Should I next her already for not replying to a date arrangement text?

[nismo-4]

And why would you waste time on a woman who puts you second to her work?



Yes, it is very rude to not reply to a text. Go with the advice above on a response. Tell her you will pick a time when she is more sure of her schedule, then forget about her.


Those are EXACTLY the only girls to deal with. Super high interest. Everything else is a waste of time and a potential mind-fvck. They will milk you for all of the attention they desire. You are friend-zoned during the process without even realizing it.

The way to play any of this is the following....

1. Meet the girl.
2. Be super fun, cool, etc,... basically displaying all sorts of DHV's unintentionally.
3. Live your life without paying any special attention to her.....she is just background scenery and someone you "pick on" now and then.
4. Repeat steps 2 and 3 above.

At some point, if she is interested.....said woman will start throwing serious buying signals at you. THAT is when you start showing initial interest.

You need to let their buying temperature increase before you are doing all of this texting/calling etc,....



Trust me, she has low interest. She will flake on you. Women LOVE to string along guys. They value themselves based on how many men WANT them. Right now she is telling her friend about "yet another" guy that is chasing her.

DO NOT BE THAT GUY.

She is also telling her friends about "this hot guy that I sooooo wish would call me back". This is who you want to be.

Stop chasing. Interested girls will chase YOU.

Danger, I'm sorry I cannot rep you again right now. I love this post because of the way you broke it down.

 

[pikachu69]

Ok I didn't have time to read this message before I sent it cos I was going to bed and it was already past 24 hrs. I sent 'sorry for late reply. Take care of your work stuff, we'll pick a time when you're more sure of your schedule' I went for your 1st suggestion. Can I ask, why is it that since it was 24 hrs later. U suggested I change the text to what u wrote below? The reason I didn't want to send the message below is cos this was already the 2nd time I've asked her out. Last week she texted me that she couldn't do that week cos she had presentations coming up and we should talk this week. I'm setting myself a rule of only asking her out twice then moving on. If she wants me she has to chase me now, I've done my bit.

Why are you changing what I said? Do not say sorry, do not tell her you have other plans with someone. Too try hard. Too overt. Just say that something came up and let her mind work for you. Short and sweet like this...

"Can't do Sunday, something came up. I'll pick another day and let you know."



What I am really trying to tell you, is that you need the ability to recognize interest level.

Interest level determines what you do. Stop caring so much about what she thinks.....she does not care, why do you? Stop trying to modify the message I gave you to send her. No need to explain anything to her.

You are way over analyzing everything. Stop caring. Stop trying to make her jealous, or trying to make her act. Stop trying to get her to do anything. Send the text and forget about her. Do the bullet list I mentioned above. Have fun, be cool, display DHV, then repeat. The interested women will make themselves known. They will not be too busy to give you more than a Bullshit "maybe" date.

 

[pikachu69]

It does not sound bitter or angry, it sounds like someone who is not interested in "Maybe plans". Trust me, if she has even the slightest bit of interest, this will only help you.

Your response above is too wordy, it's terrible. You do NOT want to suggest in any way shape or form that you will not meet up again. THAT makes you look bitter. That is why you say that you will "let her know" and then disappear. When you do not, she will come hunting your way for the "lost attention". That's the next step you will need help with, because often men confuse that for actual interest. It isn't, it is just validation.

If it's been 24 hours then just go with "Hey something came up, I'll pick another day and let you know". Then forget about her.

You said that the next step is when she does contact it's not actual interest, it's just validation so the idea is to play it cool i assume but dont offer any times to meet up again.

i sent what you told me but it read 'sorry for late reply. take care of your work stuff, we'll pick a time when you're more sure of your schedule. x'

however i sent this over 24 hours after she texted me. i sent it just before 1am last night. i dont really know what's next, im not going to contact her in future it's down to her to contact me.

however im sure she was genuine in regards to her work thing and wanting to meet up but regardless i'm assuming it's a future flake so it's better im pre-emptive unwilling to settle for a maybe answer.

do you think the fact i waited over 24 hours to reply is bad?

it may look as if i didn't know what to respond with or i was bitter and initially decided to not respond then decided to respond after 24hours cos i had nothing else on. it's hard to tell how it's read.

my voicemail to her by the way when i called on thursday evening was pretty much 'hey (HB name) how u doing? it's pikachu. you didn't get back to me about our drink, i think we haven't spoken since the party and i think we should talk a bit more then u can teach me your secret of how to fly. haha. anyway give me a call back.'

that was done at 7pm, i got the text which u saw earlier at 11pm.

i didn't respond, i usually respond in the morning or at lunch but i forgot and i went out in the evening and sent the reply when i got back. do you think she'll read into that?

cos she didn't reply to my message, also cos i sent it just before 1am i dont know if thats considered rude or she might be drunk at the time and just read and deleted it like some girls do automatically.

i think it sends the right messge, she needs to be sure of her schedule before she tries to go out with me. hopefully it works. if she comes back at me with a day to meet for the drink, do i accept straight away?

 

[r0cky]

You ask a lot of questions but listen to no answers. Stop making threads and learn from your mistakes already.

 

[DonutMan]

Call her like a grown ass man...Leave a message with a specific time and day and location. Tell her nicely to call you back cause you want to get together with her. Leave it at that. If she doesn't call you back, next her.