Viper423
Senior Don Juan
I need a little help right now. Quick backround info: Me and this girl have known each other for 4 years and just this year started messing around and had sex. After we had sex she regreted it and we have barely talked at all considering she used to call me every night for 3 weeks in a row before. Well, I had oneitis for this girl. We both like each other but her feelings for me weren't as strong as mine were for her and we both knew it and admited it. She told me that she didn't want to start a relationship with anyone since it's or senior year and would have to break it off when we go to college, even though she's talked about me coming with her.
I made some big mistakes and realize every single one of them now. I was such a dj until I had her then turned afc. My life revolved around her....staying at home everynight waiting for her to call, not hanging out with my friends, ect...After we had sex she told me it was a mistake for us to get involved physically and she still wants to hang out with me, but doesn't want to "do things people dating would do." After she said this I sat back and relfected on how I fvcked up. I decided to forget about her, move on, and get my dj attitude back and throw away the afc side I picked up.
Here's my problem....after practically ignoring her for so long, and getting my old self back plus a lot of improvment, I think she still wants me in her life. Here's what happened....we have been out of school the past week for holiday and didn't talk at all. She only sent me a text message asking if I wasn't talking to her anymore. I just sent one back that said I had been busy. Well today at school, she sits down right in front of me and says hi. Well, I have put it in my mind that I will not initiate conversation with her, but will respond if she talks to me, but keep it very brief. So I just said hi back and didn't even look at her. She immediately says,"Are you mad at me? Why are you mad?" I just told her I wasn't mad at her and was fine....even though I am, I don't want her to know how much she had upset me.
She didn't believe me and kept asking me, I just kept telling her I wasn't mad and was fine. Well, she goes back to her seat kind of upset and says,"I was just trying to fix things between us, when you are ready to talk then come talk to me." I didn't respond and didn't talk to her the rest of the day. When I came out of the gym today after working out, I noticed a missed call on my phone from her. I didn't call her back and she hasn't tried calling back.
My question is what should I do? Should I call her tomorrow and talk to her? I know she won't leave me alone until we have a talk, so how does this sound to say," I don't do this just friends bullsh*t after what we've been through. I've realized that I don't need you even though it would be nice to have you. So you make up your mind because I'm not going to be just your friend." Or should I keep ingoring her and never lay it all on the table and try to forget about her even though I see her everyday?
I made some big mistakes and realize every single one of them now. I was such a dj until I had her then turned afc. My life revolved around her....staying at home everynight waiting for her to call, not hanging out with my friends, ect...After we had sex she told me it was a mistake for us to get involved physically and she still wants to hang out with me, but doesn't want to "do things people dating would do." After she said this I sat back and relfected on how I fvcked up. I decided to forget about her, move on, and get my dj attitude back and throw away the afc side I picked up.
Here's my problem....after practically ignoring her for so long, and getting my old self back plus a lot of improvment, I think she still wants me in her life. Here's what happened....we have been out of school the past week for holiday and didn't talk at all. She only sent me a text message asking if I wasn't talking to her anymore. I just sent one back that said I had been busy. Well today at school, she sits down right in front of me and says hi. Well, I have put it in my mind that I will not initiate conversation with her, but will respond if she talks to me, but keep it very brief. So I just said hi back and didn't even look at her. She immediately says,"Are you mad at me? Why are you mad?" I just told her I wasn't mad at her and was fine....even though I am, I don't want her to know how much she had upset me.
She didn't believe me and kept asking me, I just kept telling her I wasn't mad and was fine. Well, she goes back to her seat kind of upset and says,"I was just trying to fix things between us, when you are ready to talk then come talk to me." I didn't respond and didn't talk to her the rest of the day. When I came out of the gym today after working out, I noticed a missed call on my phone from her. I didn't call her back and she hasn't tried calling back.
My question is what should I do? Should I call her tomorrow and talk to her? I know she won't leave me alone until we have a talk, so how does this sound to say," I don't do this just friends bullsh*t after what we've been through. I've realized that I don't need you even though it would be nice to have you. So you make up your mind because I'm not going to be just your friend." Or should I keep ingoring her and never lay it all on the table and try to forget about her even though I see her everyday?