Should I break up with my gf of 3 years

Trainwreck

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I've been dating this girl for 3 years and it's pretty much been a long distance relationship the whole time. She buys me stuff and tells me she loves me a lot, but it's hard for me to say it back and buy her stuff because I've been struggling with this. In addition, she's even told me she wants me to marry her, but that ain't happening lol. Here's my case

1). I'm about over the LDR mess. I want to be able to hangout with my gf after work or something, not just twice every month or two months and spend most of the time banging out that 2 week dry spell. Plus, time is becoming more valuable to me and wasting a weekend driving to a dumb small town is starting get annoying.

2). We have a conflict of long term goals. She will not finish school for another 2 years while I've been done with school and don't want to move out west or north pretty soon. Even if she graduates, there's no guarantee that she's going to even follow me and will probably stay near her family.

3). She acts like a immature 12 year old stuck in a Disney mindset. The only thing I can do with this girl is eat out and **** because she just pvsses me off in other scenarios with her clinginess and immaturity. For example, I refuse to drink with her because she has went crazy too many times and I banned her from drinking with me

4). I don't want to get married to her. I'm not going to rule out the possibility of me not marrying, but I know for a fact I don't see it with her. As a result, I feel like I'm wasting my time with this girl when I could be meeting other potential women.

What do I do? Is it just me, or do I have a case?
 

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Start seeing other girls and its business as usual with your gf. Show up and fvck her once a month or whenever you get together. I am a big fan of monkey branching on chicks.

If you find a chick close to you that you can have more fun with and has more potential, end it with the current gf.

I see no problems here, just opportunities.
 

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Sounds like OP has no other options or he would have found a closer girl.

Phase her out and phase a closer girl in.
 

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After reading this I wonder why you are with her. You told us what you don't like, what is it that you do like about her?
 

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Cause I'm scared I won't find anybody else.
Dumb her and tell her exactly why (it will also show her your à MAN)
Start dating yourself... Yes its possible and probably will be eye opening... single life is great to find yourself

While discovering and living the life, make chicks à 3rd priority..

If you improve your body, intellect, social skills (group,activities, dancing)... girls will orbit you naturally

So do it, become better, and you will have someone better

Otherwise your 2nd option is staying à trainweck
 

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Cause I'm scared I won't find anybody else.
and that is a problem, youa re afraid of bein alone, ****ing sake you are a men, you shouldn't be scared of being "alone" that is woman are scared of that, woman need validation, you need to concentrate on your life and do things who will help you. long distance never work unless one are willing to move closer, she is not and you are building a new life.

best you really should do is end with her and go improve your life, if you think a character is not a good thing to have and are willing to cheat, have fun around
 

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Do NOT dump her!!

You need to first line up another chick, or two chicks, then just monkey branch over.

Once you got another girl locked down, then slowly phase her out, just tell her it's not working for you.

Woman monkey branch on us guys all of the time..

I'm all about equal opportunities!
 

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ur better off alone bro this bish sounds annoying
 

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I've been dating this girl for 3 years and it's pretty much been a long distance relationship the whole time. She buys me stuff and tells me she loves me a lot, but it's hard for me to say it back and buy her stuff because I've been struggling with this. In addition, she's even told me she wants me to marry her, but that ain't happening lol. Here's my case

1). I'm about over the LDR mess. I want to be able to hangout with my gf after work or something, not just twice every month or two months and spend most of the time banging out that 2 week dry spell. Plus, time is becoming more valuable to me and wasting a weekend driving to a dumb small town is starting get annoying.

2). We have a conflict of long term goals. She will not finish school for another 2 years while I've been done with school and don't want to move out west or north pretty soon. Even if she graduates, there's no guarantee that she's going to even follow me and will probably stay near her family.

3). She acts like a immature 12 year old stuck in a Disney mindset. The only thing I can do with this girl is eat out and **** because she just pvsses me off in other scenarios with her clinginess and immaturity. For example, I refuse to drink with her because she has went crazy too many times and I banned her from drinking with me

4). I don't want to get married to her. I'm not going to rule out the possibility of me not marrying, but I know for a fact I don't see it with her. As a result, I feel like I'm wasting my time with this girl when I could be meeting other potential women.

What do I do? Is it just me, or do I have a case?
You have bills, things you want, etc.

Keep getting shvt from her and have her come and see you instead of you wasting your gas driving there. You can also have her pay for all of the dates that she wants to take you on.
 

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Why would you make her your gf if she bugs you so much? She sounds like plate material.

LDRs just cause sexual frustration. Find a local girl and keep her on the side.
 

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That's the issue, I can't find another girl :(
Look at your own 4), you feel like you're wasting time and not meeting potential women. How do you know you can't get any if you're not even trying. Or you are trying and 4) becomes a moot point.

You have so much free time to go about your business in finding other chicks, plus you don't have the problem of your girl ever finding out unless you tell her.

Man up and get hunting.
 

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That's the issue, I can't find another girl :(
It's easy getting women, you just have to talk to them, it's not that hard. Some will say no but some will say yes to your approach, just stop being a wuss and get out there.
 

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It's easy getting women, you just have to talk to them, it's not that hard. Some will say no but some will say yes to your approach, just stop being a wuss and get out there.
talk to them where?
 

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If you have to ask...

The answer is, most likely, yes.
 
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