Should I Follow My Gut Instinct??

[GotED?]

every girl i ever met on POF turned out to be a crazy B@tch

SOULFOURGE & ORBION2013

Why are you using two profile names?

Bi-polar? Split personality? Schizophrenic?

Serve it how you like it online?

(ah, I see - he re-edited his post and got rid of this huge paragraph of response as he realized he was logged in as ORBION2013 instead)

 

[orbion2013]

SOULFOURGE & ORBION2013

Why are you using two profile names?

Bi-polar? Split personality? Schizophrenic?

Serve it how you like it online?

(ah, I see - he re-edited his post and got rid of this huge paragraph of response as he realized he was logged in as ORBION2013 instead)

lol that was my old user/pass, didnt realize it was still saved on my browser

 

[sylvester the cat]

dude - you've got llike 100 threads created about this girl.

you haven't gone and done something silly like fallen in love with her, have you?

actually it's quite clear that you have. although truth be known you have fallen in desire - mainly due to not spinning plates no doubt.

 

[soulforge]

dude - you've got llike 100 threads created about this girl.

you haven't gone and done something silly like fallen in love with her, have you?

actually it's quite clear that you have. although truth be known you have fallen in desire - mainly due to not spinning plates no doubt.

no man i can assure you... 100% i have not fallen for this chick!

i want to keep her as a plate, till i find another plate...


the only thing that bothers me with this one is... i don't trust her... her behavior is some what suspicious

she tells me she feel asleep, yet she is on the phone...

i will admit, i did get close to her...we went out for meals etc... but i have decided to pull back & keep her strictly on a sexual level.

otherwise i could be in a world of pain soon enough... this one in defo not ltr material

 

[Greasy Pig]

The key to keeping a woman as a fvck buddy is to not do girlfriend shyt with her.
Keep her at arm's length, keep your contact between fvcking sessions brief and flirtatiously sexual, and only fvck her once or twice a week (no sleepovers under any circumstances).
If she tries to hold your hand, bust her balls on it. Say something like: "Aww look at you trying to be all lovey dovey...." And playfully move your hand away.
Dealing with a fvck buddy is like a business transaction.
Set boundaries (by your actions, not your words) and make it clear that you are merely "Mr Goodfvck" providing fantastic sex and funny conversation for brief periods only.

 

[soulforge]

so i usually only see this chick once a week on a saturday... this saturday she cancled...

her reason... it's her daughters exam coming up & she has to stay at home with her, to help her with her rivision, also she claims to have a bad tummy & needs the toilet regular...

so i told her, i will just meet her some other time... she wanted a specific day from me.. but i didn't give her anything specific

should i give a ****k about her bailing out this saturday? she wanted to rearrnage & see me on tuesday instead, but i told her, i was busy on tuesday!

maybe her excuses to not see me this saturday was lies... if she flakes once, how do you deal with it???

do you forgive her the first time she flakes, or next her??

 

[El Suave]

maybe her excuses to not see me this saturday was lies... if she flakes once, how do you deal with it???

do you forgive her the first time she flakes, or next her??

Had one last weekend flake with saying she is busy, no counter offer. I said Ok, see you next time. What's the big deal? She's just a fvck buddy, you take matters in your own hand for the evening or you go get another girl.

She's your FB and that's it. It shouldn't bother you at all let alone start a thread about it.

 

[soulforge]

she did offer to come see me on tuesday night instead.. but i decided to reject her offer.. i'm not going to have her cancel a date with me, then re arrange on her terms

i told her, that i will see her the next time i was free... she tried to push me for a day.. but i didn't give her one!

if she cancels with me then, then i will see her only when i am free, as i am always busy with work.


also this girl is pushing hard for a relationship, but i do not trust her one bit.

my gut keeps warning me, that she will bring me nothing but trouble

i will admit i developed some feelings for her... so i need to back track & keep minimal contact with her

fucck her once or twice a week... no hand holding, cuddling, sleeping overnight in my bed.... non of that crap

plus i need to get more plates, this one is proving to be unreliable

 

[Harry Wilmington]

Good lord, man - a few things:

1. Why are dudes on this site always acting like they don't want a woman they can actually CARE for and show affection to?? It's okay to admit you want to do more than just screw her brains out - if you want to cuddle/hug up with/have her sleep overnight, that's not only fine, it's GREAT! It makes you a MAN to actually WANT a woman in your life as more than just an FB, and it's actually quite pathetic to act like you don't when you do.

