Should I forgive her? w/ chat log

[Engetsu]

I'm torn apart, should I forgive this girl, or not?

Situation

Let me describe my situation. I phoned up this HB8 last thursday for the 1st time to make plans for a date. We talked for about 2 hours on the phone (yeah, it's against the "rules" but I don't give a $hit, we both enjoyed it). I invited her out for saturday night and she said yes.

Fast forward to today (Saturday). I went to the gym this morning and she was there (not planned). We talked for a bit, and I said I'd call her tonight. She said ok, and she had to leave before me so she did.

When I called her tonight, her mom told me she was out and she'd be back late. I was like wtf? She then came online on MSN messenger because I was planning things with my friends online (easier to talk to more than a person at the time). She said she was sorry and explained the situation (chat log is below)

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This girl is an HB8 who I met through a friend who used to be in love with her. He got infatuated, and acted AFCish with her (seeing her every day, being at her feet, etc.). She then quickly rejected him, and I told him to forget about her.

Now I'm macking on her, but I told her to keep it secret, and she agreed. If I see she's worthy of a relationship, I'll ask my friend if he's ok with it, if not, fvck it.

Dilemma

I should obviously DJ this girl after what my AFC friend put her through, but I don't know if I should forgive her or not. I'd make her wait til next week since I'm studying to go into medicine and I can't miss out on my studying day tomorrow. Plus I won't have the car either, so I don't want to go out at -40.

What I would do is to report the date until next week and tell her what I just wrote above. She seems worthy of an LTR.

The infamous chat log

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| Session Start: January 24, 2004
| Participants:
| Engetsu (me)
| ~Sarah~It'S likE BadaboOm (HB8)
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[19:24:04] ~Sarah~It'S : HEY!!
[19:24:13] Engetsu: yes what
[19:24:22] ~Sarah~It'S : what what loll
[19:24:32] Engetsu: u can just say no u know, dont play games with me
[19:25:08] ~Sarah~It'S : I was gona ask u to go now cuz my bros car
****ed but 4get it
[19:25:14] ~Sarah~It'S : :<
[19:25:39] Engetsu: why did u accept my invitation if u already had
something planned
[19:26:07] ~Sarah~It'S : I didint when I got homme my bro was there
and he wanned me to go with him .. and since u hadent
called... I went
[19:27:02] ~Sarah~It'S : sorry Mabe I ****ed up
[19:27:17] ~Sarah~It'S : :< ... I feel bad .. will u forguive me?
[19:27:21] Engetsu: still, we'd already made plans
[19:27:44] ~Sarah~It'S : ..I know .. and trust me... the last thing I
would want would be to screw up a good time with u
[19:28:34] Engetsu: lol ur making it as if it was a matter of life n
death
[19:29:06] Engetsu: its ok, u didnt come n rape my sister or
something...
[19:29:18] ~Sarah~It'S : lol...I know
[19:29:35] ~Sarah~It'S : but .. I want u to know that I was looking
forward to see you...
[19:30:00] Engetsu: well if u still want to see me
[19:30:14] Engetsu: call me... cause i was about to make plans with my
friends
[19:30:51] ~Sarah~It'S : ... well you know what go with your
friends... enjoy youreself and i'll call you on ure cell
when u come back
[19:31:22] Engetsu: i didnt make plans with anyone yet
[19:31:34] Engetsu: cause i thought we were going to drink tisane
[19:31:44] Engetsu: but then i caleld ur house and i was like... wtf
[19:32:35] ~Sarah~It'S : I know I"m sorry..
[19:32:45] Engetsu: well its ok, wanna give it another shot?
[19:32:55] Engetsu: cause u just said no
[19:33:11] Engetsu: so if u dont, say no again
[19:33:18] Engetsu: dont make me say "wtf" again...
[19:34:04] ~Sarah~It'S : well my mom wont let me now cause shes like
u gota stay with your bro he never comes blabla
[19:34:14] ~Sarah~It'S : wanna do soemthing tomorow?
[19:35:00] Engetsu: usually i dont go out on sundays
[19:35:13] ~Sarah~It'S : in the day ... we can go to the gym and grab
a bite to eat ?
[19:36:19] Engetsu: we'll see... ill call you
[19:36:32] Engetsu: if you're home
[19:36:54] ~Sarah~It'S : okay. dont be upset Well have our tisane
[19:37:09] ~Sarah~It'S : And I will be there
[19:38:47] Engetsu: u have my # right?
[19:39:07] ~Sarah~It'S : umm no u never gave it to me
[19:39:12] Engetsu: dont u have call display
[19:39:29] ~Sarah~It'S : no cuz it has to ring 3 time for it to catch
the number
[19:39:56] Engetsu: ic.. k then u call me for tomorrow just to make sure
[19:40:01] Engetsu: 795-3795
[19:40:05] ~Sarah~It'S : tonight?
[19:40:53] ~Sarah~It'S : u there...
[19:41:06] Engetsu: yeah lots of ppl talking to me on msn
[19:41:11] Engetsu: yeah callme tonight
[19:41:58] ~Sarah~It'S : ok. I will
[19:42:05] ~Sarah~It'S : so were are u going tonight?
[19:42:23] Engetsu: either medley or pool
[19:42:41] ~Sarah~It'S : your gona be back around what 3?
[19:43:27] Engetsu: i dunno it depends
[19:43:32] Engetsu: just try
[19:44:15] ~Sarah~It'S : alright I will
[19:44:42] ~Sarah~It'S : put your cam on wanna see you before u leave
..
[19:44:58] Engetsu: maybe later
[19:45:38] ~Sarah~It'S : You sound pissed .. unpiss yourself... now
loll
[19:47:30] Engetsu: anyways im out now
[19:47:32] Engetsu: peace
[19:47:39] * ~Sarah~It'S likE BadaboOm has been blocked

