Should i just throw in the towel?

PatrickWasHere

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Ok...Prepare for a long rambling story...
Me and this very attractive girl met back at our job over the summer about 6 months ago. She is currently a sophmore in HS and i am a freshman....but she goes to another school, but I literally only live 10 minutes-drive from her house.
So me and this girl get very very close. We seem perfect for eachother. Well ehr going to a different school, she sorta started liking this other guy as well. He goes to her school...and eventually after about 2 weeks of knowing her, he asked her out....2 days before i was going to see her and get the chance to ask her.
So time goes by, and she has informed me that she likes me and her boyfriend equally... but "he lives closer and goes to my school...so i thoguht it out and it seemed like the more logical choice"..I think thats a load of bull****.
Well anyways, i ask ehr to my homecoming, while she has a boyfriend, and while she also really likes me. The night goes by..perfectly. I show up, give her a rose, and a song i wrote, and a white-rose corsage[she loves white roses]. While grinding/dancing...i ended up kissing her neck and cheek, and she kissed my cheek back, and was just a whole lot of kino. So we go back to my house, put in Van Wilder..and cuddle for an hour...she rubs the inside of my thigh some, and we hold hands the entire time...
So the droppoff at home.. I know its corny, but when i walked her to her doorstep, we hugged, and kissed[just a kiss...not a makeout session...my dad was wait :p]
Perfect ending to a perfect night, but then she and I both feel guilty because she has a boyfriend...and now they've been together for like a month n a week. She ends up telling her BF that we kissed...and i end up being forced with nothing to do but tell her to go be happy with her boyfriend because "my instincts tell me you'll be happier with him"...which is a lie, but all that matters is she is happy...and i knew she would have picked him anyways. We both also agreed though, that when things are over between her and her boyfriend, there is a big possibility of an us.
My homecoming dance was last saturday, so thats when all that **** happened...and i just guess i wnat to know...should i stick it out and wait for something to happen? I know she still has feelings for me... probly not as strong as before though, i guess it sort-of brought them -closer- for some reason. Do you think i should just give in and quit crying[yes...i have cried over this girl, we have been through a lot...i've helped her cope with her parents soon-divorce, her having an eating disorder...and her ****ty-as parents who will probly put ehr in a girls-home when they divorce.]?

What do you think?...i'm feeling useless and miserable, and i can't stop thinking about her and how much i love/like her..
Above everything though, we ahve agreed that we will always be friends, even if we ever have a relationship.

Please, any advice would be welcomed. I really need some help in this situation..:(
 

blienk

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You can always put her on the backburner for when her and her BF break up, but you MUST get involved with other girls in the meantime. You already have one-itis, and if you only focus on your "future" with this girl it's only going to get worse.
 

4nando

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For the love of GOD, you need to get some balls or something! You sound like me, eight months ago! Get your own woman. There's enough of them to go around, no need to lay your hands on another man's property. You don't really want this girl, you only want her (fill in blank). Find another girl who has a (fill in blank) and go out with her! If you look hard enough you'll find several.
 

Smooth as Anything

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It hurt me to read that...

What the **** are you thinking?

It makes me angry when I see people of good nature experincing the same injustices that I myself and my peers experinced.

What are you doing with your life?

Move the hell on...

Grow some testicals. Start living for yourself.

WOMEN ARE NOTHING. THEY ARE ABSOLUTELY NOTHING.

Growup and you'll see that the only thing that matters is you, your friends and your family.

Women are for having sex. When you grow even older, you'll want love but you're 14 and you have no idea what that is.

Read the link in my signature.
 
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