Should A DJ Pursue A Disinterested Woman?

[Juan_Man]

A part of says no, but then again, my dad was somehow able to pull it off.

 

[blueguy]

Your dad didn't pull it off. You can never pull off marrying a disinterested woman.

Yes, a DJ should pursue a disinterested woman. You throw the ball in her court (pursue) and see if she throws it back. If she gives you a little, you go for a little more. It's all about "mutual compliance escalation" as the PUAs would put it. Escalate in small increments and if she keeps responding in similar increments, she's good for you.

What is anti-DJ is when you pursue a disinterested woman and continue to pursue (or chase) when she is giving you nothing back.

 

[Juan_Man]

Good tip. As you already guessed, I'm in a similar situation. The girl I like seems annoyed whenever I look at her, but appears interested whenever I appear preoccupied or if I'm talking to someone (especially another girl). I'm so confused!

 

[edmond]

No, stop wasting your time, give her the attention that she gives you, if none then give her none.

 

[everywomanshero]

I don;t see pursuing a disinterested woman as a particlar waste of time as long as she's on the backburner and you are spending 80% of your time on something that seems more fruitful.

Like for example if you just like talking to this chic, she can be a good stress reliever so that you don't dump all over your new girls. You can also use her to cuddle with when you feel bad, and she may provide useful advice. OTOH, if you can't even get advice on a hairstyle or cuddle time with her, then it's probably time that is best spent someplace else. It is always possible such a woman will become attracted over time, but it's so unlikely that I would just consider it a loss and use her for other purposes like helping me meet and pull new chic.

I used to do this a lot and these chicks introduced me to new chicks a lot, helped me in various areas, provided social proof, etc. If a chic isn't useful for any of those things, and you aren't doing her, then she is of no use at all and just wants you to go away.

 

[Hitman10000]

I disagree everymanshero. It's a waste of time, that disinterested girl will indicate her other friends of her disinterest in you and that you're tagging along.

 

[solo1]

Good tip. As you already guessed, I'm in a similar situation. The girl I like seems annoyed whenever I look at her, but appears interested whenever I appear preoccupied or if I'm talking to someone (especially another girl). I'm so confused!

yea it happens to me too, very strange behavior...