Should i go to a festival my ex is maybe attending?

[DonDraper7]

So there is this music festival in a couple of days, and 3-4 of my mates are going to it. Now it will be fun, lots of people are going to it, and i like festivals with that house/tehno music, its layed back and there are a lot of girls you could easily game etc etc

The thing is my ex also likes those festivals so there is a good 60% chance she go aswell. This is the girl that made me swalow that "red pill" and i even posted about her here http://www.sosuave.net/forum/index....d-this-if-you-just-got-dumped.160056/page-424 (if anyone is willing to read due to better advice)

I don't like posting about her again, seeing as i saw the light and have no intentions to contact her/chase her/make up with her. Slvt is gone and she is staying gone.

Reason im asking is that i worry it could get ugly seeing her at a setting like that (we attend same classes in college so im cool with seeing her in general but not giving a sh*t), i don't want it to turn ugly if she sees me at that festival and approaches, or if she is possibly with a new bf/some dude that's nailing her, you get the point.

Im conflicted, i want to go and have fun, game girls and enjoy myself, but i worry she will ruin it. What would you do in my situation guys? God im hoping for the "keep not giving a fvck if you see her and go enjoy" haha.

 

[Building_and_Loan]

Ha, was in the same position as you this past winter. Dated a girl, she ditched me, which is what drove me to this site. A few weeks later, I found out she was going to the same beer fest that I was. My friends asked if I would be cool if we saw her, but I didn't even really care.

I went and didn't even see her, and you should do the same. Don't make any decisions based on where she will/won't be, you'll just delay the process of moving on.

 

[Suspens]

She is an EX, a non-existent entity in your new world, invisible to your eyes.

 

[Reykhel]

Would you go to the festival if you didn't know she was going? there's your answer...

Why would it get ugly? As you said, you've swallowed the red pill since breaking up with her.....you've changed,
you've moved on....she's irrelevant to you now.....she's a ghost in your past......

Do what you want to do....go and have fun with your friends, game girls and enjoy yourself.......

If you do happen to bump into her......which at a festival could be unlikely.......rise above any nonsense.....

Keep your frame : you're Don Draper and she's an irrelevant ghost.

 

[DonDraper7]

@Building_and_Loan Glad to hear from someone who went through the same I agree she will not be any deciding factor

@Suspens Again totally agreed

@Reykhel I totaly would bro i asked precicely because of the nonsense she could start because of my behaviour last time i bumped into her out at a party, that was couple of months ago and i was still under her "spell". I will rise above it, if i even see her as you pointed out, couldn't care less.

Damn you guys are the voice of reason and i appreciate all of the answers, you just backed up my own opinion but i had to ask anyway. Gonna go out and have the best time with multiple girls i hope Thanks again lads! Man this site is amazing haha

 

[Zapp Brannigan]

Ask yourself what Don Draper would do? He never gave a **** if he were around any ex's or mistresses.

I've been in similar spots, and am about your age. There's a Halloween festival I've been going to for years, and each year this girl there. She and I had a very short lived thing about a month before the first Halloween festival. I went to it that year, didn't expect to see her, and when I did it was scary as s**t. She engaged me in conversation, we spoke for a minute or so, and she was trying to make me jealous of her new boyfriend. I played it like Don, showed that I didn't care, and she walked away. Each year since then we've seen eachother at the festival, but never say anything to eachother. It's awkward, but I don't let it get in the way of going. I'll be going this year too.

Don't fear what's out of your control, you'll probably see her again, but who cares? If you want to go to this festival, go, and have fun. The girl who made me truly transition into a Don Draper type is one that I was forced to be around for months after it ended. Once I stopped thinking about the awkwardness and s**t I finally stopped worrying. The best thing you can do to show that you've moved on, is to show that you aren't worried about her. Have a good time, be happy, talk to other girls. All of that will get under her skin.

Don't let her ruin anything for you.

 

[marmel75]

The fact you are living your life based on where she might be and what she might do shows you are completely NOT over her...

My advice is to do what you want and don't give a damn about if she is, might be or isn't there.

 

[blind_one]

Fear not, let not a single **** be giveth. She's and ex and its not an issue, you should never even consider not going. I already had such run-ins with my ex a couple of times and I was a good sport about it anyway. We were supposed to see Metallica live, booked tickets 7 months prior.
We broke up , I still went there, alone even because I wanted to, travelled half the country. She was there as I later was informed of, and she was even injured I've heard.
2 Months later I was going to that music festival, of course I met her at a concert with her friend. I approached them and hit a highfive with both of them ( my ex was hesitant as fvck as she must have been shocked to see me there in all smiles since it was a month after our break-up and I already was feeling stronger and full of energy. )

TLDR;

Never let an ex foil your plan, you go there and enjoy yourself brother