Should I break up with her?

[unistork]

I went with my girlfriend to her cousins house for a BBQ and her cousins were there and he brought along other girls and such. The whole time she kept saying those girls were sluts, etc. She brought me into the house and made me stay in the house. When her cousin offered me a beer I took it and she said she wanted to cry cause she doesn't want a guy who drinks. Even though I'm not even a drinker I just would have one because he offered me one. I was kind of embarassed cause I was outside chilling on the chair enjoying and she just called me in the house and dragged me there like she was my mom. Well, today I asked her "How many guys have you kissed since you were with me?" she kept saying "How many girls have you kissed huh?" She wouldn't answer the question until I answered, and I said "none". So then she keeps thinking and I know she kissed another guy on the lips when we were on 'break' and she told me "Non" and I was like BUll**** I know you kissed brad and so then she goes "just you and brad"

This is my first relationship and everytime I told her I wanted to break up we always get back together we were together for a long ass time.. for years. I just want to end it once and for all and find me a new girl but sometimes it's hard and it's like I HAVE to find a girl first before I leave her because she only says "I'll only leave you if you cheat on me" but it's like everytime we talk on the phone WE FIGHT because she INTERVIEWS me she ****in askes me so much questions about cheating on her. It's so annoying. Whenever I bring her along like for a "car cruise" she stays in my car to ANALYZE the way I act with other people. what should I do?

 

[ThisGuy]

Break off contact and see what happens. Do not call her, do not talk to her, avoid her somewhat, but not TOO much (IE don't run away if she starts talking to you). If after several days (at least 3-4 depending on how often you talk to her) she gets in contact with you, tell her that you are sick of her being so clingy. Tell her its your life, not hers. Hopefully she will be able to accept this and won't badger you constantly. If she does accept it, then you also need to talk to her about her being with other guys. Tell her you know she was with someone else and that YOU should be mad at HER. If she objects to a word of any of this, NEXT her, she isn't worth tis much trouble.

 

[libre]

Dear Stork

This girls is crazy. How do you and how come that you bear with her? Life can be more fun then in a «relationship» like the one that you are in.

 

[Unregistered]

Bong a beer and puke in her face. She sounds controlling. The proper response to someone like that can only be vomit.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

This has nothing to do with her trying to control you!! It is about her cheating!!! DO NOT TRUST HER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You were dating her for a long time and then she kissed Brad????

Why are you still with this girl if she cheated on you??? Are you a chump???

You won't leave her after cheating but you want to leave because she nags??

I got a feeling this girl is seeing or has seen another dude. She asks you a lot of questions about cheating because she has cheated on you with brad and probably screwed him or some other dude and now expects you to do the same!!!

This what women do - they accuse the man to keep the attention and your alertness off of them!!!!

She answers you question with a question of her own!!! A classic liar!!!!

Leave her ass like a man should - she has no say about it!!!!

 

[themanwithnoname]

look for another girl, control freaks tend to be stalkers too, watch out.

 

[unistork]

She likes to play mind games like she askes me things that SHE probably does. Like she keeps asking me if I had sex before her and I tell her NO this is the truth and even though I lied to her when I first met her because she's much older than I am I told her to make her think I was experienced she also lied and said she had sex too. But then I told her I lied I never had sex with anyone and she keeps bickering me saying "Just tell me!" after 4 years she still askes me this question!

That's right she cheated on me. This happened over a year ago where she met this guy and she told me she wanted a break. I was real hurt she hasn't called me for days. I was so angry that I broke her new guys car window and she vowed she would never talk to me again. I know I was the one that did wrong thats why I wanted her fat ass back.

