Acting More AFC
A bit of backgound info...
I met a girl 6 months ago in a club, and we ended up kissing for most of the night. We were both drunk, so I assumed she didn’t want anything to come of it. We both went off on our own ways looking for other people.
About 3 months ago we kissed again in a club. She knew I meant it as we were both sober. Since then I have had sex with her about 5 times. I know she’s interested in me as she’s rejected many guys that have come on to her, often more attractive than me. My friends say she is being very loyal to me, and I’m also not trying it on with other girls at the moment.
Thing is, although we’re having sex, we’re not actually going out. I have been using DJ techniques on her successfully with lots of neg-hitting which has increased her interest level. I've tried to be a challenge and not act too interested.
HOWEVER…
Her ex-boyfriend of 18 months generally played a more AFC game than me, always texting and phoning her about how much he loves her and buying her gifts all the time. He put himself on a plate for her. She always says how different I am to him, but can only assume she means it in a good way.
I want to move on to the next level and form a LTR with her. Should I change my game though? I know it sounds stupid going back from DJ to AFC, but now that I want a relationship, should I act more of an AFC like her ex did (such as telling her how much she means to me and not playing hard to get as often)? A DJ portrays the image, ‘I can get any woman I want’, but is this putting her off a relationship, thinking that I’m only in it for a game and might cheat on her?
Most guys I see in LTRs appear very AFC and it’s not very often I see ‘players’ in relationships (if they are, they don’t normally last very long). In my opinion, acting DJ is great for picking up girls, but now that I’ve got a girl and want a LTR with her, should I cut down on the DJ game a little bit and make myself ‘easier to get’? I don’t mean going back to a complete chump, but just letting her know she’s the only girl I want and will be loyal to her.
LMJ
A bit of backgound info...
I met a girl 6 months ago in a club, and we ended up kissing for most of the night. We were both drunk, so I assumed she didn’t want anything to come of it. We both went off on our own ways looking for other people.
About 3 months ago we kissed again in a club. She knew I meant it as we were both sober. Since then I have had sex with her about 5 times. I know she’s interested in me as she’s rejected many guys that have come on to her, often more attractive than me. My friends say she is being very loyal to me, and I’m also not trying it on with other girls at the moment.
Thing is, although we’re having sex, we’re not actually going out. I have been using DJ techniques on her successfully with lots of neg-hitting which has increased her interest level. I've tried to be a challenge and not act too interested.
HOWEVER…
Her ex-boyfriend of 18 months generally played a more AFC game than me, always texting and phoning her about how much he loves her and buying her gifts all the time. He put himself on a plate for her. She always says how different I am to him, but can only assume she means it in a good way.
I want to move on to the next level and form a LTR with her. Should I change my game though? I know it sounds stupid going back from DJ to AFC, but now that I want a relationship, should I act more of an AFC like her ex did (such as telling her how much she means to me and not playing hard to get as often)? A DJ portrays the image, ‘I can get any woman I want’, but is this putting her off a relationship, thinking that I’m only in it for a game and might cheat on her?
Most guys I see in LTRs appear very AFC and it’s not very often I see ‘players’ in relationships (if they are, they don’t normally last very long). In my opinion, acting DJ is great for picking up girls, but now that I’ve got a girl and want a LTR with her, should I cut down on the DJ game a little bit and make myself ‘easier to get’? I don’t mean going back to a complete chump, but just letting her know she’s the only girl I want and will be loyal to her.
LMJ
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