Should i tell her i snooped her phone?

[El Payaso]

I agree with the first part. However if she comes asking you why you're acting cold then you should tell her what you saw, and be ready to let her go.

I'd rather let her hamster run to death for a while then tell her. Telling her outright can also be a good strategy but you have yo walk away instantaneously. Don't give her the time of day for any "discussion" or her to try to rationalize with you.

 

[Die Hard]

Please stop responding to Zorg, guys. He clearly doesn't want to accept the fact that he has to leave this girl and is convincing himself that there might be a chance that things aren't as bad as they seem. The more you reply to him, the more you reinforce this self delusion of his.

Just let him crash and burn, we can't get through to him.

 

[zorg198]

Die Hard

I am aware of what's going on , i did my walking . she's the one who want to talk with me and not me.
I told her i don't have a problem to talk. the damage is done , i lost my faith in her and no matter what she would do it won't change it.

For now i leave her as a f@ck buddy because i only see her on the weekends anyways. during the week i don't see i'm planing to spin plates and find another girl.

I'm not delusion myself that she is not lying and she is truly into me and not this guy.+
She already lied to me what's stopping her to lie to me again?

Joe.

 

[tripod23]

zorg,,,,,,watch what she says and see what her actions are......if she says shes going to do something does she follow through........or does she come up with some bs why she cant........you can smell these cheating lying ladies a mile away if you know how to read her , the problem you get faced with is what i am going through right now .......is that once you see first hand what they are capable of saying and doing ...you have a totally different view on the princesses that are out there , for me its left me with serious issues of trust , it will more than likely take me a while to trust someone again , but having said that , these situations are sent to teach us , so i am greatfull of the lesson.............luckily for me it only cost my pocket a few hundred £££ , but the deep scars it leaves you with is a mother fvcker..............but being able to pick yourself up and move forward is the one thing every man needs to do once they have been stung...........is shows character.

good luck

 

[nkh78h]

You see what i mean,.... I read things like this along with the hundreds of cases just like this and wonder to myself... Is the headache, heartache, anxiety even worth it to be in a LTR in todays world with modern women? I mean really.. is it.

What exactly do you mean modern women? Is it the social media (instragram, fb, twitter) with hundreds of men trying to get at them. The easy texting? Rather than pre-web when couples were having affairs with co-workers, ex's or PUA's?

There's still tons of women out there who adore their bf's. I work in an office where all i see is these HB8-HB10'S in their early 20s-30s that have are constantly talking about their awesome bf's, displaying tons of pics of them together in their cubicle, etc...Only the *****s hide it or keep their bf or husband a secret and they been around forever i imagine.

 

[GotED?]

As i stood there, I asked her if she was talking to anyone else and if there was another guy? She said "No Baby! What are you talking about!? Theres no other guy and im not talking to Any guys!" You could imagine how i felt deep inside when i knew she was lying right to my face. She even began to tear to show how honest she was being with me as she gave me a hug and told me she loved me. Im tellin you, i was close to taking a slap right to her face.... I took the printed conversations out and said "What's this then?" There was silence for a good 3 minutes as she read through them. The first words out of her mouth were.. "How did you get this?" While refusing looking at me in the eyes and that doesnt even scratch the surface of how bad and deceiving i found out she was as the breakup progressed.

Thanks to that experience, As well as similar to my best friend and other friends, I will NEVER trust a female with what she says. They will lie worse than satan himself. Dont believe one word of what shes telling you.

You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to In2theGame again.


In2TheGame - thanks for sharing this past with us, this is GOLD - opens my sometimes innocent eyes to the heretics that walks leaving a stinky slime trail like a snail with their dripping gold-plated mangina.

Hard for me to imagine something like this happening as I haven't directly encountered it yet. Certainly makes me think twice about women again in the future. Appreciate the share.

Exodus

 

[Thundernuts]

Exodus you ought to know better than most. Women will lie like pros to keep their true nature hidden from the world.

I believe it is their true nature in its its hideous forms that has brought us to sosuave.

 

[GotED?]

