Should I let her sleep over or not?

[Ilboy]

Hi Everybody!

I need some help here.
That Brazilian girl told me a few days ago she wants to visit me in Munich (apparently she went to Poland and not home...) and I have the feelings she wants to sleep over at my place. The thing is she flaked on me twice in a very disrespectful way. And I don't know how to deal with that situation.
I feel like telling her she needs to take a hostel when she tells me she wants to sleep at my place while she is here, but I have the (irrational?) "fear" that she might not come at all if I tell her that. So what should I do? Should I be the ass and take the risk of not gettin' some? I think when we finally end up hanging out a little bit (and sleeping in the same room) there will be some action going on, as it was her who approached me in the bar in Berlin, but still I don't want to look like that needy AFC. But, I'd like to hit some Brazilian booty, of course.

Any advice?

Thanks!
Ilboy

 

[PokerStar]

hey Ilboy,

well it seems we have a dilema. You had stated that she has already flaked you twice. very badly to. could you explain more about those two sitauations.

you cant assume that she wants to sleep at your place. she might have already made plans to sleep at a hotel or soemone elses. (could be a next dude's place)

anyway. if she does need a place to stay let her know that you have a compfy couch that could sleep 2 people (hopefully you do)

 

[Ilboy]

Hi PokerStar,

yes I can explain you some more. If you take a look at the link in my first post (you need to click on Brazilian girl) you can read the whole story.

I assume she wants to sleep over, because when we talked for the first time in the bar in Berlin the conversation went like this:
Me, after some conversation about where she is from: "I am from Berlin but I live in Munich, it's a cool town. You should visit it!"
Her: "Yeah, I am undecided between Frankfurt and Munich"
Me: "Go for Munich, it's way cooler "
Her: "Who'd show me around?"
Me: "I can do that!"
Her: "Hey cool, and where would I sleep?"
Me: "You know, I have a big room" (I really do!)

So from that conversation I assume she was already asking to sleep at my place.
If she does already have plans to sleep somewhere else, that makes it even better as I don't have to deal with this dilemma.

Thanks for the help!

 

[roman81]

Hi Everybody!

I need some help here.
That Brazilian girl told me a few days ago she wants to visit me in Munich (apparently she went to Poland and not home...) and I have the feelings she wants to sleep over at my place. The thing is she flaked on me twice in a very disrespectful way. And I don't know how to deal with that situation.
I feel like telling her she needs to take a hostel when she tells me she wants to sleep at my place while she is here, but I have the (irrational?) "fear" that she might not come at all if I tell her that. So what should I do? Should I be the ass and take the risk of not gettin' some? I think when we finally end up hanging out a little bit (and sleeping in the same room) there will be some action going on, as it was her who approached me in the bar in Berlin, but still I don't want to look like that needy AFC. But, I'd like to hit some Brazilian booty, of course.

Any advice?

Thanks!
Ilboy

i read your other threads, i think she is just using you for a place to stay while she does her thing in Munchen, well, has she explicitly said that she is coming to see you? Bro, if you are ok with being flaked twice and probably for a third time then hey ho go for it, she knows you want her and she has the control, having said that it seems like you are going to try anyway.

happy hunting

 

[horaholic]

What do you have to lose if she crashes at your place? You might bang her, you might not. You definitely wont, if she stays somewhere else. Forget the flakes, and give her your a-game when you see her, and bang the snot out of her.

 

[GameTime76]

Nice Guys like you wonder. Men shoot first and ask questions later.

 

[Ilboy]

Thanks for the tips everybody!
I agree with horaholic, I got nothing to lose basically.

GameTime76, can you explain?