Should I meet them or no?

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I am 24 there are 4 tinder chicks willing to meet me lol.

one 20 one 28 and two are 24 (my age).

bef0ore i was struggling with this stupid app but now I dont mind. I just swapped right and flirted in free time.

took long time but there are now 4 of them openly asking me about date (since last 2 months) and im still ignoring them LOL. I message them from time to time just to flirt a little bit and joke they pretty often reply immedietely.

Yeah this is fun, im not the one asking, sometimes i just talk a little bit about love/dates/flirting/banging and they seem to catch the idea on their own.

Funny thing is, after i ignored their question once they asked me couple more times about date in the next days, asking if i plan just to text them till the retirement LOL :D

added them on facebook and I lost interest probably because I have 4 of them to choose.

before if i wanted to bang women i just tried to make jokes on date and lead convo but hey thats very troublesome. i think i got lazy


ps they all studied something except the youngest one, none if them is ugly and none is fat, 3 of them are working and the youngest still in school
 

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Although I agree that sometimes being less direct in asking them out builds attraction (as women wonder why you're not like every other guy thats asking them out), I also believe that if you dangle the carrot for too long they will stop chasing.

Out of the 4 you will probably have 1 or 2 that will immediately back off when you offer to meet up because they are seeking validation only. Once they get it, its game over.

I currently have a chick that I have known a little over the last year messaging me on snap chat. After a few messages she said "We should get together for dinner or drinks soon". I responded with "I am tied up Friday night but I could get free Saturday night".

She lives an hour away so scheduling could be a slight issue, but she responded with "Sounds good I will let you know if I can make Saturday night work".

I even told her that I would be staying at her place that night if we went out drinking because I refuse to drive back home (and I want an early acceptance to smash lol). "I would expect you to stay" was her response.

Maybe she was seeking validation, maybe not. I struck while the iron was hot and thats really all you can do.

If these 4 chicks were fvckable, I would start nailing them soon because there is an expiration date on attraction.
 

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Although I agree that sometimes being less direct in asking them out builds attraction (as women wonder why you're not like every other guy thats asking them out), I also believe that if you dangle the carrot for too long they will stop chasing.

Out of the 4 you will probably have 1 or 2 that will immediately back off when you offer to meet up because they are seeking validation only. Once they get it, its game over.

I currently have a chick that I have known a little over the last year messaging me on snap chat. After a few messages she said "We should get together for dinner or drinks soon". I responded with "I am tied up Friday night but I could get free Saturday night".

She lives an hour away so scheduling could be a slight issue, but she responded with "Sounds good I will let you know if I can make Saturday night work".

I even told her that I would be staying at her place that night if we went out drinking because I refuse to drive back home (and I want an early acceptance to smash lol). "I would expect you to stay" was her response.

Maybe she was seeking validation, maybe not. I struck while the iron was hot and thats really all you can do.

If these 4 chicks were fvckable, I would start nailing them soon because there is an expiration date on attraction.
Great stuff,

Nice come back on the saturday potential date

I find girls who say "i'll let you know" after date plans.. even if they initiate.... is basicaly saying.... "no"

I always push them about telling me now otherwise i'll make other plans.

However, your reply... definitely hit "its going to happens"... like youve decided for her she was free

Let me know how it went... if you had the date... I. Am aware you cant win 100% no matter how good you are but technique always help to score higher and attitude to keep scoring

Report back plz :), i'll borow your line
 

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right one of them said im too childish for her :D that or she got pissed off with me not initiating and said it to regain her gay ego (yeah today before she still was insisting on date :D
 

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Great stuff,

Nice come back on the saturday potential date

I find girls who say "i'll let you know" after date plans.. even if they initiate.... is basicaly saying.... "no"

I always push them about telling me now otherwise i'll make other plans.

However, your reply... definitely hit "its going to happens"... like youve decided for her she was free

Let me know how it went... if you had the date... I. Am aware you cant win 100% no matter how good you are but technique always help to score higher and attitude to keep scoring

Report back plz :), i'll borow your line
Last night she sent me a text that said "I am working on it for Saturday night. I will let you know for sure tomorrow".

