Should I chalk this fumbled seduction up to experience?

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So its my buddy's and my last few nights at college and he calls these girls up. They are both 18, He is 22 and I am 23. He's nailed one of them before, so he was pretty much sewn up for the night. So we go to the bar and I dance with the other one and chat her up. I guess I was neutral. After the bar, we go to a house party where I dance with both chix. We grind pretty hard and I rub in between the legs and on the breasts. But, I made a fatal misread by not trying more than that. My buddy went to kiss the girl he had already banged and I just continued dancing. The other girl wasnt really giving me any eye contact or signs she wanted to be kissed. I was like, wtf, does this chick like me? Well, long story short. We leave the party after like 2 hours, we go back to my buddy's place. I was on the couch (its a very long couch). So I was sprawled and preparing to sleep. Asked the girls if they wanted me to get another blanket for them. They eluded to the fact of yes. So I go get one and tell them to come in the living room and get it. They keep telling me to bring it to them. They were in an empty bedroom using toilet tissue rolls as tissue rolls. So, I made a terribly destructive comment, "why are you guys being lame, you were lame the whole night". I said this because the two girls were kissing and dancing with each other the whole night. The one girl showed me neutral attention, so I did not know wtf. Then like immediately after that comment (its already like 5am) theyre like, "let's leave" all because of my comment. Apparently this really struck a cord with them and they immediately left. So, my buddy calls to do damage control and apparently the other chick really wanted me and made the comment, "I wanted some ass tonite" implying she wanted to fawk me. Now I feel terrible. I have a decent amount of experience seducing chicks, but I was extremely tired that nite and she wasnt giving me really any signs besides letting me dance with her. She seemed somewhat distant if you ask me. But then she says she wanted me bad, wtf? I dont understand chicks. I mean if she wouldve showed me some extended eye contact or something. I dunno if I should chalk that up to her being young and not knowing how to seduce herself and also chalk it up to experience and leave this alone. Or, should I try and remedy the situation and try again since I know she liked me, input please? Thanks.
 

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Maybe she didn't. She could've said that knowing that it would make you feel bad. Her way at getting back at you.
 

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dunno about that, more input please
 

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it seems like its really common for girl to say that kinda ****, for example a girl rejected me while i asked her out during finals week, then couple days later i met her friend in a party and her friend said that she(the one that rejected me) likes me and think that i am cute blah blah blah, but if you think about it its totally contradicted to the philosophy of "if shes interested she will make herself avaliable"
so ya it does seems like that chick is just saying that for the hell of it?
 

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that was a great situation for the old 'get her to be alone with you' technique.

its already known that when women are in a group, even just two women, they are less likely to do something to make themselves look slutty or insulted. women don't want that gossip from their girlfriends.

if you get her alone, there is more likely a chance you can get her to open up sexually because there are no other people there to judge her.

in your scenerio, after you guys went to your buddy's...i would have told that girl you were with to walk with you to the store so you can get some smokes, food, drinks, etc - then whipser in her ear that you want to give your buddy and her friend some private time...then gently hold her by the hand and accompany her out of the apartment...

NOW MAKE YOUR MOVE...i'd place a wager that she would have been more receptive to your advances if she and you were alone...this technique works wonders.

after you said that comment about being lame...she probably thought you were some jerk guy that all he wanted was sex...patience bro..patience. if you were too tired, you should have done a number close and meet up with your girl another time..

but, we've all f*cked up in the past...i'd chalk it up to experience for that night.
 

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ok, update. I may get a chance this Tuesday to remedy the situation. What should I do? Apologize for calling them lame and say I was tired, say she wasnt giving me any signs or what?
 

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She was prolly playing hard to get.

As for tuesday...

Try not to bring it up unless she brings it up.

If she does, try and use a C+F cover.
"I know I called you lame but I was too tired to do you right and I wanted to wait. However, My face is leaving in 10min. Be on it!

I'm not great at C+F when I think ahead, it has to be spontaneous for me.

NOTE: That cheesy pickup line is a place holder. Use at your own risk!

It's all experience in the end so if you don't think it will work have fun with it.
 

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Damn, let this be a lesson. YOU should have done the damage control immediately after you said the "lame" statement, not your friend. Never heard of a double-****block, before.

As the night grew late, you got all conscious wondering what the girls were thinking of you, when you should have stayed positive and kept on seducing. This is a great example to all the readers here to not give up so easily and be tempted to make a negative comment.

I think you can salvage this, though. They're young and older men appeal to them. Don't bring it up unless they do, just act suave the next time you meet and have condoms ready.
 

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Who cares, if you didn't want to do it or feel it, You didn't. You didn't because there wasn't super attraction between the both of you (signs) so there was doubt on BOTH people.

I know sometimes when I dance with a girl I KNOW totally I can move into her and get my freak on, and I know when sometimes there's a certain air of uncertainty. Do I make a move or not? Go with your guts, if you have doubts she may have doubts too.

There was no messing up on anything..besides anything sounds like those two girls are freaks.

Would you rather have a good time and sexually flow into it.. or stress yourself by forcing yourself to be more sexually aggressive?
 

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apparently she already ****ed another dude, dunno if its worth it if she's that promiscuous
 
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Originally posted by Benwin
apparently she already ****ed another dude, dunno if its worth it if she's that promiscuous
R U suprised that she is a tetra-hor??

Dude, these hors were dancing/grinding and kissing each other in public on the dance floor and you guys were with them!!!!!
This is major disrespect for a man - you were right - THEY ARE LAME!!!

They made you guys look like bytches - by their homo actions they were saying "I rather keep company with a woman then the guy I'm with" - They made you guys look like chumps!! I hope you saw this! Why pursue a girl who blatantly disrepects you and herself???

Don't pursue what is not worthy of pursuit!!! I hope you didn't spend any money on them!!
 
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Originally posted by Benwin
apparently she already ****ed another dude, dunno if its worth it if she's that promiscuous
Are you surprised by this?? You shouldn't be!!

Don't pursue this tetra-hor - she disrepected you majorly by grinding and kissing another woman PUBLICLY on the dance floor and leaving your @ss stranded as an on-looker. In other words she was telling everyone publicly "I rather keep company with a woman then this dude I'm with"

Hors have no shame!!

You were right - they were lame. They actually have more respect for you because you said this!!! Most guys would have been too eager to get their hole so they wouldn't have said anything - but you were bold enough to tell them the truth !!! Props!!!

Don't ruin it by chasing this homo hor and validating her behavior and disrespect!!!

You'll feel like a desperate idiot if she turns you down and tells you to screw yourself. .Your dignity is worth much more than a hor’s hole – don’t do it!!
 
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