I've been going out with a wonderful girl for about 4 months now. We've hit it off and she' completely fallen for me. Head over heels. I've recently fallen for her and maybe that's why I'm slightly concerned. I find myself not worrying about giving her attention and just enjoying my time with her. I say what I want, regardless of what it can be perceived as (I'm talking about Nice Guy stuff here fellas). While this probably isn't the best thing, she hasn't given me any reason to seriously worry. Besides, it's a temporary thing. She's shown me that she cares for me by going extremely out of her way to please me. I'll give you guys some examples in a second.
I recently just returned from a two week trip in China. While I was there I texted her about every day (I'm talking about one text of hey beautiful how you doing.. blah blah blah), and called her 3 times. I think it was good for our relationship in some ways because it showed how much she really did think about me and care for me. I'm a skeptical guy and sometimes I have trouble understanding or seeing how much a person truly does care for me. With that said I return back to the US and she meets me at the airport. The moment I see her she runs up to me with kisses and hugs. Great. She tells me about how much she has missed me, loves me, and is so happy that I'm back. The next night she takes me out on a date she's been planning for quite some time. She fixes me some dinner (she doesn't cook very often, so I was impressed) and to top it off she throws me this picnic. She had every little detail planned from champagne (actually it was sparkling cider.. now that I think about it.. haha), the food, desert, etc. It was great. That's just one example of caring things she has done for me.
While I've been gone she's been talking to my good friend a lot online. They just casually have conversations about me. My friend tells me about how much she enjoyed talking about me because she missed me so much. My friend told her that I was slightly anxious about leaving because I was worried about leaving her. She tells him that there was more of a chance that I would find a girl out there and marry her and live there then there was for her to leave me. But c'mon guys, we all know words mean little when it comes to girls. Actions speak everything. So that leads me to my question..
While I'm on the date she's being called a ton. I wasn't concerned and I didn't pressure her to tell me who was calling her, because I didn't really care. Only when the person was persistent enough to text her on and on did I ask. Apparently she went to a show (concert) and met the band members (some good lookin guys). So apparently they got her number and have been talking to her. How much she talks to them and how interested in them she is.. I don't know. I didn't ask. This doesn't really suprise me. My girl is beautiful (a strong 8) and receives plenty of attention from guys. But should I be worried? I mean with everything said I think maybe there might be a slight cause for concern considering my pattern of affection. I consider my affection acceptable being away from this girl for 2 weeks in a foreign country, but I can't help but worry.
Now I find myself worrying about every little detail. From her leaving earlier than normal to go home, to her attention she has given other guy friends, etc. I HATE it. It's wrong and I know it. Guys help me.. don't let me turn into an AFC and have things ruined over nothing.
I recently just returned from a two week trip in China. While I was there I texted her about every day (I'm talking about one text of hey beautiful how you doing.. blah blah blah), and called her 3 times. I think it was good for our relationship in some ways because it showed how much she really did think about me and care for me. I'm a skeptical guy and sometimes I have trouble understanding or seeing how much a person truly does care for me. With that said I return back to the US and she meets me at the airport. The moment I see her she runs up to me with kisses and hugs. Great. She tells me about how much she has missed me, loves me, and is so happy that I'm back. The next night she takes me out on a date she's been planning for quite some time. She fixes me some dinner (she doesn't cook very often, so I was impressed) and to top it off she throws me this picnic. She had every little detail planned from champagne (actually it was sparkling cider.. now that I think about it.. haha), the food, desert, etc. It was great. That's just one example of caring things she has done for me.
While I've been gone she's been talking to my good friend a lot online. They just casually have conversations about me. My friend tells me about how much she enjoyed talking about me because she missed me so much. My friend told her that I was slightly anxious about leaving because I was worried about leaving her. She tells him that there was more of a chance that I would find a girl out there and marry her and live there then there was for her to leave me. But c'mon guys, we all know words mean little when it comes to girls. Actions speak everything. So that leads me to my question..
While I'm on the date she's being called a ton. I wasn't concerned and I didn't pressure her to tell me who was calling her, because I didn't really care. Only when the person was persistent enough to text her on and on did I ask. Apparently she went to a show (concert) and met the band members (some good lookin guys). So apparently they got her number and have been talking to her. How much she talks to them and how interested in them she is.. I don't know. I didn't ask. This doesn't really suprise me. My girl is beautiful (a strong 8) and receives plenty of attention from guys. But should I be worried? I mean with everything said I think maybe there might be a slight cause for concern considering my pattern of affection. I consider my affection acceptable being away from this girl for 2 weeks in a foreign country, but I can't help but worry.
Now I find myself worrying about every little detail. From her leaving earlier than normal to go home, to her attention she has given other guy friends, etc. I HATE it. It's wrong and I know it. Guys help me.. don't let me turn into an AFC and have things ruined over nothing.