2. You're over-reacting to the situation for NO reason other than your own insecurities. "Oh, she screwed me on the first night, so it's a red flag" - um, how about the fact that YOU also screwed HER on that first date? By your logic, she should be looking for red flags on YOU as well. How about you take it from a different perspective - that you finally got so good at knowing how "the game" works that you made her comfortable enough to WANT to sleep with you??

3. We say this on the site time and time again: if a woman flakes on you, it's a red flag... UNLESS SHE OFFERS A COUNTER-OFFER. Here you are boo-hooing about her saying she needs to help her daughter, and you're not looking at the fact that she basically said "Hey, Saturday's no good, how about Tuesday?" Like, she GAVE YOU A COUNTER-OFFER because she actually WANTS to see you still. Could she have been lying? Sure! But she also could have been telling the truth because things DO come up in life that make us have to change our plans. But again - SHE MADE A FRIGGIN' COUNTER-OFFER.

4. And btw, STOP THINKING IT'S NOT "ALPHA" TO ACCEPT A COUNTER-OFFER. I get so tired of guys on this site being like "Well, she's trying to change plans/dates/times and I don't wanna appear like a weak-beta, so I'm going to tell her NO!" Great - so instead of being understanding of the situation, you decide to whine to her about how you're not going to let her change plans to Tuesday... which makes you sound like you're throwing a tantrum, thus looking BETA after all.

5. Lastly, STOP BEING SO DAMN PREDICTABLE WITH THE DATES. There's no reason that EVERY Saturday needs to be already carved out for a date - why not switch it up and do it on another day, like... oh, I dunno, a TUESDAY or something?? In reality, she may have just wanted to be able to see you on a different day of the week - regardless, you should be doing this anyway!

In short: stop being afraid of having "feelings" for this chick; stop mis-reading these so-called "red flags" which aren't even there at the moment; and stop being so afraid of not appearing "Alpha" that you "Beta" yourself out of this situation. Hope this helps!

 

[soulforge]

she came to my house with lubricant & a dildo, straight off plenty of fish.

this is within only 2 hours of talking to her on pof.... i didnt know she bought a dildo and lube with her, till later into the night

so she came straight to my place, with the intention of having sex, or it leading to sex... why else bring lube & a dildo with you on a first date??

and why come straight to my house?

so how many times she done that before? and is she still doing it?

plus her firend also meets guys off pof & has slept with atleast 5 guys in the last 2 months

this is a close friend of hers... does this not reflect on the girl i am cecking out?

the fact is, there is no trust here, so offcourse i am going do doubt everything that comes out of her mouth... plus she is very shady answering text msgs & her phone is on silent alot.

 

[soulforge]

Good lord, man - a few things:

1. Why are dudes on this site always acting like they don't want a woman they can actually CARE for and show affection to?? It's okay to admit you want to do more than just screw her brains out - if you want to cuddle/hug up with/have her sleep overnight, that's not only fine, it's GREAT! It makes you a MAN to actually WANT a woman in your life as more than just an FB, and it's actually quite pathetic to act like you don't when you do.

2. You're over-reacting to the situation for NO reason other than your own insecurities. "Oh, she screwed me on the first night, so it's a red flag" - um, how about the fact that YOU also screwed HER on that first date? By your logic, she should be looking for red flags on YOU as well. How about you take it from a different perspective - that you finally got so good at knowing how "the game" works that you made her comfortable enough to WANT to sleep with you??

3. We say this on the site time and time again: if a woman flakes on you, it's a red flag... UNLESS SHE OFFERS A COUNTER-OFFER. Here you are boo-hooing about her saying she needs to help her daughter, and you're not looking at the fact that she basically said "Hey, Saturday's no good, how about Tuesday?" Like, she GAVE YOU A COUNTER-OFFER because she actually WANTS to see you still. Could she have been lying? Sure! But she also could have been telling the truth because things DO come up in life that make us have to change our plans. But again - SHE MADE A FRIGGIN' COUNTER-OFFER.