Input appreciated. I'm going out now, for real (not pretending).

Edit: "tisane" is a drink, and she told me she liked it, so I invited her to go drink some.

 

[DonJohn83]

You probably shouldnt have made such a big deal out of it.

I would have played it off it was no big deal, went out with my own friends. You dont want her to think that it meant THAT much to you.

My .02

 

[Czar]

You acted pretty AFC-ish during that convo... you shoudn't stress it so much.
You're a Don Juan, she wasn't there, so you went and did other things and had a good time with your friends. At least that's the way it should have been IMO. If you make her think she's the only thing going on in your life... she's likely to start ****ing with you.

edit: damn, donjohn beat me to it, I should have refreshed the page

 

[Engetsu]

Just came back, I was with my friends and didn't make a big deal out of it.

Now to reply to the replies, guys, I didn't get pissed at her because she's the only thing in my world, I got pissed at her for attempting to stand me up like that.

I mean, she ****ed with me like that and showed me disrespect, and even TRIES to come use me as a backup plan when her bro's car breaks down. What the hell is this?

She shows me disrespect, why should I respect her?

 

[SDBmania]

Originally posted by Engetsu
Just came back, I was with my friends and didn't make a big deal out of it.

Now to reply to the replies, guys, I didn't get pissed at her because she's the only thing in my world, I got pissed at her for attempting to stand me up like that.

I mean, she ****ed with me like that and showed me disrespect, and even TRIES to come use me as a backup plan when her bro's car breaks down. What the hell is this?

She shows me disrespect, why should I respect her?

"Do unto others..." I always say that you shoudl treat others the way you would like to be treated. You give a little and you get a little in return. It's time to swallow your pride. Part of being a DJ is being able to "detach" yourself from hurtful situations and the like.

 

[TesuqueRed]

I must admit I don't understand that "respect" thing, it just sounds like a buncha wannabe's who whine about what they don't got, if you ask me.

Those that got it, or are used to having it, don't bring it up. So those that bring it up (minorities, women, etc...) don't got it and whine about it.

Sorry--just what I noticed (and women and minorities that don't whine about respect--whoah!--they GOT IT and know how to use it!)

But that's not the point. What I noticed is that you made a big deal out of her not showing up on that chat (always a bad idea, but that's your choice to use it, isn't it?--fvck the convenience of it, it's still a bad choice to use it...)

You make a big deal out of it, she knows she gotten to you and has won. I'd back it up a bit--if she didn't show, she's disqualified.

PERIOD.

What the fvck do you care WHY she didn't show after that?

Answer that--why did you even ask that question? You should've been already down the street by then.

I detect pride. Forget that. You've already got your answer from her--she's not all that interested. Move on. That (movng on) wil be what she notices. Anything else tells her she's got you...

 

[Engetsu]

Update on the situation

She called me last night at like 2 am, we talked on the phone, she asked me if I could go out today, I said that I was busy and had studies.

She then told me about next weekend.

Now, TetsuqueRed, I'm sure you would say that I ****ed up, and I agree... I showed too much interest.

How do I bring her down during this week? Should I not call her once? Avoid her? Any advice? Thanks.