a very non-commital, blase tone.
By being very friendly with other women you meet in her presence, even her friends, you can incite them to flirt openly with you as well. That means you'd never have to ask the question in return. You demonstrate rather than explicate your value. I'd probably draw the line at her family though!
This girl in the OP was only trying to get a rise out of the guy. She was basically telling him that it happens and wanted to see his reaction in front of everyone. Pretty blatant sh!t test.
If a girls asks, I'd say 'Of course they do darling, look how fit you are', in a very non-commital, blase tone.
By being very friendly with other women you meet in her presence, even her friends, you can incite them to flirt openly with you as well. That means you'd never have to ask the question in return. You demonstrate rather than explicate your value. I'd probably draw the line at her family though!
This girl in the OP was only trying to get a rise out of the guy. She was basically telling him that it happens and wanted to see his reaction in front of everyone. Pretty blatant sh!t test.
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Great response thanks. Great line to use if that ever comes up as well. I feel like the comeback would be something like "so do you want me to tell you or not?". To which in that case you just say "no because i already know they do"? The reason I'm asking is because i see a girl actually telling you all this as pretty comfortable with being open with you and certainly better than if she were willingly hiding it? Granted she could also just lie to you.
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"I already know they do; they are men" [which insinuates that you do it too, because you are a man]. Script, officially flipped.
Sometimes in this type of situation, where it's such a blatant sh!t test and they're pushing the issue, I simply call them out, straight up, with something like 'Are you trying to test me?', in a very playful way, with a big fat grin on my face. You should see them squirm and turn in to the little girls that they really are in their own subconscious. For me this is one of the most powerful extinguishers of any sh!t test - simply call their hand. I garuntee, 99% of the time, they'll deny and then fold and the conversation will revert to normal. So few men are aware even of the concept of a woman's test, let alone how to identify and deal with one, women I've met are immediately dumbfounded by a man who openly identifies them to her face.
If it escalates further or she continues, something very dismissive like, 'This is a pretty boring conversation', usually ties things up, beacuse it is boring when they test like that in public. Just women showing everyone up, mainly themselves.
"I already know they do; they are men" [which insinuates that you do it too, because you are a man]. Script, officially flipped.
Sometimes in this type of situation, where it's such a blatant sh!t test and they're pushing the issue, I simply call them out, straight up, with something like 'Are you trying to test me?', in a very playful way, with a big fat grin on my face. You should see them squirm and turn in to the little girls that they really are in their own subconscious. For me this is one of the most powerful extinguishers of any sh!t test - simply call their hand. I garuntee, 99% of the time, they'll deny and then fold and the conversation will revert to normal. So few men are aware even of the concept of a woman's test, let alone how to identify and deal with one, women I've met are immediately dumbfounded by a man who openly identifies them to her face.
If it escalates further or she continues, something very dismissive like, 'This is a pretty boring conversation', usually ties things up, beacuse it is boring when they test like that in public. Just women showing everyone up, mainly themselves.
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i actually told my visiting ex to stop her "sh1t tests", fvcked her 5 minutes later
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As a woman, I am excited to see and and be with my man. To continually have to spend time updating him on how I have been hit on would be a complete drag. I want to focus on my man. I don't want to talk about other men that expressed interest in me. Who cares? I don't. I am with my man and happy to be so.
If a man I was with required such conversations, over and over, I'd likely move on. Too insecure for me. Waste of our time together, in my opinion. I don't want to talk about the latest men who approached me. I want to focus on my man and on enjoying our time together.
If a man I was with required such conversations, over and over, I'd likely move on. Too insecure for me. Waste of our time together, in my opinion. I don't want to talk about the latest men who approached me. I want to focus on my man and on enjoying our time together.
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I've gotten this from a GF every once in awhile. She'll be at the bar, then come home to hangout and said "x" creeper guy hit on me. It's a great chance to shut it down with disinterest or agree and amplify and cut it off that way.
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Just answer the question and say 'no'. Don't give her any draw out reasons, you just are not interested in hearing about clueless dudes hitting on her.
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Not even that. It's not needed. She's making a little jab saying that she thinks she's still high value enough to get a new boyfriend. Ignore and say "that's cute". In that situation, even amplifying too much is too much attention about said girl
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Girl asked me that, I replied "just tell me about it when you give him your number" thats the only time I need to know.
My response would be: Why do you ask?
I don't care either way if men are hitting on a woman I'm dating. I know that most men are thirsty faggots, so if I'm dating a woman that isn't hideous its pretty much guaranteed she will have a line of thirsty betas drooling over her. Yesterdays news.
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True PK. I know that guys hit on and/or chat up my gf while I'm not around. On maybe two occasions she's told me about some random dweeb that hit on her at Starbucks or some creeper that was staring at her at a red light. She comes home and fvcks me...that's what matters
Who said you should know the "answer" to a girl's emotional question? It's not math bro. It's a baiting question. If he says no. He doesn't care about her. If he says yes. He is jealous and insecure.
The girl is asking
(1) Do you want me to not get under skin and not cause any drama? or
(2) Do you want me to tell you I'm so beautiful and wanted that other guys will do anything to have sex with me, so you may both fight over me and I stay in the background remaining beautiful and wanted?
"Sure. Every time you tell me drop $1,000 into my account."
MrWood
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learning to answer sh!t tests without a yes/no is a skill we all need to work on:
I actually like using the phrase "sh!t test"..
Why ask me such sh!t question?
her: would you like if I told you about all the guys that hit on me 'cuz im so hot?
me: are you really trying to put some sh!t test to me? (or: you can stop with your sh!t fvcking test)
this +1
I actually like using the phrase "sh!t test"..
Why ask me such sh!t question?
her: would you like if I told you about all the guys that hit on me 'cuz im so hot?
me: are you really trying to put some sh!t test to me? (or: you can stop with your sh!t fvcking test)
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If the guy wants to know he's insecure. If she girl is discussing this without being prompted then she's probably insecure. Good points.
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Yep, pretty much a given. Hell, even hideous women sometimes have guys chasing them, maybe not a line of them, but still more than one guy typically.
It shouldn't even be discussed, and if she's bringing it up then she's ****ing with you, most likely. Or trying to get your jealous. SHe's insecure or playing games. WOmen know how this type of information makes most guys act. She might be doing it to test you, in which case you act unphased by it, or tell her firmly not to bring it up again (not sure how the latter would work).
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it only matters if she's intentionally hiding it.
i'd tell her that if it comes up it comes up, if it doesn't come up, it doesn't come up, don't sweat it.
it doesn't matter if 1,000,000 guys hit on her if she tells them all to **** off, thinks nothing of it, and doesn't think it's a big enough deal to make a thing out of telling you
what matters is if she's intentionally trying to ignore it(the only reason your gf would want to specifically avoid telling you is if she responded positively to some guy's flirting), mention it(for your attention/jealousy/to mess with you), play it up(for your attention/jealousy/to mess with you), or play it down (because she wants to keep talking to a guy who's clearly hitting on her)
i'd tell her that if it comes up it comes up, if it doesn't come up, it doesn't come up, don't sweat it.
it doesn't matter if 1,000,000 guys hit on her if she tells them all to **** off, thinks nothing of it, and doesn't think it's a big enough deal to make a thing out of telling you
what matters is if she's intentionally trying to ignore it(the only reason your gf would want to specifically avoid telling you is if she responded positively to some guy's flirting), mention it(for your attention/jealousy/to mess with you), play it up(for your attention/jealousy/to mess with you), or play it down (because she wants to keep talking to a guy who's clearly hitting on her)