I told her to let me know today and if Saturday didnt work, we could maybe try another time.

This chick is easily a 8.5 and is lots of fun. She has a daughter and is supposedly making sure that she is completely free Saturday night. Which is fine with me because if I am going to drive an hour, I dont want to be rush, worry about driving back after drinking and want to make sure her place is 100% free to hang out at afterwards.

As of right now, there were a few light texts sent back and forth earlier this morning. I told her that I needed to know tomorrow night's plan.

An hour later I get a text from her with a screen shot message that I had sent to one of her friends on Match. Her friend that was on Match had several pics of them together, and all my message said was "Helllloooooo.....I think that I am FB friends with the blonde in your Match pics".

So she just sent me the screen shotted message and said "Is the you that sent this message?".

I said "Yep. I recognized you in her pics that she put on her match account, which is exactly what I said to her in the message".

I asked her how long ago that has been and she said August 15th. I said "Makes sense since I havent been on Match in a while. Not to hurt your friends feelings, but I only messaged her on Match because she had pics of you 2 on there so I figured you were good friends. Which was pretty clear in the message I sent to her. I am however interested in going out with you and grabbing drinks. If you're still up for it you need to let me know very soon if tomorrow night works or not so I can plan accordingly since you are an hour away".

No response as of yet. Lol. Its like she is butt hurt that I sent a completely innocent message to her friend on Match a month ago only because she was in her friends Match pics.
 

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When you have an abundance chicks just know it. But be careful and not let yourself fall into a trap of acting like a chick. You have to say to yourself "It's my duty as a man to try and fvck her." So when a chick recommends a date... even if you have another you think you like better, as long as the chick asking is someone you are physically attracted to... make the date, act like a man, and try to seduce her.
 

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Now she said "I'm not mad. It was a month ago and my friend is hot. Why wouldn't a guy be interested. Can I let you know this evening about tomorrow night?"

I told that it was ironic that match message was over a month ago and her friend is just now telling her about it. I would guess that she showed a pic of me to her friend today and the friend remembered me messaging her on Match.

I'm about ready to tell her "I was excited to have drinks and fun with you tomorrow night, but this is getting weird and a lot of work to get together for drinks. Let's scrap tomorrow night and maybe we can try again some other time. "

She will have to either sh!t or get off the pot at that point. And I have another chick that wants to hang out tomorrow evening anyway. Not as hot, but dependable and fine with coming to my place to "watch a movie".

Yep. I think that's the best play. Be the one to bail out and let her know I have no problems walking away.

Or I could wait till later to see if she gets back to me and if she doesn't I'll still get the other chick to my place tomorrow night
 

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An hour later I get a text from her with a screen shot message that I had sent to one of her friends on Match. Her friend that was on Match had several pics of them together, and all my message said was "Helllloooooo.....I think that I am FB friends with the blonde in your Match pics".

So she just sent me the screen shotted message and said "Is the you that sent this message?".
This happened to me before, but my message to her friend was scheduling a date the same night! Needless to say, the original girl went on the date with me (and I canceled on her friend) but she was 100% on the defense no matter how much beta I threw her. I was stamped with "Player," no matter the ensuing pitch.
 

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And I have another chick that wants to hang out tomorrow evening anyway. Not as hot, but dependable and fine with coming to my place to "watch a movie".
Stay silent. Schedule the other girl too in the meantime. And rain-check one tomorrow if the venues are too far apart.

This, BTW, is chick game.
 

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Now she said "I'm not mad. It was a month ago and my friend is hot. Why wouldn't a guy be interested. Can I let you know this evening about tomorrow night?"

I told that it was ironic that match message was over a month ago and her friend is just now telling her about it. I would guess that she showed a pic of me to her friend today and the friend remembered me messaging her on Match.

