Should a guy pay on the first date? (Poll)

[hjsknksbm]

Should a guy pay on the first date?

 

[diablo]

I would at least make the offer... It's the gentlemanly thing to do.

 

[alboh]

I think if you're doing something really informal like grabbing coffee or some drinks, it should be 50/50.

 

[Omni]

Whoever pays gains power and control (unless the other person is a golddigger, in which case RUN).

 

[kixs]

I belive that the one who invites should pay - usually man! So in any case, 1st date should be casual ( coffee or something ) and it isn't expensive in any case!

If you're doing something more expensive like a dinner... then I woud pay 1/2 + drinks. If going to the movies, I would pay for the movie and she would for the drinks.

Something like that!

bye

 

[Crank_It_Up]

On a first date, if you asked her out, you should pay... if she isn't worth it, why did you ask her out to begin with? If you can't pay, stop reading this forum and get a job.

 

[S0LID]

Ha ha no way, you wannabe the guy her buys her stuff then go ahead. Do it once she'll expect it. Women have fighted for equal rights for years now they have it!

 

[Porky]

Originally posted by Omni
Whoever pays gains power and control (unless the other person is a golddigger, in which case RUN).

I disagree. If I buy a girl things that doesn't give me power, it just shows that I'm willing to do things for her. That's bad.

I wouldn't pay at all. She should have a job and should pay for herself. As for that "whoever invited should pay" bull****, do you really think a woman who asked you out would pay for you?

 

[blienk]

Originally posted by S0LID
Ha ha no way, you wannabe the guy her buys her stuff then go ahead. Do it once she'll expect it. Women have fighted for equal rights for years now they have it!

The problem is, society as a whole still expects men to pay so you can either try to change that one girl at a time (and appear to most as poor or cheap) or just go along with the inconvenience.

Also, the only girls that will expect you to pay for everything are golddiggers. If you pay for the first date, nearly every girl will offer to pay for something else down the line.

 

[( . )( . )]

personally i think this done to death debate is a moot point now.

If your ugly and/or have no game your going to pay because simply you DO think her time should be payed for .

 

[Maxtro]

I heard that if you invite a girl out to drinks or coffee, you should offer to pay. If a lunch date I have no idea. As for a real eveing date the guy should pay. But, you shouldn't be going on dates untill after you've had sex with her.

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

I have never ever inn my whole life paid for anything for a girl except female friends and family. Actually most first dates have been the girl treating wine, cooking dinner or whatever. And it's always worked out great

So my logic is, aslong as you haven't made it like that (asking her out to a special type of treat) then don't.

 

[Maxtro]

Here's my situation. I'm getting pretty close to my oneitis girl. We talk every day and walk togther to the parking lot after class. Next time I see her; next, next Monday I'm either going get her phone number or have her come to lunch with me.

If we get lunch should I offer to pay for her? There's also a chance that her girlfriend might come along as well since they are almost allways togther. In that situation its generally assumed that everybody would pay for themselves right? They won't expect me to pay for the both of them.

 

[( . )( . )]

Originally posted by Maxtro
Here's my situation. I'm getting pretty close to my oneitis girl.

I think your at the wrong place mate.

 

[Maxtro]

So? If I can end up making her a ƒuck buddy it would be amazing. BTW I am doing somebody else already but its not consistent enough.

The thought of haveing constant sex with a hot 18 year old is something I can't pass up.

 

[OzzyBoy]

I wouldn't pay but i might pay occasionally if she has been good on dates afterwards.

 

[Crank_It_Up]

Originally posted by Maxtro
...you shouldn't be going on dates untill after you've had sex with her.

lol, where did you get this idea?

 

[squirrels]

Yes, but you shouldn't end up spending a lot on the first date anyway, so it shouldn't matter. If you did, you lost control of the date. (been there, done this)

 

[Maxtro]

Originally posted by Crank_It_Up
lol, where did you get this idea?

I think I read about it here or at Fast Seduction and also in several seduction eBooks I've read.

Spending a lot of money on her is not going to get her to sleep with you. It may even have the opposite effect and she might hold off on sex because she sees you as a long term guy.

 

[( . )( . )]

Originally posted by Crank_It_Up
lol, where did you get this idea?

he was dead right, yes guys USED to reward/buy chicks in the past for a way to get her to fvck, this no longer has the effectiveness it once did.