I have news for you...I've done it and it's not easy. It's the hardest job I've ever had to do AND the most stressful. I've worked rapid rotation 12 1/2 hour shifts on my feet in steel toes on a concrete floor lifting about 35-40 lbs repeatedly all shift long while operating manufacturing machines and keeping the materials stocked. THAT was a very physically demanding job. It was also EASIER than staying at home all day long with young children.
Give me a break. This is typical women BS. Try and be responsibile for a $100 million contract - with 10 guys working under you, a Senior VP breathing down your neck every second of the day - and then tell me about stress and pressure of a job. You can't turn that off when you go home - your "ON" 24 hours a day. But women don't give a crap about that - because feeding a baby and nursing them to sleep, running the vaccum, washing the dishes and throwing the clothes in the washing machine is a pressure job.
You clearly aren't familiar with kids if you actually think little kids would even sit in front of a tv for that long. Young kids have a short attention span for starters. They also tend to get into things and make one hell of a huge mess if not watched closely. My youngest son managed to get outside and into the car and get it running and in drive at 2 years old in the amount of time it took me to go pee. You have NO idea how much work it is to raise kids and essentially have to be the one who takes care of them virtually 24/7.
No I am.
I have yet to meet a kid who does not sit down and watch Finding Nemo, Toy Story, or Monsters all the way through. There are probably exceptions - but they are that.
Again typical of a woman - they have the hardest job.
What vacations? Listen to your own attitude. Poor Dad has worked all day...he's not going to take care of the kids to give Mom a break. Of course, she's put in just as many hours as Dad has. And often time Dad sits at a desk all day and doesn't physically exert himself at all while she's literally running around trying to keep the little ones from tearing the house apart, hurting themselves or ruining things. Sorry...but Dad earning money to pay the bills isn't payment. It's his responsibility to do that. If the woman is working outside of the home too it's her responsibility as well. Men typically don't value or appreciate a woman who stays home to care for her children. You just showed that by acting like all the stay at home Mom does is sit on her butt all day. I'm sure you expect that any woman you marry or are involved with would appreciate and value you and your contributions. So why do you hold yourself to different standards?
You need to stop jumping to conclusions. You need to re-read YOUr original statement and YOUR attitude.
Let me remind you:
With feedings every 4 hours, new moms don't get enough sleep. When a person doesn't get enough sleep they are tired. Sex is the last thing on their minds because they are already exhausted when they start their day from lack of sleep. If the new father helps and is patient with the changes in his relationship and takes an active role in helping and becoming a family instead of just a couple with a baby it makes a world of difference. Those changes are temporary IF the husband chooses to embrace being a family instead of resenting the changes. If the man sulks, resents and is jealous and doesn't take an active role in caring for and raising the baby he and his wife start to grow in different directions shortly after the birth. It sounds like this is what happened to you to some extent. Also, if the husband keeps busting his wife's chops for not giving him any attention when she is exhausted, suffering from sleep depravation and feels like her husband is jealous of her caring for the baby that needs her to take care of all of it's needs...she is going to resent you and isn't going to want to be intimate with you.
this is YOUR pitty party.
Women need to start taking care of their men - and it's obviopus from the divorce rate that to a certain extent that is not happening.
Like usual, Women just b#tch and Moan about their situations - how tough a job it is, lack of sleep, stress etc. etc. etc. It's endless.
If women are not capable of tking care of their men and children - then they to to live with the consequences. That's just the way it is. Women want a family, but can't stop complaining about it when they get it. Put up or shut up.
You hold traditional stay at home mothers in contempt.
Nope. I hold single mothers in contempt. I have much respect for stay at home mothers - who take care of their business. I hold in contempt mothers who b#tch and complain about their situation - and those who do not take care of their business. Dad's take care of their business with little complaint - mothers should do the same.
Oh please. Anyone can get and keep a good job. It's easy. Raising kids to be responsible, well adjusted adults is far harder and much more important in the grand scheme of things.
You've obviously never had a good job.
Here you ago again degrading Dad's who put the roof over their families head and food on the table. Your job is more important - Whoa is me.
Based on what I read here every day I have formed the opinion that the vast majority of men aren't willing to give much of anything in a relationship
There are exceptions to every rule - and there's a reason why you read that here - it's because most guys here have been fvcked over by said women.
Men give up more than women in a relationship. Their goals and passions are one.
A lot of new mothers bring their babies into their bed...especially if they are nursing. It makes 2 o'clock feedings much easier and allows you to catch a little extra and much needed sleep. If that's what she was doing her husband should have cared about her getting enough sleep to be okay with that. Since when is a man's need for sex any more important than the woman's need for more than 2 or 3 hours of sleep?
See - again it's all about the woman isn't it.
Forget about the fact that the reason she can stay at home - live in a home, afford to have children is the fact that he works his a## of and brings home the money to allow that. But you don't give a cr#p aout that. It's all about WOMEN.
It's all he's asking to to be able to go to bed at night with his wife - to get laid once in a while - he would have settled for maintenance sex 1 per week - but no, it's her and the baby first and foremost.
Men are more than willing to do their fair share - but if women are cutting off their man - then they can expect to reap what they plant.
and none of the single mothers I know were left by their husbands. They were the ones to leave the man.
and who picked those men? who opened their legs for them - even though the MAJORITY - new what they were getting into?
You talk about putting your kids first, but women very easily walk away from men - and what happens to the kids then?
You want to talk about selfish - women are selfish. Often having kids out of wedlock. Having kids with a guy she KNOWS is wrong. Don't tell me women put their kids first - they put THEMSELVES first. Because if they put their kids first they wouldn't be single mothers - they wouldn't be leavign the fathers
(NOTE there are always exceptions - abusive relationship etc. are exceptions)
Your argument works two ways just as it takes TWO people to make or break a relationship. Healthy couples enjoy having sex with each other. If one partner doesn't want sex THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG WITH THE RELATIONSHIP. That is all...
Again - if a relationship is not working after a baby - it was not working BEFORE. she spread her legs before the kid - but will not after? that BS.
Women need to wake up.
If they are so concerned with their kids, they to to think about that before opening their legs.
that's all I have to say on the matter.
Guys,
Buyer beware.
I'll bet the farm youve been to a bar or club since you squeezed out a kid, so your trash aswell I take it? But that doesnt count right?
