Originally posted by HB_Hunter
This is what i've found recently ...Guys you don't need to be here to get advice on how to get girls ...it's all inside , based on instincts and common sense . You just follow your nature , Express your emotions anytime with any girl but don't be gushy . This is why i challenge the core of sosuave now . yes i learned but i also used to philosophize , hide my emotions and make something that should be fun and enjoyable like work .
I've found that i feel relaxed and satisfied when i tell and show the girl what i feel (call her on her bull**** or express my feelings for her) and Coming from a culture that most of the girls are afraid of getting hurt or hide they true feelings untill it's very obvious and you tell them ...they like this ..it shows that you are bold but my question for you Miss is :
When do you risk emotionally , throw your ego on the line and tell her exactley how do you feel ?? In cases of infatuation also ...
Have a guy that you had minimum interest once told you before that he likes you and tell you his genuine feelings and made his intentions clear then you were surprisingly shocked and get involved with him ?? talking LTR
Don't ya agree with me that expressing and telling your genuine feelings that you have inside ..not being gushy though but also not fearing whether the girl will reject you or not anytime is the right way (not so fast though when starting a relationship) ??
I think Having the gutts to show and tell the other person that you are interested is the key . after all we are human beings with feelings , desires that we can't divide ourselves from . let me hear your thoughts and i also wanted to discuss with you something but your pm wasn't available .
I turned off PMs in reaction to being ordered by someone to use them for certain things. I don't like being told what to do and will do just the opposite.
Besides...the stupid PM box is so small that if I use it I constantly have to delete stuff and it gets annoying.
In regards to guys and hiding their interest...I'm aware of this happening twice to me. The first was with a much younger guy who I liked as a friends but just wasn't at all attracted to. He would try to do favors for me, like babysitting. At the time he did that, I wasn't aware of his feelings and I was engaged at the time I met him. I thought he wanted extra money, so I let him babysit because the kids liked him and he treated them well. I never let him watch them for free, though. I never led him on in any way, either...and NEVER took advantage of him. In fact, I did more favors for him than he did for me. He never told me of his feelings. I learned of them from someone else. Once I knew I took extra special care NOT to do or say anything to make him think I liked him or was interested. Sadly, he died a few years ago in a fire. He thought there were children inside a house so he went in to try to save them.
I could not have had a relationship with him because I just wasn't attracted to him at all.
The second time was a guy who I WAS attracted to. I tried my best to show him I was interested and I DID want him to ask me out. Unfortunately, he was a bit of a mess and kept taking an ex back, breaking up again, taking her back, etc. I didn't feel it was a good time to jump into that kind of situation. He came close to saying something a couple of times, but never did. I'm very old fashioned and will NOT make the first move under ANY circumstances. I actually did offer him a free ticket to a concert I was going to AND a ride...and he wanted to go, but refused to borrow money from me to go. He was a bonehead for that, lol. Anyhow, if he had of actually made a move I would definitely have gotten involved with him. We were kinda friends and I really liked him a lot and his cousin was my best friend at the time. A couple of people told me that he liked me and I knew he did by his actions...but he must have been too afraid of rejection to make a move.
Did that answer your question? I really am not entirely sure what you were asking, but I tried to answer just the same, lol.