4. And btw, STOP THINKING IT'S NOT "ALPHA" TO ACCEPT A COUNTER-OFFER. I get so tired of guys on this site being like "Well, she's trying to change plans/dates/times and I don't wanna appear like a weak-beta, so I'm going to tell her NO!" Great - so instead of being understanding of the situation, you decide to whine to her about how you're not going to let her change plans to Tuesday... which makes you sound like you're throwing a tantrum, thus looking BETA after all.

5. Lastly, STOP BEING SO DAMN PREDICTABLE WITH THE DATES. There's no reason that EVERY Saturday needs to be already carved out for a date - why not switch it up and do it on another day, like... oh, I dunno, a TUESDAY or something?? In reality, she may have just wanted to be able to see you on a different day of the week - regardless, you should be doing this anyway!

In short: stop being afraid of having "feelings" for this chick; stop mis-reading these so-called "red flags" which aren't even there at the moment; and stop being so afraid of not appearing "Alpha" that you "Beta" yourself out of this situation. Hope this helps!

here is the thing man... i do like this girl... but i do not trust her... and yes i am scared of showing her emotions & opening up to her

she came to my house with lubricant & a dildo, straight off plenty of fish.

this is within only 2 hours of talking to her on pof.... i didnt know she bought a dildo and lube with her, till later into the night, she pulled it out of her bag

so she came straight to my place, with the intention of having sex, or it leading to sex... why else bring lube & a dildo with you on a first date??

and why come straight to my house?

so how many times she done that before? and is she still doing it?

this is why i doubt he ractions so much, plus she is quite shady with her phone & keeps it on silent...

i want to trust her, but she is not making it easy...

 

[GunShow85]

I'm curious how this ended. Guessing she was dating a lot of guys (male friends) and your gut was right. Also, curious if you caught feelings?

 

[Roni_88]

I learned my lesson from online dating in the past.

If you are looking for QUALITY women - do the homework and approach/meet women in real life like the good ol' days and earn your bread & butter the hard way.

I believe as a part of the journey of becoming a true DJ, a man must do the real hard work of approach, attract, contact, meet/date, build rapport, and seal the deal (whatever it is that you want out of it).

Online dating is full of low quality people, including ones with ISSUES that causes them to hide behind a computer online profile.

If I meet a woman in real life and she tells me she does online dating, that is an AUTOMATIC NEXT for me, no matter how hot or great her personality is. It is VERY difficult to build trust with a woman who does the online thing, it SCREAMS out Attention WHOORE in BIG LETTERS and I have no time for that sh!t.

But again, I only date women for LTR possibilities - this is not advice for those who just wants to get laid.

Be well.

Exodus

After doing online dating for 10 years and seeing it all...cant agree more on 90 percent that you will find there. Its for quickfixes and bye

 

[MrWood]

I would have nexted her just for the dildo and lube
hell, Iam ready to next a HB8 just for her rubbing her cl1t during sex

her bringing a dildo is like you bringing a porta-pvssy to a date.

 

[marmel75]

I would have nexted her just for the dildo and lube
hell, Iam ready to next a HB8 just for her rubbing her cl1t during sex

her bringing a dildo is like you bringing a porta-pvssy to a date.

Why would you next a chick for rubbing her **** during sex? That's what it's there for...maybe you should take the hint and rub it for her.

This is one of those SMFH posts...I mean why would you want a chick to have orgasms/squirt when you are banging her so she can then associate those feelings with you? How terrible, lmao

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Some guys have dildos as part of their arsenal. It may get used when he's doing oral, or he may have one up her anus while he's hitting the pvssy or vise versa. She could also use a vibrator on her **** while she's giving oral.

 

[MrWood]

because once i told my latest plate to stop doing it,
she had her first orgasm during sex without her rubbing it herself after 44years and 2 husbands

and guys... especially first sex with a new partner, she brings a dildo...

what a wonderful way to emasculate a man...

 

[casanova_goat]

Has she spoken about wanting a relationship? All the things you enumerated in the opening post don't seem to indicate she is. But your instincts are better than some guy's opinion online.