BlueberryMuffins
Don Juan
At the beginning of this month (June) a HB8 contacted me online, very interested in me. At first I thought it was a scam because it was too good to be true (she is way too hot to be online dating like that lol). She insisted I add her on Facebook. I was hesitant, as I dont normally add people I do not know (I like my privacy). I told her I'd rather get to know her first. She kept insisting I add her. After a few flirty text messages over a few days she convinced me to add her. She is a ballet instructor, zumba instructor and a makeup girl at Dillard's. SMOKING HOT. She's 32 (2 years older than me) and has a teenage son (never married).
That weekend I went out of town to another city, for a concert festival. I told her I would take her out on a date the very next week, as soon as I got back into town. She must have forgot because that Sunday she text me and asked "hey lets go grab a beer?", and I reminded her that Id love to except I was....3 hours away. She gets on Facebook and posts "I cant find a date so I am going to start dating myself!! Im such a good date too
". I called her and told her that was crazy talk and I would take her out any time she is ready.
So the next week rolls around. I asked her about finally going on that first date. She replied that she cant, she too is going out of town (to the same city I visited, where she is from). I thought nothing of it. Ok, cool. I'll take a raincheck.
I still had not met this girl in person yet. The weekdays go by without any communication. That Friday, out of the blue, she texts me and says "Hey! Come up to my work right now, before closing. I want to meet you!". So, eagerly, I went up there thinking maybe we would go out on our first date right then, spur of the moment. I was ready. I finally meet the HB8 and she is really super nice and totally great (smoking hot too). She sat me down and put all kinds of lotions and skin toners on my face and arms and all over my body. It was a turn on. She had no problem rubbing that stuff all over me, it felt really great and smelled wonderful! She played with my hands and told me they were small, even though I am really huge guy. She was sizing me up. And I let her. She asked me "So when are you taking me on a date?" and I said "Whenever you are finally ready. Now? Tomorrow? YOU let ME know when!". She loved that. She gave me her business card (I gave her mine) and we had a few quick laughs before I left her store. She also said she couldnt go out that night, she had to take her son to the movies, which was fine by me. I was tired. We made plans for Monday or Weds to have our first date.
Monday rolls around and I didnt seem to get ahold of her. I didnt think much about it. Apparently she was doing makeup for some independent film, and was "on location" and didnt have time. Whatever, no big deal. Finally on Tuesday I got ahold of her and she agreed that we would go out Weds, the next day. I spent a ton of time trying to figure out what was open late enough (she gets off work 9 PM or later). I did mega-research finding a place (a French restaurant). At 8:30 PM Weds she texts me and says she has to "raincheck". I was STUNNED. SHOCKED. Furious...but kept calm. A friend of mine gave me advice and said to "set your pride aside" and that "her problems are bigger than you, so trust her". He was right. Instead of giving her a piece of my mind and ending it all then, I simply asked her "what's going on? is everything okay?". This was a smart (and un-natural move for me) because she went into detail about not having a babysitter and feeling really awful and embarassed about it, etc. I told her not to worry, that we would reschedule. I told her that I "understood her situation as a mother" and it totally won me brownie points. I think she was afraid to tell me about her situation with her son for some reason, as if it would scare me away. Essentially, I gave her a second chance, which is really not my style at all. My guts told me to destroy her, LOL.
Anyways, by this time, I have only met this woman ONCE, for about 30 minutes at her job (that previous Friday). The next Friday, I thought to myself..."she's probably closing again. I'll go up there and take her out this time". So I text her and told her I was coming up there to take her out to her favorite restaurant next door to her job. She agrees, happily. I get there at 9 PM and ended up waiting until 9:30 PM with a table for her. She was late (due to customers). No problem. I told her "this isnt a first date. this is a PRE first date". I dont think she liked that, but I insisted our real date would be much better than the lame restaurant she eats at every other day, and that she wouldnt be in work clothes either, LOL.
