Should I apologize?

[Kailex]

WEALTH of information in this thread.

Basically: Dump your girlfriend.

She's let an outside affair influence the inner workings of your relationship. She very effectively managed to throw in your face all the virtual favors she has done for you. Apparently two people in a relationship don't go things out of love anymore, but because of an imaginary checklist that will be eventually sized up by her. In the end, she will see that she did more for you than you for her.

Is that what you want for the rest of your life?
Every time a problem pops up, she'll constantly remind you how much she's done for you... essentially saying that you've done nothing for her and that you "owe her".

What a crock.

See this situation for what it is. It's revealed the inner workings of your girlfriend.

What's interesting about "I'm sorry" is that once you start saying it, you'll be expected to say it all the time. There's nothing to say "I'm sorry" for and she shouldn't have to ask you at ALL. It happened between you and your friend... your girlfriend is NOT involved.

I don't like the situation, neither should you.

 

[TheBucketOfTruth]

If he's otherwise happy in the relationship he doesn't need to dump her. That's for a different thread.

For this, you already apologized for the "loose" comment which should be sufficient. Explain this to her (which she will shrug off). Try to make her think logically if you can. Ask her why she wants you to do this for her and why it means so much to her even after you have already apologized. If she has trouble answering this or just keeps repeating the same lines, then you know it's mostly about control. The last girl I dated I would logically address a lot of the things she would try to argue with me about. She told me that I made her feel like she was stupid. That being said, she didn't bug me about most of that stuff for quite a while.

If you don't care about the relationship anymore then that's another issue. Is everything else mostly fine or is this the nature of your relationship all the time?

As others have said, do not apologize further. Your initial one about the loose comment was enough.

PS: As an aside, you are not congruent with your beliefs and actions. If you really believed that there wasn't anything wrong with a woman being in touch with her sexuality and all that jazz, you should not really be making fun of her so blatantly. Actions speak louder than words.