Exodus you ought to know better than most. Women will lie like pros to keep their true nature hidden from the world.

I believe it is their true nature in its its hideous forms that has brought us to sosuave.

Not getting religious here - but it makes sense why the Bible begin with Adam being tempted by the root of all evil to partake of the apple from the tree:

A woman.

Eve probably threw Adam a sh!t test that he failed by saying something like she's got PMS cramps and need an apple to make apple juice to help the pain go away (of course Adam was too ignorant to know it was cranberry juice instead - total AFC).

Adam lost his frame and subjected to the rule of the woman's sh!t test, and God forever banned Adam from having anymore snakey activity with Eve.

That's my story and I am sticking to it.

Exodus

 

[devilkingx2]

only confront her for the purpose of getting her side of the story and closure before the break up

expect lies and denial, reversals and begging are both possible, don't be swayed by her story and definitely break up with her and don't change your mind

 

[Frogster]

3 months.

You never said whether you've both agreed to be exclusive.

 

[zorg198]

3 months.

You never said whether you've both agreed to be exclusive.

We didn't agree or talked about it.,

 

[Thundernuts]

Well sorry to say but there you go. You put yourself on lockdown but she didn't do the same. I always have the talk with girl I always let them its not exclusive until we both agree it is.

 

[Night-hawk]

Not getting religious here - but it makes sense why the Bible begin with Adam being tempted by the root of all evil to partake of the apple from the tree:

A woman.

Eve probably threw Adam a sh!t test that he failed by saying something like she's got PMS cramps and need an apple to make apple juice to help the pain go away (of course Adam was too ignorant to know it was cranberry juice instead - total AFC).

Adam lost his frame and subjected to the rule of the woman's sh!t test, and God forever banned Adam from having anymore snakey activity with Eve.

That's my story and I am sticking to it.

Exodus

I can't quite recall the source - it may be from the book The Predatory Female - but the idea is that Adam would rather have chosen to follow Eve and taste of temptation- against his better moral compass, fall from grace and abandon Eden to go with Eve to walk the desolate planes, out of fear of being left to live alone in Eden.

 

[VikingKing]

Zorg. You have been told what you should do. Now make your choice.

Sosuave will be here when you come back.

And we will drag you kicking and screaming (via our advice) to make it through.

 

[Immortality]

Hello,

I opened a thread about me thinking a girl i'm dating 3 months is propbebaly cheating on me with another dude.

Yesterday i cam to her house by surprise , she was surprised to see me , she was on her way to the shower . she took her phone with her so i couldn't see anything .

I asked her was she on the way out ? she said no.

I looked over her phone and saw a conversation between her and the dude wanting to meet.
She says he's a friend blah blah blah , i asked her will she accept to meet him with me , she got all upset.

Today i walked away from her house and told her i can't be with someone who is not telling the truth and hide things.

She keep saying she didn't want to meet although i saw in the text she is.

Should i tell her i snooped her phone and saw the msg?
Should i even send her a msg or call her? or wait for her to call me.

Joe.

I didn't read a single other post, BUT I can almost guarantee she has feelings for him. Telling her you snooped will ruin the relationship if she IS telling the truth. That's what ruined my relationship :/ however, a devious/manipulative way you can find out is to create a fake profile and hit her up on it. This is really low, but at the same time you can't really confront her with the issue because 1 - She would then feel you wouldn't trust her and 2 - It makes you look creepy. I had a friend of mine play the role as the fake profile person and deal with trying to game my ex. She replied with "I would never cheat on my BF" and then followed it with a block lol. I used that as a test to see if she was faithful cuz just like you I didn't believe a WORD that came out of her mouth. In the end she did stop playing phone games with ppl, but she would constantly lie and snake her way into doing other things. She would lie about friends who she really liked but wouldn't date and she would purposely hide her crush'es ect. It's possible she is telling the truth, but confronting her either way will ruin things. She will either lie to you or tell you that she thinks of him as a friend. If she tells you she loves him or some weird crap I would be shocked. Women deceive all the time, I can't imagine one being upfront about their ways.