Our spur of the moment "pre-date" went VERY well. It was over an hour long. She talked and talked and talked (women do all the talking if you let them). She told me that she gets a 55% discount on clothes at Dillard's and I should go up there the following week to get some Ralph Lauren shirts (because I have a billion). That was a hookup and it showed me that she has been watching me and noticing my clothing (on Facebook, etc). Then she was really impressed that I enjoy dancing (two step). She insisted that I take her the next Monday or Tuesday. She also insisted that we go take some salsa lessons together, since I am so afraid to try it, LOL. She also mentioned a local taco restaraunt (that is featured in Quentin Tarantino movies often) for breakfast on Sunday. I know of better breakfast/brunch places I wanted to take her, and we agreed our next date would be Sunday brunch.
I paid for the meal ($60 because she had two glasses of wine, etc). She asked me to walk her to her car so "she doesnt get raped". I was kinda shocked she would say something like that. Anyways, I walked her to her car and we held hands. I normally dont kiss on a first date, but she gave me a sweet kiss on the cheek. We both had butterflies and seemed to really hit it off well. It is probably the best first date I've ever had.
So Saturday rolls around. I had changed my Sunday plans with my family in order to meet her for brunch. Saturday night I text her to confirm and she says "cant do brunch, i have plans". Then I see on Facebook some dude tagged her in a checkin at a restaraunt across from her job (one she had mentioned had salsa dancing on saturdays). So I figure she went salsa dancing with that guy. Ok, whatever.
Sunday morning I wake up and on Facebook her relationship status changed from "single" to "in a relationship". To top it off she put up a photo of him and her, about to kiss. I was so shocked and sick to my stomach. I immediately deleted her off of Facebook and out of my cell phone. I have spent almost a month trying to date this woman and had so many obstacles (some mine, some hers). I had noticed this guy on her Facebook page but never thought much of it. He lives in that city 3 hours away, he does not even live here. All of this is so odd to me, but I am kinda over it.
My problem is that, I feel like she won. I want to go up to her job Friday and tell her that she played me, and that it wasnt cool at all. I want to tell her to leave people's hearts alone, that's risky business. Should I go give her a piece of my mind? I dont want to be rude or anything like that, but I want her to know that Im not just a facebook friend, or some text message, that I am a real person with a heart. She really messed me up and I dont even know what to do. I have bad luck it seems.
Any feedback is appreciated on how to handle this. Should I tell her (in person) that she is an evil *****?
That weekend I went out of town to another city, for a concert festival. I told her I would take her out on a date the very next week, as soon as I got back into town. She must have forgot because that Sunday she text me and asked "hey lets go grab a beer?", and I reminded her that Id love to except I was....3 hours away. She gets on Facebook and posts "I cant find a date so I am going to start dating myself!! Im such a good date too
". I called her and told her that was crazy talk and I would take her out any time she is ready. So the next week rolls around. I asked her about finally going on that first date. She replied that she cant, she too is going out of town (to the same city I visited, where she is from). I thought nothing of it. Ok, cool. I'll take a raincheck.
I still had not met this girl in person yet. The weekdays go by without any communication. That Friday, out of the blue, she texts me and says "Hey! Come up to my work right now, before closing. I want to meet you!". So, eagerly, I went up there thinking maybe we would go out on our first date right then, spur of the moment. I was ready. I finally meet the HB8 and she is really super nice and totally great (smoking hot too). She sat me down and put all kinds of lotions and skin toners on my face and arms and all over my body. It was a turn on. She had no problem rubbing that stuff all over me, it felt really great and smelled wonderful! She played with my hands and told me they were small, even though I am really huge guy. She was sizing me up. And I let her. She asked me "So when are you taking me on a date?" and I said "Whenever you are finally ready. Now? Tomorrow? YOU let ME know when!". She loved that. She gave me her business card (I gave her mine) and we had a few quick laughs before I left her store. She also said she couldnt go out that night, she had to take her son to the movies, which was fine by me. I was tired. We made plans for Monday or Weds to have our first date.
