@lizardking82 I'll respond to your post about getting angry and lashng out.
That is the exact and only behavior that caused me to end things with my ex. When he got upset with me he would lash out angrily at me wherever we were. In public or in private it didn't matter he was going to take me to task for the Injustice that he perceived.
I talked to him about the situation, and let him know that I was looking for a man who knew how to problem-solve, who knew how to control his aggression, who knew how to deal with his emotion.
Recognize that the large possibility here is that the aggressive male does not know how to deal with his emotion well, so he turns the feelings into aggression, because it is easier to act on aggression.
I also let him know that I found his behavior embarrassing, and that it made me feel as if I could not be out in public with him because he saw no problem causing a scene and bringing embarrassment to me. I never told him this, but his behavior, in my eyes, was very low quality, and low class. It's simply not what I consider the behavior of a top-tier individual.
Consider this, when you are angry take a moment, take as long as you need to sit with the anger and come to understand exactly what it is that is upsetting you. And then when you are calm approach her and explain to her what is going on with you and that situation. Then let her answer you and react as she sees fit. If she takes you seriously and wants to deal with it then you'll know that she takes the budding relationship seriously and has more of a spirit of working through things with you rather than arguing with you.
If you find yourself with a female that consistently upset you to this point, I suggest you reevaluate if this is really the female for you. People are who they are, and I really believe that we should pick someone that we are naturally compatible with. Not someone that we have to consistently Force compatibility with.
Good luck
I will also add that he and I would still be together today if he had just made the decision to do a little personal work and learn how to problem-solve with me better. He saw his behavior as very masculine and very appropriate and saw no reason to change it. He understood that one of the outcomes of that decision was that we were not going to be together. From my perspective, that really sucked, but I had to honor the fact that he felt he was just fine. I had to accept the fact that he and I were just incompatible on that level.