should I tell the girl... (confused)

[ego]

I went to a party the last Friday.

I'm pretty new here, and this was my first real try on the field.

To make a long story short, it went well. Ended up making out with a 7/10 and another 7.5-8/10 (All I Could remember is that one of the girls was good looking, and the other one was even better looking ).

I got their numbers, and told them that i would call someday to get together.

The first girl didn't bring her cellphone, so she asked me to SMS my number as soon as I got home. I waited until Monday night, and then sent my sms + telling her that I maybe would call her some day this week. She sends an sms back asking me to call her, but didn't send anything back (don't want to start up friendly sms conversations).

The other girl was a little bit harder to catch at the party, so i've decided to wait until Friday or something before calling her. She got my number on the spot, so no need for sms there.

Now to the real point;

I'll probably call the girl that i sent an sms to first, and ask if she wants to meet up on saturday/sunday.

The other, more beautiful girl, is the one that i'll wait with. I'll probably call her during the weekend to ask if she wants to do something the next week or weekend. (In 1.5 week)


THE QUESTION:

Is it a good idea to tell GIRL 1 that i'm thinking about dating GIRL 2 - Or tell GIRL 2 that i dated GIRL 1 the week before - And that i met them both at the same party?

The both girls will see that they're not alone, that i'm a guy that is meeting other girls,and that they'll have to fight to get me.

I think this would work better on the more hot chick, since she's the one that is harder to get. Not making a big deal out of it, but just telling her something like:

"I'm thinking about meeting another girl someday too. Some girl that i met on the same party where you and I got together".

Or

"4 days ago I met another girl that went to the same party as you."

Or

"I met this other nice girl at the party too, but i think i liked you better".

As you can see you can turn it into something positive - But also something negative:

This could acctually come off as wrong in different ways - if the girls believe that i'm the player-type.

What do you guys think? Should I, or should I not, mention that i met another girl on the same party?



btw. excuse my english, it's not my first-language.

 

[Sexy_Malibu]

I wouldn't say anything. You don't owe either of them any explanations after only one date. They should assume you are dating other people. They don't need the specifics of it.

But what I would do is find out from someone else who was at the party, if the two girls know each other or are friends. If they are good friends... then that might create a problem. If that is the case, then date the one you like the most first... in case the second one decides "I can't date him because my friend dated him".

If they are friendly with each other, they may already know that you are dating them both (especially since you made out with both of them there - someone was bound to notice). So I wouldn't deny it if asked, but I wouldn't bring it up.

If they ASK you, then you can say "yeah but I like you better" playfully. But don't bring it up otherwise.

 

[Climax]

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umm.... well 1st of all by telling GIRL 2 that u are thinking of meeting this "other girl" will definatelly play as a negative in GIRL 2's eyes. I can nearly garantee you that she will think of u as some playa and that she will just be a number to you.

Dont get me wrong, telling GIRL 2 about GIRL 1 is not the wrong thing to do, actually, its the right thing to do, but its the WAY that u tell her that counts.

An example of what u should say should be somewhere along the lines of " You remember at that party when i met you, well i also met this other rather attractive girl called (name), she seemed like a nice girl, but with you, i guess something just clicked and that there was something special about you" ...

Now... if u see it or not, in those few words u have made GIRL 2 feel special and by u "choosing" her over the other girl makes it clear to her that u arent some desperate guy & that u CAN get other attractive girls, but u "chose" her.

One of my personall secrets that i use and might i add that it works like MAGIC, is that u need to make the girl feel special right from the start. ( But be carefull not to be TOO friendly, or you will come out as being "desperate")

So overall, YES , telling GIRL 2 about girl 1 is the right choice to make, and if u play your cards right, will also work to your advantage with GIRL 2.

Well, i hope that my advice will be of help to you & i hope to hear from you about the progress of your situation

Good luck...

Laterz...

 

[MRomeo99]

Don't mention it, just have fun, have a life, do what you will, and make no excuses for it. If she asks, answer honestly otherwise you owe her no explanations for anything.

R

 

[bangoker]

Originally posted by ego
I went to a party the last Friday.

(All I Could remember is that one of the girls was good looking, and the other one was even better looking ).

hmmm are you sure they are hot??

lol, because the way you make it sound, it looks like all you should remember is that you were drunk and later you were..... more drunk ....jk

 

[ego]

aequitas: I get your point. And I also agree with you. I will, however, not tell any of the girls about the other one - since it just will make the situation more complicated.

"If they ASK you, then you can say "yeah but I like you better" playfully."

That's what I was thinking too.

"hmmm are you sure they are hot??

lol, because the way you make it sound, it looks like all you should remember is that you were drunk and later you were..... more drunk ....jk"

Hot swedish chicks. No doubt.

Haha, I didn't drink that much since I wanted to put focus on the girls instead of throwing up and mix drinks. After all I gotta thank the guy on this board that came up with the answer "Nah, I don't buy my woman", when a girl asks for alcohol. Since that was what I started off my conversation with GIRL 2 with.

 

[NewMan]

Don't call her on Friday or Saturday (Girl 2). Either call her on Thursday or Monday). That's my opinion.

Now you NEVER offer up to a woman that your dating someone else. You can leave very subtle hints that your dating someone else....

Example. Let's say your going to get dinner - whilst driving there you pass a resteraunt you can say something like...

"That's a great resteraunt. They have the best XYZ - it's awesome. Plus it's a great place to take someone - there's one table in the back that has a great view of the city"....