Monday rolls around and I didnt seem to get ahold of her. I didnt think much about it. Apparently she was doing makeup for some independent film, and was "on location" and didnt have time. Whatever, no big deal. Finally on Tuesday I got ahold of her and she agreed that we would go out Weds, the next day. I spent a ton of time trying to figure out what was open late enough (she gets off work 9 PM or later). I did mega-research finding a place (a French restaurant). At 8:30 PM Weds she texts me and says she has to "raincheck". I was STUNNED. SHOCKED. Furious...but kept calm. A friend of mine gave me advice and said to "set your pride aside" and that "her problems are bigger than you, so trust her". He was right. Instead of giving her a piece of my mind and ending it all then, I simply asked her "what's going on? is everything okay?". This was a smart (and un-natural move for me) because she went into detail about not having a babysitter and feeling really awful and embarassed about it, etc. I told her not to worry, that we would reschedule. I told her that I "understood her situation as a mother" and it totally won me brownie points. I think she was afraid to tell me about her situation with her son for some reason, as if it would scare me away. Essentially, I gave her a second chance, which is really not my style at all. My guts told me to destroy her, LOL.
Anyways, by this time, I have only met this woman ONCE, for about 30 minutes at her job (that previous Friday). The next Friday, I thought to myself..."she's probably closing again. I'll go up there and take her out this time". So I text her and told her I was coming up there to take her out to her favorite restaurant next door to her job. She agrees, happily. I get there at 9 PM and ended up waiting until 9:30 PM with a table for her. She was late (due to customers). No problem. I told her "this isnt a first date. this is a PRE first date". I dont think she liked that, but I insisted our real date would be much better than the lame restaurant she eats at every other day, and that she wouldnt be in work clothes either, LOL.
Our spur of the moment "pre-date" went VERY well. It was over an hour long. She talked and talked and talked (women do all the talking if you let them). She told me that she gets a 55% discount on clothes at Dillard's and I should go up there the following week to get some Ralph Lauren shirts (because I have a billion). That was a hookup and it showed me that she has been watching me and noticing my clothing (on Facebook, etc). Then she was really impressed that I enjoy dancing (two step). She insisted that I take her the next Monday or Tuesday. She also insisted that we go take some salsa lessons together, since I am so afraid to try it, LOL. She also mentioned a local taco restaraunt (that is featured in Quentin Tarantino movies often) for breakfast on Sunday. I know of better breakfast/brunch places I wanted to take her, and we agreed our next date would be Sunday brunch.
I paid for the meal ($60 because she had two glasses of wine, etc). She asked me to walk her to her car so "she doesnt get raped". I was kinda shocked she would say something like that. Anyways, I walked her to her car and we held hands. I normally dont kiss on a first date, but she gave me a sweet kiss on the cheek. We both had butterflies and seemed to really hit it off well. It is probably the best first date I've ever had.
So Saturday rolls around. I had changed my Sunday plans with my family in order to meet her for brunch. Saturday night I text her to confirm and she says "cant do brunch, i have plans
". Then I see on Facebook some dude tagged her in a checkin at a restaraunt across from her job (one she had mentioned had salsa dancing on saturdays). So I figure she went salsa dancing with that guy. Ok, whatever.Sunday morning I wake up and on Facebook her relationship status changed from "single" to "in a relationship". To top it off she put up a photo of him and her, about to kiss. I was so shocked and sick to my stomach. I immediately deleted her off of Facebook and out of my cell phone. I have spent almost a month trying to date this woman and had so many obstacles (some mine, some hers). I had noticed this guy on her Facebook page but never thought much of it. He lives in that city 3 hours away, he does not even live here. All of this is so odd to me, but I am kinda over it.
My problem is that, I feel like she won. I want to go up to her job Friday and tell her that she played me, and that it wasnt cool at all. I want to tell her to leave people's hearts alone, that's risky business. Should I go give her a piece of my mind? I dont want to be rude or anything like that, but I want her to know that Im not just a facebook friend, or some text message, that I am a real person with a heart. She really messed me up and I dont even know what to do. I have bad luck it seems.
Any feedback is appreciated on how to handle this. Should I tell her (in person) that she is an evil *****?