Very wrong of me. Now it's like I'm wrapped around her finger. This is what she says. She says the reason she came back to me is because she THOUGHT that Brad she met was just like me but more caring, loving, etc.. Cause I treated her like sh!t. I call her a b#tch. I always call her a fat ass. I make fun of her. So this is why I went back to her because I felt like the "bad guy" what do you guys think of this? She found out that Brad was just like the rest of the guys, he goes clubbing, he drinks, he fantasizes about girls. see I don't go clubbing, I don't drink all that crap which is why she is attached to me and she claims I am different. But seriously, I can't take it anymore - I just don't know how to get away from this girl.

No matter what - if I go out she WILL find out cause she stalks me. She comes to my house and waits in front of my driveway for hours until I come home. She passes by my house to see if my room light is on at night. Who is the bad one here me or her? I Just got so upset the way I felt at the BBQ where she dragged me into the house and the girls were looking at me like why am I with her.

It's like I've been with her for so long I feel like she's attached to me forever like she's apart of my family. I'll never get away from her. No matter how much we fight we always end up back together. I don't get it. This is my first relationship so this is why it's probably so hard. To make it worse, it's been like this for about 3 years. We've been together for 4 years.

 

[PRMoon]

This is a joke right?

Are you kidding me? Get AFC tatooed on your forehead!
Your girlfriend doesn't trust you so she took you inside to keep you away from other girls!
She cryed because she doesn't want a guy who drinks and you only had one beer!
She's interogating you about how many girls you've KISSED over and over till you gave her an awnser that didn't involve telling her to kiss your ass?!
You accepted that fact that she kissed another guy after said grilling?
You want to leave her but only if you have another girl and she says the only way she'll leave you is if you cheat on her (a perfectly reasonable out) and you haven't found anybody?

You have a lot of growing up to do my young friend. First off there were other girls there who asked you why you were with her and you did nothing to advance on any of them which would have gotten rid of her. Also I don't care if this is your first relationship, first lay, first kiss, if you put up with crap like this from this girlfriend for this long you're probably going to go out and find one who'll do the exact same thing to you because you'll let them. WTF do you mean you HAVE to have another girlfriend before you leave this one. This is the sh*ttiest relationship I've ever heard of. There's no way a guy with any balls would put up with that crap just to wait it out to find another girl to replace her. Here's a hint, it's alot easier to find another girl if you expell the stalker girl who escorts you around like some sick puppy FIRST! OMG she pulled the "Bad Guy" card on you when you're obviously calling her those names with no conviction just to get a rise out of her. The next time you Call her names say it with some f*cking athority and MEAN it. If she's a stalker and what not then you have to break her so she won't feel as inclined to talk to you anymore and you can move on.

I had a girl like this when I was in HS and if you mean what you say it'll make all the difference. If you act like a lil b*tch and keep letting her back in intamately then she's just gonna play you even more.

 

[belividere]

Man, listen to PRL and PRmoon. You've been here for way too long to put up with what you already have.

Read this:
http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/

 

[unistork]

How am I supposed to get a new girl when I'm with her all the time everywhere I go? On my free time when I'm not with her I'm at work which has no girls that I am interested in. Like I said, if I HAD the chance to go out by myself I could get a new girl but see when I do go out, she bugs the **** out of me and eventually finds out where I am and goes there. I'm not sure if I meet a girl and say yeah I have a girlfriend she treats me like **** and then when she sees my g/f she'll be scared because my GF is real big and would kick her ass. This is why. Other girls feel threatened by her because of her size.

btw I don't need to read the bible because I already read it when I joined this site. I already know about AFC and all that which I'm not, I just don't have the time to apply it in life because of this girl I'm with. However I have no problem approaching girls but the thing is I am picky and if she is something I don't want, I don't pursue. There's no way in hell my next GF will be like this one so that's what made me picky.

There was a girl I was with while amazingly my GF left me alone. I didn't pursue it with her because she didn't meet my criteria. This is when my friend told me "That's the problem with you, You don't be picky, be with any girl!" but why waste my time with a girl I don't see a future in? I'm not that. See I would dump the girl I'm with now but i've been with her so long her whole family knows me my whole family knows her.. It's inevitably ruined.

