shes texting at a party?

[danthemann]

Last night I was at a party with my girlfriend of 6 months. This party contained all of her freinds and I know some of them only through her. So were playing some drinking games late in the night and shes really drunk I can tell shes horny and all but a little while later I notice her sitting by herself texting someone, I walk over ask who shes texting and as shes about to say "oh no one" i catch a glimpse of some guys name... This bothered me and we actually had a pretty heated argument over it because Im at her party and shes talking to some other guy? She tells me hes 'just a freind' and she was just asking how he was and all, but i dont buy it for a second because i rarely see them talk or anything. Ive been debating whether or not to grab her phone and go through her texts but to me thats invading her privacy. its kind of bugging me though as to what she couldve been talking about and all seeing as she was really drunk and horny...just curious as to what you all may think of this

 

[Captain]

If you're jealous (which you are), don't let her see it (which you did.)

I tend to ignore girls' texting guys. It's not cheating.

It's a red flag that she didn't straight up tell you who she was texting, though, so you may want to be a little wary. Don't bring it up with her, though.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Honestly, I would do opposite of what captain said...

If you dont like something you tell her and you talk to her about it. If she lies and doesnt respect your feelings... get rid of her.

 

[Captain]

Honestly, I would do opposite of what captain said...

If you dont like something you tell her and you talk to her about it. If she lies and doesnt respect your feelings... get rid of her.

That's a good solution, you shouldn't have girls disrespecting you.

I don't argue, I stand my ground. Get your point across, if she keeps at it disrespecting you, leave.

I do think you went a bit over the top with the argument, you need to keep calm at all times.

 

[danthemann]

Yeah I told her what was what and she said she wouldnt do that anymore now that she knows it bothers me, but im still slighty worried as to what she was texting about to this guy.. i guess its just my trust issues i have with people.

 

[Daddy The Pimp]

NEXT her.


Based on her behavior , she was bored and she was thinking of another guy. Because , if you were having fun , would you think of someone else ? Would you fvcking care of about how's A "FRIEND" IS DOING ?

She is either cheating or starting to build something with that guy.

 

[Rounder]

You're in high school - there are plenty of girls to date. You've been with her 6 months - move on already. 6 months is plenty of time to date 1 person in high school.

What's the point of staying with her? You're not going to marry her some day, so move on, see what other women are like. Now is the pefect time. Spring is almost here, summer is right around the corner, girls will be half dressed soon and showing skin all over the place - you'll be noticing them and half the time wishing you didn't have a GF so you could hit on them.

 

[Five To One]

Texting isnt cheating but it leads to cheating. Speaking from experience, I actually perfer texting a girl over calling if she has a boyfriend, it comes off as innocent to them, before they know it they are agreeing to come hang out with me. Im sure lots of guys operate the same way. It leads to the girl having that next branch to swing to or an exciting night fling.

Its disrespectful for your girlfriend to do it. My last offical girlfriend did this to me all the time. "He is just a friend" she would say to my me. Well she ended up cheating on me with just a friend then.


I agree with daddy the pimp, I think she is building something with that guy. I dont think she has cheated yet, but this guy is working on it and she is going with it so far.

But do you want to be with a girl who is even considering cheating on you or daydreaming of another guy?
Unless she showers you with her love and affection I wouldnt keep her around. Why be with a girl who isnt completely satisfied with you?

 

[danthemann]

Thanks for the advice thus far, I can agree with you daddy and five... shes building something with him and in my presence too its very disrespectful and deserves a next... and five you make a good point on the texting thing i most certainly agree with that too.

 

[TheBucketOfTruth]

For all you know it's just some other guy that wants in her pants that she likes to lead on. The fact that she was secretive about it could just mean that she knew you'd freak out about it and didn't want the drama.

I'll 2nd that texting does not equal cheating.

 

[smoothtalker72]

For all you know it's just some other guy that wants in her pants that she likes to lead on. The fact that she was secretive about it could just mean that she knew you'd freak out about it and didn't want the drama.

I'll 2nd that texting does not equal cheating.

im with him. she probably didnt tell you because she knew youd blow it out of proportion. sounds to me like you arent confident in yourself and/or your relationship. you dont trust her.
you cant have a relationship without trust. that and jealousy just isnt healthy. you'll kill yourself wondering what she was saying. and if you did go and read her texts only to find out she actually WAS just saying hello you'd feel bad

 

[Five To One]

For all you know it's just some other guy that wants in her pants that she likes to lead on. The fact that she was secretive about it could just mean that she knew you'd freak out about it and didn't want the drama.

I'll 2nd that texting does not equal cheating.

Do you text girls who you dont want to hook up with? No of course you dont, why would you waste your time. And why would girls be any different than that?

Maybe she is leading him on? Why would she do that? She has a boyfriend and is with her friends, why would she feel the need to text some guy unless she feels something for him.

Being secretive about a friend and holding back from your "significant other" is always a red flag. Maybe it would be different if she was like "haha look at this pathetic kid who keeps texting me" and then goes on to tell you all the afc things he does. But thats not how it went.

!!Please dont be naive when it comes to girls or they will crush you.

Its not being jealous, its about having respect for yourself. Because if YOU make that commitment to become exclusive with a girl, it is expected of her to have the upmost respect for YOU. Any straying from the path is disrespectful and not worth YOUR time.


The bottem line is why date one girl who just doesnt get it when you can have open relationships and date 3 girls and not give a fvck what they do.

 

[studentpay]

^that makes sense. but don't be rash and just break up with her for it. just bring it up with her and get things settled

 

[EvilAgenda]

I'm glad you now learned from this experience. It's only natural to feel jealous,,all men have a jealous side to them. Women are even more jealous and competitive against each other.

As since this experience taught you something valuable,,I assume you would like some help on how to act next time this happens. Here is just a simple tip you could consider if you feel like it might help you:

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Learn a skill:
HOW to be the LIFE of the party. And implement it to fit your personality.
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If you are having fun,,she will naturally want your company.

 

[TheBucketOfTruth]

Do you text girls who you dont want to hook up with? No of course you dont, why would you waste your time. And why would girls be any different than that?

Unlike some of you guys, I do have a few female friends that I don't wish to have sex with that I text or hang out with occasionally.

To the OP, If you knew she was drunk and horny and needed some male attention, why not give it to her? I'm not saying strip and bone her right there in front of her friends (I mean you could), but at least give her something. I still say texting is not cheating, but it can be an indication something is going on, or that there is the possibility of it in the future. We don't really have enough information about you or your relationship dynamics to be able to say one thing or the other with absolute certainty.

 

[Masculinity]

Girls go through OUR phones, therefore why can't WE go through their phones?
Jee I've done it, and found nothing in her phone. Don't even let her see your jealous(which you sound alot like) no offense but that's a huge turn off for them cause it signals you're insecure.

 

[Analyzeit]

Trying to tell what this txting means, reminds me of when i was an AFC and tried to tell what every sign meant, i might even gone home gave myself a run down of the signs and the pros and the cons, there's no point using the fact that she was secretive and all that crap to dump her, and you sure can't use it to stay with her.

After I had done my analyzing and found (every time) that there were signs that needed a little more analyzing or information , so i might have to ask a friend of hers or even ask her..... yes i was an AFC then not now

So the point is don't try and analyze if she was cheating or not because you will never ever know 100% for sure UNLESS you can get more information, so pretty much check her phone or find out who the guy is or use that as a base for information, but sounds like a waste of time for me!!

What i'd do personally, is if she does it again or whatever, confront her about it, and if she won't tell you or it is cheating, next!