Should i follow up with this from now on?

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I have a couple girls that i've exchanged numbers with via Facebook that i have yet to meet up in person with.

Usually i'd keep texting little conversations here and there before eventually meeting up.

Now i've grown very weary of the whole texting back and forth so i've started to hint towards meeting a lot sooner, i'd almost always suggest they accompany me on a little errand run and crack a joke that "it'd be the best chance to meet so they couldn't kidnap me in public."

i'll only invite them twice, before sending out this text to whatever excuse they give me:

"cool. listen i really don't like falling into texting loops, nothing personal. but you have my number, let me know if you ever want to meet up like real adults"

my question, is that a good idea or is it better to just not say anything at all?
 

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tryst type said:
i'll only invite them twice, before sending out this text to whatever excuse they give me:

"cool. listen i really don't like falling into texting loops, nothing personal. but you have my number, let me know if you ever want to meet up like real adults"

my question, is that a good idea or is it better to just not say anything at all?
I wouldn't be sending girls that text dude. See, if they already declined to you twice, they probably aren't interested. You can't expect a single text to change a girl's mind about wanting to go out with you. To be honest it sounds a bit resentful of the girl not accepting your offer, especially how you end it with "like real adults".
If you really want to change a girl's mind about chilling with you, you've gotta leave her alone and let her come back to you. This is because girls meet a lot of pushy guys, and they see that as a red flag meaning, "this guy won't leave me alone and I'm not interested." If she is interested in you, you can be pushy. Don't overdo it of course.
 

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I'm in the Mood said:
I wouldn't be sending girls that text dude. See, if they already declined to you twice, they probably aren't interested. You can't expect a single text to change a girl's mind about wanting to go out with you. To be honest it sounds a bit resentful of the girl not accepting your offer, especially how you end it with "like real adults".
If you really want to change a girl's mind about chilling with you, you've gotta leave her alone and let her come back to you. This is because girls meet a lot of pushy guys, and they see that as a red flag meaning, "this guy won't leave me alone and I'm not interested." If she is interested in you, you can be pushy. Don't overdo it of course.
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2 strikes and if not...BAM....she should be gone.

Text sounds a bit insecure and try hard to me.

Don't fall into the texting game. Go no contact instead (but don't say you are). simply go "off the radar"

If they re initiate contact, then up to you whether you retry or not.
 

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Ok funny thing is she ended up replying to that text later on apologizing and saying she's been super busy getting the three tenant house she bought ready for her renters and that she'd want to do something after the dust settles.

Now I know that just sounds like an excuse a girl would give to be polite, and I'm not buying it but, I didn't think she'd even take the time to respond to the text I sent.

Anyway, I'm not going to contact her anymore and only time will tell if she's being honest or not.

I'm curious, how can I avoid this in the future? I'm pretty used to exchanging numbers with girls online and having about a 50/50 success rate. Usually wind up in an endless texting loop which I hate! Any advice on this?
 

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