I'm about ready to tell her "I was excited to have drinks and fun with you tomorrow night, but this is getting weird and a lot of work to get together for drinks. Let's scrap tomorrow night and maybe we can try again some other time. "

She will have to either sh!t or get off the pot at that point. And I have another chick that wants to hang out tomorrow evening anyway. Not as hot, but dependable and fine with coming to my place to "watch a movie".

Yep. I think that's the best play. Be the one to bail out and let her know I have no problems walking away.

Or I could wait till later to see if she gets back to me and if she doesn't I'll still get the other chick to my place tomorrow night
Your reply about the Match photo was a bit long winded, but it seems like water under the bridge. I agree with your course of action. This chick is dragging you out and you KNOW she's got 1-2 other guys she's trying to arrange in order of preference. Dont ever make apologies for being a guy and hitting on women she may know. Just reading this, she seems like a ball buster with what you're going through just to have a drink.
 

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She's seemingly very flakey for someone that was asking me out 3 days ago. No worries. I sent her a message "Sure let me know this evening about tomorrow night ".

Then I deleted her text messages and also scheduled the other chick to hang out tomorrow night
 

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She's seemingly very flakey for someone that was asking me out 3 days ago. No worries. I sent her a message "Sure let me know this evening about tomorrow night ".

Then I deleted her text messages and also scheduled the other chick to hang out tomorrow night
Women schedule double- and triple-headers all the time. That's why flaking is prevalent in OLD (outside of lack of comfort), as the hottest women have 5-10 date offers a week from high-value men and flake/rain-check on many.

Honor is among friends, family, men, business dealings, and good will. Be shameless and unapologetic with women in the context of dating. Always schedule at least two a night. This weekend I scheduled seven, will rain-check three.
 
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all my message said was "Helllloooooo.....I think that I am FB friends with the blonde in your Match pics".

So she just sent me the screen shotted message and said "Is the you that sent this message?".

I said "Yep. I recognized you in her pics that she put on her match account, which is exactly what I said to her in the message".

I asked her how long ago that has been and she said August 15th. I said "Makes sense since I havent been on Match in a while. Not to hurt your friends feelings, but I only messaged her on Match because she had pics of you 2 on there so I figured you were good friends. Which was pretty clear in the message I sent to her. I am however interested in going out with you and grabbing drinks. If you're still up for it you need to let me know very soon if tomorrow night works or not so I can plan accordingly since you are an hour away".

No response as of yet. Lol. Its like she is butt hurt that I sent a completely innocent message to her friend on Match a month ago only because she was in her friends Match pics.
What's with all the explanations? She didn't ask for one and usually when they do they don't want one, they want to crush you emotionally.

To you it was an "innocent message" a month ago "only" because her friend was in Match pics. To her you want to sleep with her and next day sleep with her friend.

I wouldn't have answered the question. Once you answer, you've lost frame.
 

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I am 24 there are 4 tinder chicks willing to meet me lol.

one 20 one 28 and two are 24 (my age).

bef0ore i was struggling with this stupid app but now I dont mind. I just swapped right and flirted in free time.

took long time but there are now 4 of them openly asking me about date (since last 2 months) and im still ignoring them LOL. I message them from time to time just to flirt a little bit and joke they pretty often reply immedietely.

Yeah this is fun, im not the one asking, sometimes i just talk a little bit about love/dates/flirting/banging and they seem to catch the idea on their own.

Funny thing is, after i ignored their question once they asked me couple more times about date in the next days, asking if i plan just to text them till the retirement LOL :D

added them on facebook and I lost interest probably because I have 4 of them to choose.

before if i wanted to bang women i just tried to make jokes on date and lead convo but hey thats very troublesome. i think i got lazy


ps they all studied something except the youngest one, none if them is ugly and none is fat, 3 of them are working and the youngest still in school
Get them while they're available.
 

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This happened to me before, but my message to her friend was scheduling a date the same night! Needless to say, the original girl went on the date with me (and I canceled on her friend) but she was 100% on the defense no matter how much beta I threw her. I was stamped with "Player," no matter the ensuing pitch.
Speaking of the devil. Last night I scheduled a double-header. Girl 1 appears and right away tells me she can only stay for a quick drink and then she has to run. This is a unique experience, did Guru look terrible last night?

