should i "settle" or go for others?

[arq-dj1]

ok guys here is the deal...

i met this HP7,5-8,0 and we've dated 2 times... it's clear that if we keep goin' like this, im gonna have a girlfriend in few months..

shes great, hot (a little overweight), gorgeous and etc...
however, during the period i've spent conquering her (using my AFC tecs and some dj tecs), i found this site and that boosted my knowledge, more than that, it boosted my confidence and i feel i can go for all those i never thought i could have...


the thing is, this HP7,5-8,0 is demonstrating clear sighs that she want something more... sending almost every day text msgs by cel... and i dun know if i should go for her or go for other chicks (there is one who i think there is an opportunity).. because i feel like i have the force hehehe...

shes great, but.. i don't know, if i let her go i could end up without anyone, like i was all my life (im not talking about marriage here, just i've been alone with no clear opportunities for gf for my entire life)

can u guys help me? wtf should i do?

 

[NewMan]

Enjoy it.

You don't have to get to serious... just enjoy hanging and spending time with her.

If this is your first GF, then chances are you will make some mistakes and have to figure out for yourself the BF/GF mechanics.

In short, have fun, and keep DJing other chicks.

 

[arq-dj1]

Originally posted by NewMan
Enjoy it.

You don't have to get to serious... just enjoy hanging and spending time with her.

If this is your first GF, then chances are you will make some mistakes and have to figure out for yourself the BF/GF mechanics.

In short, have fun, and keep DJing other chicks.

i see..
u mean just hang out with her not thinking more seriously about being gf/bf and everything??

i guess that can work, however it's inevitable considering what's happin' between ourselfs (txt msgs, some AFC stuff that i said like "when i met u, i though "ill invest on her" meaning "i wanna get some with u, not some serious stuff"...) all this stuff may give the wrong impression to her, that i want something more...


i actually don't know what i want, thats the hole problem.. til i figure out if i want her as my gf or not it can be too late

 

[NewMan]

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i see..
u mean just hang out with her not thinking more seriously about being gf/bf and everything??
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No you don't.


Ok 1st off - you know now - cut out the text messages. There really is no point to them - and they can only get you into trouble (in the sense that you'll say something dumb, like "I wanna invest time in u"). DJ's use the phone and talk. If your to busy or can't talk - you can't text.

so if you don't know what you want - you definitely should not be investing your time just in her. Don't be calling her every day. Your getting invovled in something you don't know if you want.

If you are alread, keep banging her. If you haven't start.

it's important to set oyut as you mean to carry on. If you set out talking to her everyday, she will continue to expect that. If you start off talking once a week and only to set up dates - she will expect that.

It's like a dog - only you are the treat.

 

[arq-dj1]

ty for you help NewMan
hmm yeah she started sending msgs.. i did a few times only to keep her thinking about me... however it looks like she wanna talk everyday hehe so yeah ill try lowering the msgs...

im not banging her, she def is a good catch, but im in my high heels right now, justified or not...

actually, about the msgs, it came to a point that she sent one msg only to say "gnite, i know im bugging u, ok iwill stop hehe "
so she realises that shes sending too much msgs, she starts all the msg talk and stuff...

indeed, this shows very high IL... i was using this thing about this msg to keep her wondering "why hes so nice but still don't send me more msgs, only reply them?"... but i guess i went too far =P


if she start to talk about being exclusive, gf and bf etc, wut should i say?

 

[Mack Bishop]

insert penis into vagina

rinse

repeat as necessary

 

[NewMan]

You tell her that you enjoy spending time with her..... that she is fun and that has many of the qualities that you are looking for in a woman... But right now you don't want to get to serious with her - you want to take time and let the relationship grow.....

Something to that effect. You can change ti to suit your particular situation.

The important parts in all of this are:

1) that you let her know upfront that you don't want anything serious (when she asks - never before). You can sugar coat it as you wish - but be specific.

2) she will try and play a power game with you - by telling you that she's looking for someone for the long term.... or that she doesn't want to waste her time... something to that effect. But she'll basically threaten you with not being able to see her. Your repsonse is important. You don't show it bothers you. You reply with "I understand where your position - and I just want you to know where I'm coming from so you can make the decision whether or not you want to see me". The thing about this is - you've now turned it around to HER decision. Your being 1) honest 2) understanding. Those are two very powerful positions.

 

[Pancho84]

i think it would be a good chance for a first girlfriend. You like her but are not OMG head over heels for her... so when its over - and chances are it will end - you wont kill yourself saying that you just got dumped by a super model....
get what I'm trying to say?
instead you could gain the experience, have a good time, become the best kisser the future super models you'll date will want to kiss, and the bed master your wife will digg

enjoy the moment and make sure shes DD free lol
later
wear a rubber
LOL