Should I still be friends with this girl?

[B-Real]

I have known a certain girl for a couple years now. We used to date. She screwed me over pretty bad a couple times. I am now a stronger man because of it. Ok, with that out of the way: She calls me all the time even though she has made it apparent that she does not want to make things like it used to be.

She is such an insecure, selfish, bratty, spoiled girl that she cannot keep friends around. Once they get to know her they realize the kind of person she is and drops her. She is currently living with another guy. She claims they are NOT in a relationship anymore that they are just room mates because she can't afford to pay the bills by herself.

Should I still be friends with this girl? I know it sounds crazy after all I said about her being bratty and spoiled and all that but I just honestly enjoy talking to her. I guess the fact that I pretty much fell for this chick a long time ago makes me habituated to her. I'm sure this is stroking her ego. She has one guy she's living with and one she calls every day. But is this hurting me at all? I mean should I feel obligated to break off contact with her?

I know me and her will never get back together. That is clear. She lives far from me and is planning on moving even farther. I just really like talking to her. I'm not sure if this is a question or a rant but any criticism would be great.

 

[ENIGMA16]

Do what you want. If you enjoy talking to her then why shouldn't you keep talking to her? But don't go further than that; if she screwed you in the past she'd probably do it in the future, so giving her more trust than you have to is a waste of time.

I know most guys on here will either say don't be friends with girls or don't be friends with this one because she sounds crazy, but my position has always been to do what you like and if you like talking to her and hanging out with her then why not? Just make sure it doesn't violate your independence and the fact that you become before this relationship, if that's what you want to call it.

 

[DarthNihilus]

1. She is such an insecure, selfish, bratty, spoiled girl that she cannot keep friends around.

2. She screwed me over pretty bad a couple times

3. She calls me all the time even though she has made it apparent that she does not want to make things like it used to be.

4. I just really like talking to her.

Why do you hate yourself to the point you'd entertain a piece of garbage like this anywhere in your life?

Why do you think a lowlife like this deserves to be your friend?

Why don't you work on breaking your oneitis to this lowlife by persuing other girls as oneitis is the true problem and culprit here, you are not "habitually" attached to her or whatever the fvck, you've just got oneitis and it can be destroyed with time and action but you must act to seek out other girls and you must also let the sands of time wash as much of the memory of this girl from your mind as possible which only TOTAL NO CONTACT can do.

Oh but she makes me feel so good to talk to Nihilus!

Yeah and a crack addict feels great when he's snorting cocaine but the next moment he's in the ER overdosing and dying while blood is pouring out of his nose.

Some things that are deadly to a human being feel good to indulge in but they are still deadly or at least self defeating.

Get a grip man.

You've got severe oneitis.

Fight your way out of it.

Scum like this has no place in a man of worth's life.

 

[1337]

Darthnihilus nailed it on the spot. Hes right, stop talking to her or you will be the only fool amongst all her friends that left her.

 

[sodbuster]

Find another girl you like talking to. Lay with dogs, wake up with fleas. Some studies have shown that your income will be in the middle of your range of friends. So would you hang with homeless bums on the street? IF you ever mention that you talk to her-her old friends will realize there's something wrong with you and spread the word.

 

[thedude4242]

No. **** Her.

 

[Kidquick]

We used to date. She screwed me over pretty bad a couple times.

No.

 

[ENIGMA16]

Yeah listen to them. Not me. I don't know what I was thinking when I wrote that post.

 

[B-Real]

Thanks guys. I need to quit being stupid and face the facts. I just hoped that one day she would realize how much she misses our few good times and want me back. Oh well.

 

[playerone]

She disrespected you.
She has a bad personality.

That's not what you're looking for in a woman, definitely. You may not see it now. Oneitis, or love, to put it in a romantic AFC way, has blinded you. Heed our advice. We have a clearer view simply because we're not trying to get into her pants. Hope that cleared up your mind.

 

[Jean Valjean]

depends if you are really over her ...

if you are over her and you just like to chat with her like a gay guy or girl friend feel free to engage

BUT

if her telling you about her new lovers or about how much fun she is having or where she is clubbing and some guys she met, bothers you
You need to drop her and make No Contact for your own happiness and moving on to find a real girl friend who deserves your love.


( I personally think platonic relations between heterosexuals usually is unrequited love and agony for one of the two people)

 

[Da Realist]

Thanks guys. I need to quit being stupid and face the facts. I just hoped that one day she would realize how much she misses our few good times and want me back. Oh well.

See, that's why it's not good to do it. Friends don't have ulterior motives. It's for the sake of having a friend itself. You were going to use her in a sense she would definately be using you in the future.

 

[BlackJackal]

I have known a certain girl for a couple years now. We used to date. She screwed me over pretty bad a couple times. I am now a stronger man because of it. Ok, with that out of the way: She calls me all the time even though she has made it apparent that she does not want to make things like it used to be.

She is such an insecure, selfish, bratty, spoiled girl that she cannot keep friends around. Once they get to know her they realize the kind of person she is and drops her. She is currently living with another guy. She claims they are NOT in a relationship anymore that they are just room mates because she can't afford to pay the bills by herself.

Should I still be friends with this girl? I know it sounds crazy after all I said about her being bratty and spoiled and all that but I just honestly enjoy talking to her. I guess the fact that I pretty much fell for this chick a long time ago makes me habituated to her. I'm sure this is stroking her ego. She has one guy she's living with and one she calls every day. But is this hurting me at all? I mean should I feel obligated to break off contact with her?

I know me and her will never get back together. That is clear. She lives far from me and is planning on moving even farther. I just really like talking to her. I'm not sure if this is a question or a rant but any criticism would be great.

Uh...Noooooo. I dont understand the point of continued communication after a bad break up. You do know it's possible to have an interesting and fun conversation with a woman that has a clean slate, right? Let this worthless braud go and move on.