Should I go for it?

[theguy351]

Ok, so im at college, and there are these hot twins. one of them is going out with a friend of mine, and the other apparently told him that she likes me and thinks im hot. ok. so we went partying the other night and the whole time she was all over me and ****...she was holding my hand any chance she got and her hand was in my back pocket the whole time, when other girls would talk to me, shed come over and be like hey...blah blah blah. ok. so we were both very drunk, and we were laying in her bed just watching a movie...this other dude was texting her and ****....so im like o is that your boyfriend. shes like no this guys a stalker. im like tell him u have a new man... shes like i like you. so we were both mad drunk but im a decent guy at that point im not taking advantage of anybody.

so tonight we had our gang out again and we went to another party. well it was like completely different. idk but, the dude she was texting was there and he kept on giving her drinks, giving her drinks...getting mad touchy with her and stuff....well anyway....my main point is this.

i like her, im pretty sure. im sure if i end up dating her she will obviously not act like that, but ok. so next weekend i cant party with her cause im going home for the weekend. i was planning on getting her number and stuff and telling her to text.call me when she wants...

guys, help me out with this situation. advice/pointers/tips/criticism....w.e, just give me some input.

 

[theguy351]

bump

 

[Moofahsa]

I was in a somewhat similar situation when I was your age.

Not sure exactly how close you are to your friend. My best friend and I were dating sisters (half sisters) but when his relationship went sour the girl I was with didn't want me to hang out with him and gave me a choice of her or him. Well I blew my friend off for her for a month or so and went and hung out with him...she got mad and I nexted her. I still miss hitting that

Do whatever you feel compelled to do, just understand there is a pretty good chance of some drama unfolding.

 

[lildevil]

Dont think she will call you...
a girl even if she has mad feelings for you...

will go out and chill and do other things with her friends...


so she might not call you even is in to you...is up to you...to set up dates and have small talk on the phone and **** like that

By the way when you told her...tell him you have a new man you should acted alooof and let her do whatever....

If she doesn't like the guy...she is going to ignore him...

that kinda made u seem like try to hard guy(no advice)just listen and laugh at it and u could have said "some guys" they don't now when to give up do they...

But go for it if you like the chick...just do what you think is best

 

[theguy351]

Dont think she will call you...
a girl even if she has mad feelings for you...

will go out and chill and do other things with her friends...


so she might not call you even is up to you...to set up dates and have small talk on the phone and **** like that

By the way when you told her...tell him you have a new man you should acted alooof and let her do whatever....

If she doesn't like the guy...she is going to ignore him...

that kinda made u seem like try to hard guy(no advice)just listen and laugh at it and u could have said "some guys" they don't now when to give up do they...

But go for it if you like the chick...just do what you think is best

yeah, i was just like aloof and ****...but i do like her...i just need some advice on how to pursue her.

 

[theguy351]

bump

 

[theguy351]

and wen we were drunk she was all over me..like if u saw us walking with eachother and at the parties you would've assumed we had been dating for a while and stuff thats what i dont get how it can contrast so much in 1 day. we were in her bed and we were feelin eachther up....we only couldnt go further because 2 other ppl were in the room too.....

im just wondering if she does like me or she doesnt anymore or sumtin...idk im gonna have to talk to her

 

[WC2]

Should you go for it? Absolutely. She already told you that she likes you and you obviously felt the vibe. What do you define as taking advantage of? Laying a kiss on a girl when you're both a little tipsy is not "taking advantage" of in my book. Shes leaving the door wide open for you but it's closing quickly. You need to get your foot in before it's too late.

 

[theguy351]

we did kiss....i meant i wasn't going to bang her. im looking for a girlfriend...idk if she is looking for a b.f

im just weirded out by how close her and that guy were getting last night..even tho she was telling me he likes her, but she doesnt like him and hes a stalker and stuff.....idk im just looking for any kind of input

 

[WC2]

we did kiss....i meant i wasn't going to bang her. im looking for a girlfriend...idk if she is looking for a b.f

im just weirded out by how close her and that guy were getting last night..even tho she was telling me he likes her, but she doesnt like him and hes a stalker and stuff.....idk im just looking for any kind of input

If you're looking for a girlfriend, you're bound to not find one. As much as women say they like commitment, they don't like attachment. A woman wants to feel as if she's attached to you, not you to her.

