Should I tone down the negging?

Rampage1

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A girl I am seeing has started complaining to me about me insulting her. I sometimes give her little insults thats are meant to be jokes, as well as plenty of compliments. It is in my personailty to tease her though and sometimes I can't help myself, I sometimes take negs too far. However, I feel that if I stop doing this things become a little boring and I get less amusement, I can't be nice all the time. Should I stop 'negging' her, even though I enjoy it. I don't want to give the poor girl a complex, even though she is smoking hot and said that she is not used to people insulting her as boys usually be really nice to her.

Should I tone it down, or keep teasing her??
 

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Rampage1 said:
A girl I am seeing has started complaining to me about me insulting her. I sometimes give her little insults thats are meant to be jokes, as well as plenty of compliments. It is in my personailty to tease her though and sometimes I can't help myself, I sometimes take negs too far. However, I feel that if I stop doing this things become a little boring and I get less amusement, I can't be nice all the time. Should I stop 'negging' her, even though I enjoy it. I don't want to give the poor girl a complex, even though she is smoking hot and said that she is not used to people insulting her as boys usually be really nice to her.

Should I tone it down, or keep teasing her??
Negs are not a tool. Negs are not a technique. Negs are not a trick. If you see a neg as a tool, technique, or trick, you are going to use it wrong and the girl will see it.

If you use a neg in the above way, you will automatically come off as insulting.

Don't *try* to neg.

When you truly realize that you are the Prize to be won, and that a girl's looks alone are not enough to win you, then you will automatically qualify her and *neg* her in a teasing way (not in an insulting way).

Guys try to take the shortcut, instead of trying to be a high-quality male, they resort to trying to ape the behaviors that a high-quality male would do - neg.

Focus on improving yourself, and you will be one step ahead of all the guys who are too lazy to improve themselves and thus rely on tricks and tactics instead.

Trust me, the girls will be able to tell which guys are truly the high quality ones, and which ones are the pretenders.
 

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I understand you man.

Dont stop. Nothing wrong with some teasing and jokes. She might try to make you feel guilty or go pyscho back at you, just laugh and give her a hug. Whenever she pulls something of this nature i ask her if 'huggies or cuddles will make it better?'

Nothing i hate more than when a girl cant take a joke.

If you give in and say sorry and stop teasing like she wants, you have been manipulated and have become a wuss thats scared of her dissaproval. :nono:

HOWEVER, i too had this problem and i found a solution. Rotate your teasing topics. Dont always call her fat, switch it up and call her stupid for a while. Focusing too much on 1 thing could indeed lead to a complex or an eating disorder. Now that would be hilarious but too far...
 

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Ease said:
HOWEVER, i too had this problem and i found a solution. Rotate your teasing topics. Dont always call her fat, switch it up and call her stupid for a while. Focusing too much on 1 thing could indeed lead to a complex or an eating disorder. Now that would be hilarious but too far...
LMAO. That is hilarious. But what happened me was she asked me in cinema if she was getting fat. And I joked saying 'yeah look at that big double chin of yours'. She had the slightest bit of fat gained over the xmas period so I just let her know about it jokingly, and then she said that I shouldn't be saying that and that she was cross with me. However, she just started the gym there yday so I must have really struck a chord. :p

I think I will tone it down, but generally I like to tease her about anything as much as I can, its fun to me and she likes it too as long as I don't get too insulting. No more fat jokes :D
 
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