Should I take this as a sign that she isnt interested in me ?

[Brighty]

Basically friday I asked her if she was going to the football game and she said yes and I told her I'd prolly see her there. Too bad I'm a cowardly bytch when it comes to approaching girls surrounded by other guys that I don't know. I went to the game and pretended not to notice her (I was on the stands and she was by the floor), even at one point she turned around and out of my periphral vision it looked like she was looking right at me for a view seconds, but I just focused on the game like a cowardly little punk, just hoping she'd get away from all of her friends and I could talk to her. Well I'm pretty sure she left before the first quarter was over, which was weird.

I dunno, she's basically the most popular girl in her grade and part of me feels like she's out of my league and thats why I'm too shy to go make a move on her while she's surrounded by all of her friends.


Well later that night I posted this on her facebook:

"i didnt see you at the game... or maybe i did but didn't regonize you amongst your sophmore entourage that always follows you around

sucks that we didnt hang out, though, maybe some other time"


and she hasn't responded, but other people have posted on her wall and she's responded to them after I wrote my post on her wall. So pretty solid sign that she isn't interested? Or that she was interested and I ****ed everything over by not making eye contact and approaching her?

 

[War Against Betaism]

She probably read your body language you wimped out. You could probably still be friends with her, though that's just a frustrating reminder that you couldn't get the girl. Though if she is as popular as you say, then she has connections.

 

[Brighty]

She probably read your body language you wimped out. You could probably still be friends with her, though that's just a frustrating reminder that you couldn't get the girl. Though if she is as popular as you say, then she has connections.

Would you say that she would be turned off to me indefinately? Is there no way I can prove her wrong otherwise? I want to be in a relationship with this girl, but if its going to be a pain in the ass to rebuild what I destroyed yesterday then **** it. High school's too short for that. I'm curious to know though if there's anyway I can redeem myself though.

 

[Bvbidd]

Next time you see her talk to her. She'll forget about it eventually.

 

[War Against Betaism]

Would you say that she would be turned off to me indefinately? Is there no way I can prove her wrong otherwise? I want to be in a relationship with this girl, but if its going to be a pain in the ass to rebuild what I destroyed yesterday then **** it. High school's too short for that. I'm curious to know though if there's anyway I can redeem myself though.

I don't know if it turned her off indefinitely. I actually had a very similar experience. Met this girl on myspace, coincidentally he was going to be at my friend's bday party, but he kept on trying to hit on her and gave me no opportunities so I just ignored her most of the party. We actually did say hi, though I've never talked to her since. Didn't respond or nothing.

You probably do still have a chance to prove her otherwise, but I'm guessing you left a bad impression on her.

 

[Axcell]

You shouldn't have sent her that message over Facebook! I would avoid that place on all levels, it's not so great when it comes to leaving messages, and I can explain why. When you leave a message over the internet, you are giving her the opportunity and the choice of whether she should reply to you or not. You are making her the prize rather than making yourself the prize. You want to avoid that on all levels, trust me!

Stop looking at her as the girl who is ten times more popular than you, stop putting yourself down, and stop feeling sorry for yourself. You are the prize, not her, remember that. If it helps, picture her with 20 zits on her face and a tire around her stomach. Not so attractive anymore. Right? Good. Now remember saying those same lines to yourself the next time you approach her. (Yes, you are going to approach her again.)

What you should have done is gone up to her in person the next day, and make it sound like she was the one who wimped out. (When clearly, you know you did lol.)

You could have said something such as:
"Hey, it's too bad I didn't see you the other day.. Were you were too shy to approach me? Don't worry.. I don't bite!"

That's something I thought of in 2 seconds, you could probably come up with something better. The whole point is to be charismatic, confident, and have a big smile when you say it to her. If she still isn't showing any signs of interest, forget her. There are plenty of fish in the sea, and with enough practice, you are bound to catch a mighty big one!

Best of luck, PM me if you have any other questions. Always glad to help.

 

[tucking fypo]

you should of stepped up like a man and took her off her feet in front of those guys/ girls. When i read that i knew that was the right thing to do.

she hasn't responded, but other people have posted on her wall and she's responded to them after I wrote my post on her wall. So pretty solid sign that she isn't interested? Or that she was interested and I ****ed everything over by not making eye contact and approaching her?

answer - i dont think a girl will just hate you and not be intersted just because u didnt make a move in that football game.
If she does like you, that means she would of been disappointed that you DID NOT make a move on her and when that happens girls usually message you with more energy and excitement because they knew they missed something big (that night) and they want to make it up. < nvm about that i think. lol
(or maybe shes just busy or she read your comment but she doesnt know how to respond to it.)

you should of just went up to her and told her to sit with you somewere without her friends. Who cares about her friends, that only makes the feeling better, dont you like it when everyones looking at you espisically her friends? its like you get more attention and you just told all her friends whats up with you and her. you just have to enjoy that moment. The thing is idk how you look like or how confident you are because that plan can go totally wrong if you are not confident/ not that attractive, next time man next time you make a move

 

[Supremo]

Bro don't worry about it.
We all went through that phase where talking to girls was scary.

DON'T BE INTIMIDATED JUST BECAUSE SHE'S POPULAR.

If you can pull off talking to her and it's at a football game... other girls/people will see that and your rep will go up if you aren't known for that.

What helped me talk to attractive/popular girls is to imagine talking to a fat chick. Sounds crude but it works (got it from this forum... props to whoever said it like 2 years ago).

When you talk to a fat chick, you don't give a **** and don't get all nervous.
Just because this chick is popular doesn't mean you can't talk to her.

Popular girls are popular because:
a) They are really hot
b) They are friends with really hot girls

Now, the ones in category "a" are used to being approached and talked to by guys, and also used to seeing guys wuss out because she's hot.
The ones in category "b" are used to seeing their friends being approached by guys, and also sees (sometimes more than the hot girl) guys who wuss out. These girls are more "observers" because, while maybe not the hottest ones around, they hang out with the hot ones.

Either way, you said this girl is hot... if she said she wanted to see you at the game, she was interested. Maybe not attracted, but definitely interested.
By not going up to her, she probably thought you flaked out and went back to the other guys who always talk to her.

Don't worry about Facebook... it's not good that you're checking on her and her friends to see if she's commented them back.

Just DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT.

Get into that mindset.

Learn this affirmation, "I do not care what girls think about me"
repeat it over and over and over in your head.
Do it for a month.

I guarantee that you will learn to actually NOT care what they think... and it will be 10x easier to approach and converse with them; regardless of
how hot they are.

Honestly dude... just go talk to her tomorrow at school. If you don't know her friends, nows a better time than never to meet them.