should i continue?

[wherealltheladyz]

Hey guys, I'm new to this forum. I've been lurking and reading the threads on here. Its pretty good. It made me realize some of the stuff I did was wrong.

There is this girl that I'm talking to. We have school together, but rarely talk. We just started talking mroe over the summer. Well I built up the courage to ask her out. She agreed and we went to get some coffee. She texted me on the day of the date to ask are we still hanging out because I didn't text anything to her on that day. The date went well. We spent 3 hours talking. About a week later I ask her out again. I told her that there is this great place to eat that I want to take her to, and does she want to go. She said sure, and where is this place. I told her that it would be a surprise. Well I picked her up on the second date. We had a great dinner as well. She is very funny and pretty. She also texted me one time when I was at the beach with my family. She told me why I didn't text her when I knew she was there as well and that we could do something.


However, I'm a little concern that she never initiated any text. Just once that was about the trip. She told me she was afraid to talk to people. I also heard her one time talking to the teacher that she has panic attacks. She also doesn't ask me very much about myself. I don't know if it just an unconscious thing. I usually answer her before she gets to ask something. She have invited me to school parties and stuff. I knew I should of made a move when I drop her off. It look as though she was waiting for something. She didn't want to leave the car and kept on talking. I try making eye contact with her. We would gaze for about 5 or 6 seconds then she would look down then up again.

When she left she also told me you should stop paying for me. I will pay for us next time.

I don't know. She looks shy, but when I ask her questions she talks, and its a lot! She talks about what she likes, her family. The drive back was kind of awkward as I didn't want to ask her anything anymore. She initiated the conversation on the drive back. She also plays with her hair for a long time while we were driving. However, that is not a good sign as I know a lot of girls play with her hair.

I read somewhere that if they arent interested in you they would want to return the favor. I mean I don't mind paying. She said she would pay for us next time.

 

[DonJuanabe]

Stop thinking. Kiss her. On the lips. If you need a gimmick try this when you two are standing near each other: Confidently with a little bit of flirting say "I dare you to take one step toward me." If she does, you take her in your arms and kiss her -- she knows exactly what's going to happen. If she doesn't, and instead says you take a step toward me, then she wants you to step forward and kiss her, so you do it.

 

[JohnChops]

Hey guys, I'm new to this forum. I've been lurking and reading the threads on here. Its pretty good. It made me realize some of the stuff I did was wrong.

There is this girl that I'm talking to. We have school together, but rarely talk. We just started talking mroe over the summer. Well I built up the courage to ask her out. She agreed and we went to get some coffee. She texted me on the day of the date to ask are we still hanging out because I didn't text anything to her on that day. The date went well. We spent 3 hours talking. About a week later I ask her out again. I told her that there is this great place to eat that I want to take her to, and does she want to go. She said sure, and where is this place. I told her that it would be a surprise. Well I picked her up on the second date. We had a great dinner as well. She is very funny and pretty. She also texted me one time when I was at the beach with my family. She told me why I didn't text her when I knew she was there as well and that we could do something.


However, I'm a little concern that she never initiated any text. Just once that was about the trip. She told me she was afraid to talk to people. I also heard her one time talking to the teacher that she has panic attacks. She also doesn't ask me very much about myself. I don't know if it just an unconscious thing. I usually answer her before she gets to ask something. She have invited me to school parties and stuff. I knew I should of made a move when I drop her off. It look as though she was waiting for something. She didn't want to leave the car and kept on talking. I try making eye contact with her. We would gaze for about 5 or 6 seconds then she would look down then up again.

When she left she also told me you should stop paying for me. I will pay for us next time.


I don't know. She looks shy, but when I ask her questions she talks, and its a lot! She talks about what she likes, her family. The drive back was kind of awkward as I didn't want to ask her anything anymore. She initiated the conversation on the drive back. She also plays with her hair for a long time while we were driving. However, that is not a good sign as I know a lot of girls play with her hair.

I read somewhere that if they arent interested in you they would want to return the favor. I mean I don't mind paying. She said she would pay for us next time.

Key word in the bold "us" if you just kiss her and make things sexual then that "us" will turn into a relationship . Shes clearly into you and she said she was shy but opens up to YOU.

Also why do you care if she plays with her hair? Stop picking up on these signals they lead to overthinking and then failure in the worst possible way. Instead just assume shes attracted (She already is) and just keep it moving. Make moves, hold her hand, take her places, KISS HER DAMN IT IF YOU DONT ILL SHUV MY FOOT UP YOUR A$$! Dont let her get away, if she says shes shy and she opens up to you .... that should click in your mind as a GOOD SIGN!

ITS ALL YOU MAN! YOU GOT THIS! ASK HER OUT AND MAKE A MOVE!

-JohnChops:rockon:

 

[wherealltheladyz]

I dont know guys. For a shy person she talks a lot! She doesn't really open up while we were at school. Like she talksa bout what her family use to do. She even told me to not look at her house because its a mess. I dont know guys.

 

[DonJuanabe]

Are you a f'ing troll? Sometimes shy people blabber on and on because they don't know what else to do. And she isn't going to open up at school because there are other people around. She feels safer when she is with you. Either kiss her or you will be lamenting this lost opportunity in the future.

Answer this: in her mind, between you and her, who does she think is supposed to make the first move for a kiss?????

 

[wherealltheladyz]

No, I'm not a troll. I admire the work from you guys. It's very informative, and I'm just learning.

 

[flashpoint]

why is it that all guys become pussays? like trying to figure out what she thinks and what she wants and yaddayaddayadda. now i realize you must be very young so know this: you'r the man! you dont analyze her or your situation with her to death before making a move. instead you act on what you want and see that she is comfortable with it.

she is hangin out with you, she talks lots with you, she likes you being around her. more often than not these are all the signals you ll get. do you like her? well then SHOW HER! you know how girls tell whether a guy likes them or not? when he makes a move, when he touches her, when he wants to kiss her, when he at least tries to get into her pants. that is the kind of "like" they really understand.

so dont be afraid, do what you want to and see what comes. or else she will think you are either not interested "this way" in her and slowly but surely you become a friend or she will think you are interested "this way" but too insecure to act on that and so she'll lose all respect and you become a "friend".

now next time your with her you go for the kiss as Donjuanabe already told you to.