should i tell her im a virgin?

[lordson]

i voted dont tell, but my gf new that she was my first ever, but shes already been expreinced

my advice would be to not think about it too much when youre doing it

my first time at third base just happened, didn't think about it, didn't plan it and it was great, did what felt natural

and she sed afterwards how surprised at how good i was at it, and shell never doubt my abilitites

just go with the flow mate, even if its not great, itll still be good

 

[jimhardy]

Personally I don't believe in ever telling anyone you are a virgin - you don't stand to gain anything by it. You need to remember that having sex is an instinctual ability. Most guys technical ability to fu<k doesn't actually get much better, they just get more and more comfortable with it (talking about penetrative sex only here guys, doing anything else does require practice). The absolute key to having a good time in bed is to have fun, if you are worrying she's will be able to tell. If she enjoys your company, and likes you, enough to go to bed with you and you keep the same attitude that got her into her birthday suit, she's going to enjoy it even if you fumble about a bit. However if you suddenly drop your confident attitude with that winning smile and get nervous, worried, hesitant she's going to think that you are lousy whilst in bed.

If you have your attitude sorted the technical part is easy. Just don't do anything complicated and stay away from the T'n'A. If she has to force you there, you look good.

jIm

 

[Skydiver43127]

Nope, you shouldn't. Know why?

The women judge sexual experience of men based on their behaviour, not their actual performance in bed. If you're using 1% of the advise presented on this site, she will never ever consider the thought you could be a virgin. If you tell her she will reassess everything you've done so far, trying to see how you could have "faked it" and, if you're not very congruent, she will find something.

By the way, as terminology goes, I don't think a man who has jacked off is a virgin. The difference is all in your head. I believe chick got this right - the man is a virgin if he acts as one.

 

[thederekeffect1]

I voted - Don't tell her. Women want a man with experience. That doesn't mean tell her you're like - only the biggest pimp in town that gets more sex than any man here. Just keep it to yourself. she doesn't need to know. If she asks, just imply that she'll find out after she sleeps with you.

Of course, the girl i lost my virginity to, I told. But she was a slut, she was really horny, I was desperate, and I was going to get some either way.

 

[Tazman]

Honestly, think about the reason you'd want to tell her. Do you think it's going to make her cut you some slack just in case she doesn't enjoy it? Unless you're like 16 or something there's no good reason to mention it.

 

[bman]

theres no reason to tell her, rub one out before the date and you will last long. you should be good to go.

 

[Unregistered]

theres no reason to tell her, rub one out before the date and you will last long. you should be good to go.

Better yet (and just to be safe) rub one out during foreplay. Just be discrete.

Actually, during the loss of my virginity I actually rubbed one out during the act of coitus itself! I pretended like a ladybug landed on my weiner, rubbed out a quick one, then went back in. Lasted a good 3 minutes longer, too.

 

[brucevangeorge]

You know what! I dont agree with you guys at all! He SHOULD tell her.

The guy obviously knows what he's doing. If he wants to tell her he is a virgin then man. GO TO IT!

Tell her youre a virgin and spend the rest of the night by yourself... and a magazine of course.

You dont want pu$$y? That's okay with me man. Just send her over. Im going to show her a better time than you anyway.


Have fun losing a chick cause youre a dumbass. But hey.. you got my address, right?

 

[nismo-4]

Fake it till you make it! Don't tell a girl you're a virgin. NEVER EVER!:nono:

Hope this helps. Good luck!:rockon:

 

[Rash]

In my first intercourse I didn't tell the girl well the woman she was 6 years older than me and with experience, before the sex I was too nervous that I couldn't eat the whole day, to boost my confidence and to have a good solid sexual endurance I took a sexual enhancer (I wont mention the name maybe its against the forum rules) after the foreplay I was surprised how my instinct kicked in and took over my brain and I was doing things without thinking , the experience was not great nor bad but I was somehow happy with the result because I was new, plus its not a rule that the next sexual experiences will be better than the first one! last year I had an experience where nothing turned me ON!
Some things that will help you:
-Don't drink energy drinks like red bull or Gatorade it will make you nervous!! I have been there.
-Boil some chick-peas and drink the soup with some shrimps and fava-beans , eat this 4 hours before sex because you want to release the gaz before action.
-Don't go to the gym before sex you will be too tired and sore.
-Have plenty of sleep and drink a lot of water (don't drink coffee).
-Learn some sex positions from porn movie preferably not hardcore (I did this the first time).

and yea DON'T TELL HER because during the sex you and her will be obsessed with the idea of you doing it for the first time.

Good luck man have fun its just sex, animals can do it hehe!!

 

[slitherjef]

Uh yeah... some chick asked me if I was (thought she was interested in me anyway) and I said yes. She kind of went, Oh my god! Almost if she was disappointed or something. When I asked if that was a problem, she said yes, how could I be a virgin!? So I got a little ****y and said if its that much of a problem, she should do something about it then.

Things got a bit awkward for a bit and we stopped talking for a bit. I think I got friendzoned a couple days after that, when I tried to get her to hang out (I really did want to just hang out) she said she was busy. So, we still talk a little bit, but the touching and stuff has ceased, though I have caught her looking at me a few times, giving me side-ways glances from a bit of a distance.

I think when I told her this, she figured I was not a sexual person, about the only thing I can think of. Oh well. I know better now

 

[JDA70]

Dude, do yourself a favor and tell her that you have never
done it before and you would like her to teach you how.
Do that After you've been to 3rd base and she has had an orgasm.
And when your doing it ask plenty of question.
Do you like this? Does this turn you on?
The good ones will tell you exactly what they like and
want.

If you don't tell her and you do so so which you will you
most likely won't be getting any more from her.

So be a man and let her know your a newbie.

Oh and make sure you tell us about it
with something like " I told her I was a virgin"
so we can flame the people that told you not to say anything.

 

[Ace of Flames]

Well, for myself, it was weird. I'd already known the girl for years, and she knew I was a virgin. She was experienced, as well. When we got to the deed itself, she was really enthusiastic about it, even knowing I was a newbie. She would smile and say things like "So how was your first BJ?", right after she just did it. And like when I fingered her, she said "Wow, you're so good at that! We're gonna have to do this again later." Afterwards, she said she was glad she was my first, and that I was just fine at doin' the deed.

I guess I'm a special case. Under normal circumstances, I'd say keep it to yourself. She doesn't need to know. Maybe if you end up dating and it turns into a serious relationship, you can let her know she was your first. Maybe. It would have to be during an intimate moment. But overall, its your business, so keep it that way.