This guy is irrelevant. So what, she's talking to other guys because she hasn't really made a decision on YOU or HIM. In a sense, she's playing both of you and feeling out the grounds. You can't get mad at a woman for this; you should be doing the same thing!

Take this girl out, show her some fun, show her you're a man and you don't care about this other "dude". Don't even ask about him. You're only worry is yourself and her having a good time. Make her laugh, but please don't drop any mushy relationship BS. She'll shy away right away. Most importantly, keep talking to other women. You're single!

 

[theguy351]

If you're looking for a girlfriend, you're bound to not find one. As much as women say they like commitment, they don't like attachment. A woman wants to feel as if she's attached to you, not you to her.

This guy is irrelevant. So what, she's talking to other guys because she hasn't really made a decision on YOU or HIM. In a sense, she's playing both of you and feeling out the grounds. You can't get mad at a woman for this; you should be doing the same thing!

Take this girl out, show her some fun, show her you're a man and you don't care about this other "dude". Don't even ask about him. You're only worry is yourself and her having a good time. Make her laugh, but please don't drop any mushy relationship BS. She'll shy away right away. Most importantly, keep talking to other women. You're single!

true man..very true....thanks thats good advice.

 

[theguy351]

any advice on ways to exchange numbers?

mind you, we haven't spoken for over 10 minutes with each of us sober....

i know she works out, im thinking of asking is she wants to go the the gym together....idk tho.

advice?

 

[theguy351]

bump

 

[theguy351]

i need a casual way to give her my number..i dont want hers at this point, i want to give her mine and if she offers hers back or if she texts me then it will be ok..... i was thinking ofacebooking it to her or something

 

[ready123]

why wouldn't you want her #?

 

[theguy351]

why wouldn't you want her #?

i do want it...but we haven't exchanged them yet....i was thinking of facebook messaging her it or something idk....either that or i will have to wait until the next time we hang out (most likely 2 weeks because im going home this weekend) and give it to her then....man i should've given it to her on firday night when we hung out..damnit

 

[theguy351]

Dude,

Where you want to be.....Is having the balls to just say 'What's your number'. Pull out your phone when you ask, as if you're going to text her on the spot to give her your number. It's really that easy. You'll know right then whether she's interested or not.

yeah thast what i planned on doing the other night...but i forgot because of the combination of talking and gettin touchy with her and alcohol made me forget lol....

i think the next time i see her i will say "hey lemme get ur number so ....."

 

[theguy351]

bump

 

[theguy351]

bump

 

[zinc64]

Ok, so im at college, and there are these hot twins. one of them is going out with a friend of mine, and the other apparently told him that she likes me and thinks im hot. ok. so we went partying the other night and the whole time she was all over me and ****...she was holding my hand any chance she got and her hand was in my back pocket the whole time, when other girls would talk to me, shed come over and be like hey...blah blah blah. ok. so we were both very drunk, and we were laying in her bed just watching a movie...this other dude was texting her and ****....so im like o is that your boyfriend. shes like no this guys a stalker. im like tell him u have a new man... shes like i like you. so we were both mad drunk but im a decent guy at that point im not taking advantage of anybody.

so tonight we had our gang out again and we went to another party. well it was like completely different. idk but, the dude she was texting was there and he kept on giving her drinks, giving her drinks...getting mad touchy with her and stuff....well anyway....my main point is this.

i like her, im pretty sure. im sure if i end up dating her she will obviously not act like that, but ok. so next weekend i cant party with her cause im going home for the weekend. i was planning on getting her number and stuff and telling her to text.call me when she wants...

guys, help me out with this situation. advice/pointers/tips/criticism....w.e, just give me some input.

First of all you are an AFC at best and a ***** to boot. You are in her bed and both very drunk and you don't want to take advantage of the situation???? Dude she wanted to **** you or at least everything else. If she let's you in her bed you are NOT taking advantage of her unless she is puking her guts out everywhere. Drop this lame ass chivarly mentality because it's all fake to begin with and don't treat her like she is some fragile little doll.