Didn't think I'd post to this thread anymore, but I believe this May help others who have gone through this stuff. It's been about 10 months since the end of this relationship. I've ignored this girl, stayed NC, worked on myself, and I spin plates.
Last night I started getting a random string of texts from the ex. I normally wouldn't respond, but the first one said "I need to see you right away, I'm in trouble, can I stop by your house for a bit?" I said no, but I can meet you one of these two places." I was going to either of them anyway to watch the UFC fights.
I went and started watching the fights. She shows up 30 min later and asks if we can go somewhere more private. We go to the outside patio bar, we sit down and she starts crying. Of course I asked "what's wrong". Here are the highlights of what she said:
1. She started living with this guy because when she left she had no place to go. He offered her a place to stay.
2. She hates him and her and her children are miserable.
3. She needed me to know that she never cheated on me.
4. She has never loved anyone as much as me and still loves me.
5. She owes me soo much for helping to make sure her children are well behaved and honor roll students.
6. She's been following my Facebook through friends and knows I'm sleeping with other women, (mainly the plate).
7. She said she left because she knew I wouldn't marry her.
8. Of course it was the biggest mistake she ever made in her life, and all of her friends and family were mad at her for doing it.
Any of this crap sound familiar???
Blah,blah,blah. All of this verbal diareaha coming out of her mouth while she's crying, and all I can think of is how I could have ever dated this train wreck, and god she looks horrible!
He bar we met at was closing. It was 12:15. All I could say was I felt bad for her situation and I hope her and her kids have a good life. ToLd her to take care of herself and we parted ways.
I get home in about 10 minutes and about 30 min. Later my doorbell starts ringing. It's 12:45 at night! I open the door and it's her holding a six pack of beer. "Peace offering, I didn't want to go home. Can I come in?" I was a dumbass and let her in.
Sitting by the pool, she starts with the you really look great, and always smell great. She really misses our conversations etc. then she trays a little kino. My ex who robbed my house is sitting by my pool 10 months later trying to game me!
She even had the nerve to tell me she likes what I've done with the place (referring to my new furniture and paint)!
We finished the 6 pack. She just wanted to keep talking. I said I needed to get up early and it was time for her to go. She offered to stay, tried to kiss me, and started crying when I pushed her away. WTF?
I said "Look, we're not those people. I'm happy with my life, you're not. I don't want to be unhappy, which means that whatever you're thinking isn't happening. Go home and work on your relationship, it's probably the best thing for you."
She left and I double checked all the door locks and went to bed. So far today I've received 4 texts from her about how happy she was to see me, and how great it was to hear my voice and smell my cologne. I chose not to respond.
You know, I was never looking for anything from her. I could care less what happened with her. I didn't look her up, call her, or reach out in any way. But last night, I couldn't help feeling great that my life is just fine and she seems to be struggling. It's probably not healthy thinking that way, but I slept well.
