Should I continue trying?

Agamemnon43

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He is too young. Everyone at that age used to daydream, fall in love, get butterflies in stomach when you see her, etc. I don't think big advices from here can help him much. It will go away with time and experience. I think he should actually try hard, get rejected or whatever happens, and then learn from the experience itself. Enjoy these things while you can, later you will have time to do it properly when you mature.
However, all of the advices that guys gave you here are appropriate, try to remember them.
 

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He is too young. Everyone at that age used to daydream, fall in love, get butterflies in stomach when you see her, etc. I don't think big advices from here can help him much. It will go away with time and experience. I think he should actually try hard, get rejected or whatever happens, and then learn from the experience itself. Enjoy these things while you can, later you will have time to do it properly when you mature.
However, all of the advices that guys gave you here are appropriate, try to remember them.
That's the problem man. Shen Im in high school i did nothing for girls and now I don't know what to do. So I don't know. I'm 20.
 

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Can I generate that mystery or must i forget?
Well...

You could have her interrogated about her relationship with you by someone official looking so she thinks that you were boring to try and fit in, but you're a target and the intelligence services are looking for you.
 

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I love a girl from my class.
You don't love her.

You pedestal a girl because she is hot and you fancy he because you like to bang her.
If she was interested she would give you the clues that she's into you but you are not. So you are just in her friend zone and yet another horny follower at best to feed her ego with male attention.

Forget her, ignore her and move on.
There is 4.5 billion girls in the world and she is not special and "the one" doesn't exist.
 

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Can I generate that mystery or must i forget?
Not in the short term , disappear for a year or two then re-appear its possible but by then you will have forgotten about her anyway
 

At this point you probably have a woman (or multiple women) chasing you around, calling you all the time, wanting to be with you. So let's talk about how to KEEP a woman interested in you once you have her. This is BIG! There is nothing worse than getting dumped by a woman that you really, really like.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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You need to watch the movie “last American virgin”. Then come back and tell us what you think.
 

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Not in the short term , disappear for a year or two then re-appear its possible but by then you will have forgotten about her anyway
It's not posibble because We are in same class. So I will try to let her go and Work more on myself. Thank you.
 

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Hey guys. I accepted that we cant be with this girl. I saw her with a guy again. But how should i treat her?
Like a friend or no contact?
 

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Hey guys. I accepted that we cant be with this girl. I saw her with a guy again. But how should i treat her?
Like a friend or no contact?
1. Get your OCD treated. Focus on that before thinking about girls.
2. Move on to other girls after you've done that.
3. Start treating this girl just as a friend since you need more social experience, and making more female friends is a great investment for social circle game.
4. Stop trying to do steps 2 and 3 before doing step 1.
5. DO STEP 1
 

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Hey guys. I accepted that we cant be with this girl. I saw her with a guy again. But how should i treat her?
Like a friend or no contact?
with irrelevance

if she's not into you then move on asap and find better options. it's the most effective and only thing you can do that will be productive for you unless you enjoy wasting time
 

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1. Get your OCD treated. Focus on that before thinking about girls.
2. Move on to other girls after you've done that.
3. Start treating this girl just as a friend since you need more social experience, and making more female friends is a great investment for social circle game.
4. Stop trying to do steps 2 and 3 before doing step 1.
5. DO STEP 1
I went to a psychiatrist. I was using medication, but he said I could stop taking medication. He probably didn't think it was a big problem with me.
Also he sait get a therapy but I don't know. I don't have enough money for it nowadays as a student.
Actually I'm better now. I'm trying to learn to control it.

For step 3, I agree with you. I need tooooo much social experience. It's my main problem. But this girl isn't have friends. She was have much but one day She said allf of her friends "She doesn't want to be friend no more" and they aren't speaking now. So She isn't good for social experiences :D
But as i said I really need experience. I read something but experience is my main problem.
 

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with irrelevance

if she's not into you then move on asap and find better options. it's the most effective and only thing you can do that will be productive for you unless you enjoy wasting time
I don't asking this.
I know we can't be together but we are in same class.
So for example When I see her Should I say her good morning?
For example one day she didn't look my message for 3 days and left it seen. Should we be still friends or should I try no contact?
 
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