I was dating a girl, well seeing her, for about 6 month about a year ago before we broke it off. We never really dated officially but we did all the couple **** - went on dates, slept at each others place and were mutual to each other - without the title. We made summer plans before we met - I ended up going travelling over the summer as did she - and at this point we were 'broken up'. Once we came back from our respective travels, we didn't really talk much. I still liked her and wanted to pursue her but she showed no interest in that, instead wanting to pursue a friendship. I thought that was bull**** so I cut her out completely. Stopped responding to texts and evaded her attempts to meet up with me. Of course I missed her and wanted to be with her but I wasn't about to have her play with my feelings, because I still wanted to be with her.
Fast forward 3 months, when we started to talk again, while I was abroad. we talked for weeks and weeks after and then she invited me over to her place. Thinking we were starting to rekindle things, I went over there. We hung out for 90 mins and were having a great time, before one of her friends came over, at which time I figured that we weren't really rekindling anything. That was her attempt at maintaining a friendship. I left a bit disappointed and figured that was a bust, so I decided not to spend any more time thinking about her.
Fast forward 3 more months to the present - She had been texting me a couple of weeks and I would reluctantly reply, but after a few days the conversation would get rolling and some feelings for her would come back. She invited me over again, for dinner this time, when her roommates were away. We cooked dinner together then kept hanging out - it felt natural and as if nothing changed from the first time we were together. We ended up having sex that night, really hot passionate sex, and I stayed the night. The next night, I invited her over, we hung out and then had sex again but she didn't stay the night, as she worked in the morning. She invited me to meet with her friend the next day - we had a good time, then I met with her that evening for a drink and we went back to her place. No sex this time but we slept together and the next morning kissed her goodbye and took off.
Ive been trying to hang out with her since (this was a week ago), but all I've gotten is 2 30min lunch dates on her work breaks. For some reason I feel like she's disinterested all of a sudden and I think I'm getting slightly insecure about it. Ive never been a great texter so that hasn't changed much and our conversations aren't elaborate over text but... in person we click and we laugh out loud and our conversations flow very well. Right now my feelings for her are back and I want to be with her.
Should I just go about my life and see what she does, not make an effort on way or the other in spending time with her - or should I continue to actively pursue her?
Fast forward 3 months, when we started to talk again, while I was abroad. we talked for weeks and weeks after and then she invited me over to her place. Thinking we were starting to rekindle things, I went over there. We hung out for 90 mins and were having a great time, before one of her friends came over, at which time I figured that we weren't really rekindling anything. That was her attempt at maintaining a friendship. I left a bit disappointed and figured that was a bust, so I decided not to spend any more time thinking about her.
Fast forward 3 more months to the present - She had been texting me a couple of weeks and I would reluctantly reply, but after a few days the conversation would get rolling and some feelings for her would come back. She invited me over again, for dinner this time, when her roommates were away. We cooked dinner together then kept hanging out - it felt natural and as if nothing changed from the first time we were together. We ended up having sex that night, really hot passionate sex, and I stayed the night. The next night, I invited her over, we hung out and then had sex again but she didn't stay the night, as she worked in the morning. She invited me to meet with her friend the next day - we had a good time, then I met with her that evening for a drink and we went back to her place. No sex this time but we slept together and the next morning kissed her goodbye and took off.
Ive been trying to hang out with her since (this was a week ago), but all I've gotten is 2 30min lunch dates on her work breaks. For some reason I feel like she's disinterested all of a sudden and I think I'm getting slightly insecure about it. Ive never been a great texter so that hasn't changed much and our conversations aren't elaborate over text but... in person we click and we laugh out loud and our conversations flow very well. Right now my feelings for her are back and I want to be with her.
Should I just go about my life and see what she does, not make an effort on way or the other in spending time with her - or should I continue to actively pursue her?