We sit down; I open Girl 1. Turns out, I scheduled a date later that night with her friend, Girl 2, whom I opened on Match after Girl 2 viewed my profile on behalf of Girl 1.

Needless to say, Girl 2 scheduling a date with me was a setup, and Girl 1 was quite irritated (yet she showed). I couldn't turn her around. Or maybe Guru just looked bad. LOL.

Yes, Gurus fail too. ;)
 

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Get them while they're available.

one of them (still asking me 2 days ago for meeting) just told me shes meeting someone since 2 months and we should stop flirting because she wont be single anymore soon.

Lmao ! im actually happy i didnt meet her. maybe i would be better than her current boy but jeez what a *****s
 

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one of them (still asking me 2 days ago for meeting) just told me shes meeting someone since 2 months and we should stop flirting because she wont be single anymore soon.

Lmao ! im actually happy i didnt meet her. maybe i would be better than her current boy but jeez what a *****s
I don't see how she's being a b!tch. You cannot expect single, attraftive women to wait around for you, as most of us wouldn't wait for a woman. I do think she's testing you though. If she's hot and wants your bones, I don't see what's stopping you unless her personality is trash.
 

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Women schedule double- and triple-headers all the time. That's why flaking is prevalent in OLD (outside of lack of comfort), as the hottest women have 5-10 date offers a week from high-value men and flake/rain-check on many.

Honor is among friends, family, men, business dealings, and good will. Be shameless and unapologetic with women in the context of dating. Always schedule at least two a night. This weekend I scheduled seven, will rain-check three.
You know what Guru, you are exactly right on this. The first couple times I saw you posting about double/triple stacking dates I thought wow, what an egocentric dik. But I've ran your concept thru my head a few times and it is for sure "chic game" like you stated. I get it and can accept it now.

I've for sure had it played out on me twice recently:

#1
Earlier this summer I was seeing a girl. I invited her to a concert. She agreed to go but AT THE LAST MINUTE she told me I would have to wait on her to get ready and that would take 1.5hrs. I said "no, you can just meet me there." She didn't like that and proceeded to send angry text messages and accuse me of having some other girl to go with. I went to the concert by myself.

Later that night I did show up at her house for sechs! :) All of her antics and emotional texts about being upset was meaningless.

The next day I learned that she went out on a date with some new guy. Her excuse that she couldn't be ready on time was just a ploy so she could have time to get dinner with some new guy and go out with me afterwards.

#2
I also had a $tripper pull some similar schitt on me last weekend. Met her at the club, she sat at my table for about an hour. I bought one lap dance from her, then fingered her. We agreed to meet at her hotel room after she got done working. I arrive at her hotel parking lot where she informs me that she has to leave to go dance at another hotel for some private after hours party. I say fuhk that, she knew about that gig well before she agreed to see me out side the club. So I'm going home and start to leave. Then she offers up her room key card and tells me I can hang out there until she gets back. I rummaged thru her luggage and watched some tv while I waited on her for about an hour. She came back, we fuhked and fell asleep. That morning when it came time to pay, I shorted her $50 for her double booking tactic since I had to wait an hour. lol.

I'm definitely going to start playing their own games on them when I detect a flake coming. Thanks for opening my eyes to it.
 

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Not all OLD girls, Howie, but estimated 90%+ of hot girls do. When you have so many great options, you don't dispose of them, you keep them and double, and triple-stack them. It's human nature to explore your suitable options. We as men don't naturally have as many options as a HB9/10, so this "game" seems foreign to us.

That's why you never take OLD women seriously in the dating phase. They can absolutely love you Thursday and forget about you Sunday after the 7 dates they've been on. I went out with an incredible girl last Saturday, almost a dime, educated, articulate, good sense of humor, always smiling. I forgot about her already.

Understand OLD as a "game." Understand the rules. And be the best damn player.
 
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