 

[PRMoon]

Originally posted by unistork
How am I supposed to get a new girl when I'm with her all the time everywhere I go? On my free time when I'm not with her I'm at work which has no girls that I am interested in. Like I said, if I HAD the chance to go out by myself I could get a new girl but see when I do go out, she bugs the **** out of me and eventually finds out where I am and goes there. I'm not sure if I meet a girl and say yeah I have a girlfriend she treats me like **** and then when she sees my g/f she'll be scared because my GF is real big and would kick her ass. This is why. Other girls feel threatened by her because of her size.

btw I don't need to read the bible because I already read it when I joined this site. I already know about AFC and all that which I'm not, I just don't have the time to apply it in life because of this girl I'm with. However I have no problem approaching girls but the thing is I am picky and if she is something I don't want, I don't pursue. There's no way in hell my next GF will be like this one so that's what made me picky.

There was a girl I was with while amazingly my GF left me alone. I didn't pursue it with her because she didn't meet my criteria. This is when my friend told me "That's the problem with you, You don't be picky, be with any girl!" but why waste my time with a girl I don't see a future in? I'm not that. See I would dump the girl I'm with now but i've been with her so long her whole family knows me my whole family knows her.. It's inevitably ruined.

You are very weak.
The DJ mentality isn't something you "apply" it's a way of life, a mentality that you take on all the time.

You might have ready my post but obviously none of it sunk in.
Good luck, there's nothing else I can say to you to get you on the right track.

P.S. I'm 6'1" and my girl is 6'2" and I regularly put her in her place, there's also no way I'd ever tolorate her doing any of the things your girl does to you or let her intimdate other people. You have to be the man not her.
Again good luck.

 

[belividere]

btw I don't need to read the bible because I already read it when I joined this site. I already know about AFC and all that which I'm not, I just don't have the time to apply it in life because of this girl I'm with. However I have no problem approaching girls but the thing is I am picky and if she is something I don't want, I don't pursue. There's no way in hell my next GF will be like this one so that's what made me picky.

What you read and what you do are totally different. Whether you want to truly believe and understand that you have been given such a great treasure, the DJ bible, and whether you want to actually apply it is up to you. To be honest, if you read and applied the bible you wouldn't be posting this. Long before I first read the bible I still knew better than to tolerate that type of behavior. Honestly, girls act like they do because guys like you are willing to put up with way to much shi'ite and it makes it tougher for all of us. Your next move is completely up to you.

 

[themanwithnoname]

i used to have a car cd player that skipped a lot in my car, it pissed me off royally till i got a new cd player.

 

[PimpNHard]

Man, Please! Honestly unistork actions speak louder than words. You can try to tell us all day that you are not an AFC - but look at your actions. You should leave the b!tch - SHE'S NO GOOD! If you are scared to make that leap alone, go out and find another chick (or a few more chicks for that matter) - That will kill two birds with one stone - you said she told you she would leave if you cheated. I bet she would stop stalking you then...plus, you would have a new project to move on to. And don't hand us that bullsh!t saying there are no girls you can get with. If you are not finding them in the places you go then go to some other places. THERE ARE PLENTY OF FISH IN THE SEA! With your cheating, sorry excuse for a girlfriend off your a$$ you ought to have plenty of time and freedom to do just that. You deserve BETTER - GO GET IT!

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Uni dude, what was the end result???

 

[Luveno]

How am I supposed to get a new girl when I'm with her all the time everywhere I go?

There is a simple answer to this:

Break up with her over the phone.





I tend to think of relationships as a texas hold'em poker game. Your chips are your time left in life, and the pot is the grand total of the time you spent with her throughout your relationship.

Right now, your relationship is akin to holding a 3 and 2 off suit. The odds are ridiculously low that you'll win, so your best bet is to FOLD. Sure, you put a ton of chips in the pot, but if you keep playing you're gonna eventually lose all of the chips you still have.

Cut your losses and move on. It is foolish not to do so.