should i bother meeting this HB, think im getting used as a tourist guide

[big weezy]

Can't say I'm not surprised. Everyone here called it.

Can you just stop replying now?!!?! Don't respond to her text you'll just sound bitter and butthurt. Just go NC.

And you keep saying she's "manipulative" but at least half of this is your fault. A different kind of guy would have never allowed himself to be in this situation to begin with. The signs were obvious. She was using you but you kept clinging to hope that your kindness would be rewarded with a date. Instead of getting pissed, look at your obvious mistakes and don't make them next time. That's the best revenge man.

yes definitely half my fault.. all i did was invite them to a party, she flaked blaming her sis.. she didnt come solo. then when i counter offered with a meet the next day she ignores me, come monday she gives me some BS story about not being able to contact cos of 'unidentified subscriber' i realized that.. but i thought it was just her way of trying to touch base and offer to meet again when really it was just a ploy to get info out of me in her following text.

in hindsight i would have just ignored her recommendation of places text or tell her straight out im not a tourist guide.

there's no point keeping in contact with manipulative people like this.. if she was just straight on Sat telling me she wanted to spend it with her sis and asked me for recommendations then i'd been cool about it.. you dont want to spend your time with people like this.. who's to say she wont do the exact same thing again next time?

i dont care if i look butthurt, im not letting get away with the satisfaction of using me AND also me not realizing.. at least me telling her where to stick it least lets her know i know she was using me.

 

[ARrocket]

me 10pm Sat: hey hb, are u and your sis still coming? the station is at x place. im here now so come whenever. Big Weezy
her: hello, sorry cant make it tonight. sis isnt being too much of a sport. however would like to catch up sometime when convenient for u. wwe leave on Wednesday afternoon so lemme know. HB
her: and thanks for tonites invite. have a good evening!
me: that's cool, if your sis changs her mind then come later or come solo if u want, place is busy! good atmosphere. i'll be in x place tomorrow, lets get together just me and u then, we'll go to the bar opposite your hotel. how's 9pm? x


me: just me and you? x
her: anything works for me!
5mins later her again: any good places in (place) u recommend for a girls nite out?
me: good. i'd rather spend my night with just 1 gorgeous stylish 29 year old dubain so if u know anyone like this for me pls feel free to introduce me! haha. let's go to ('name') bar in x place for drinks, it's walking distance. i have an early work dinner tomorrow so let's meet at 9, cool? x
me: yes, for dinner: x place, y place, z place. for drinks: x place, y place, z place. for dancing: x place or y place.
her: sounds good.
me: cool, i cant wait to see what sexy elegant outfit you have planned for me tomorrow. enjoy your night with your sis. x
her: thanks for the spots! cya tom

You drove her away with your sht!tty text game. You're trying to make your texts sexual, but you're coming off as desperate and a SUPER creepy dude.

 

[Sir_Laid_A_Lot]

i attempted to pick up this hot girl from dubai in starbucks on saturday evening visiting for the week with her sis. im a knowledgeable guy i know where all the best bars, clubs, restaurants classy places are in my area. it was my friends bday party that night and i invited her to come with her sis, i was kinda doing my friend a favour tryna bring 2 girls to his party one for him, one for me.. but i kind of lost train of thought and cos i over DHV'd about all these places (she has the same places in dubai) i feel i came across as a tourist guide and wasn't direct enough in my intentions.

anyway she didn't come on saturday this is how the texts have gone:

me 10pm Sat: hey hb, are u and your sis still coming? the station is at x place. im here now so come whenever. Big Weezy
her: hello, sorry cant make it tonight. sis isnt being too much of a sport. however would like to catch up sometime when convenient for u. wwe leave on Wednesday afternoon so lemme know. HB
her: and thanks for tonites invite. have a good evening!
me: that's cool, if your sis changs her mind then come later or come solo if u want, place is busy! good atmosphere. i'll be in x place tomorrow, lets get together just me and u then, we'll go to the bar opposite your hotel. how's 9pm? x

(no response) reading back the msgs now i cringe cos it sounds so desperate and afc.. no IL from her.
today i get a BS response: hey wasnt able to get through after saturday nite, said unidentified subscriber. lemme know if u wanna do something tom evening.
me: just me and you? x
her: anything works for me!
5mins later her again: any good places in (place) u recommend for a girls nite out?
me: good. i'd rather spend my night with just 1 gorgeous stylish 29 year old dubain so if u know anyone like this for me pls feel free to introduce me! haha. let's go to ('name') bar in x place for drinks, it's walking distance. i have an early work dinner tomorrow so let's meet at 9, cool? x
me: yes, for dinner: x place, y place, z place. for drinks: x place, y place, z place. for dancing: x place or y place.
her: sounds good.
me: cool, i cant wait to see what sexy elegant outfit you have planned for me tomorrow. enjoy your night with your sis. x
her: thanks for the spots! cya tom

reading this back and reflecting i noted 2 things, she flaked on Sat without telling me first, second she BS'd me about not being able to get in contact 'unidentified subscriber', also i think she sneakily tried to source info from me by suggesting we get together tomorrow (i suspect she wants me to take both her and her sis out and spoil them) when i suggested just me and her she agrees but as a ploy to get me to give her favourable answer when she's tryna weasel info out of me about where to go seeing as she ignored my date offer from Sat.. very sneaky.

im cynical, i suspect she'll flake tomorrow now she's got the info she needed.. OR she thinks im going to spoil her and take her out somewhere expensive, we're going somewhere good but im only gona get one drink that's it.

should i go still? im not well right now and dont think i'll be better by tomorrow, she's leaving on weds with her sis on weds, i suspect she's sharing a hotel room with her sis.. i just dont see them having separate rooms so chances of sex are low.. i dont have my own place, she isnt the type to have sex in the car. so basically i dont want to waste money driving down to the area, spending money on an expensive ****tail and being friendzoned or even better if she is into me not able to have sex in her hotel room while her sis is there too (most lllikely a double bed room)

does it sound like im being used as a tourist guide? im very suspicious and cynical.

You should have initiated NC the moment she flaked out on you the first time. Point to note : Any time any poster includes "Flaked out on me", "Left me confused", "Did not respond", or "Did not call back" she is NOT INTERESTED.

 

[cordoncordon]

Big weezy imo right now you are way to desperate, emo, sensitive, clingy, not in a good mental state, to ever have any clear cut hopes of getting with any girl (unless she has the same issues) let alone an attractive, affluent girl from overseas.

You reek of desperation. People can spot this a mile away. And to me, it seems as if your text game is of someone who reads a bunch of books or who watches pick up DVD's to learn game rather than someone who can just naturally go with the flow of increasing a woman's attraction via text.

Look how many times you have posted on this subject alone, and in every one of the posts, you really sound very emotional and overly sensitive. It's just one girl who you will never see again. I would hate to think what your reaction would be if you met and dated someone nearby for a while and who then broke up with you. Would not be pretty.

I'm not saying you are hopeless, you are not. But right now?

You need to chillllllllllllllax my brother.

 

[asa_don]

wow...with an attitude like this you shouldn't even attempt to pick up women.

You already go in being insecure. The chick will see that and not have anything to do with you.

You need to reframe your game ASAP and stop your negative thinking or you will fail all the time.