SHE'S SO PERFECT... how do I deal with this?

[PRMoon]

Deadline for callin eh...I'm not sure if that's how I'd go. Do you see her around campus or whatever? I'd just make a date with her in person. If she says she's got to study or some BS like that then you should just think about spending your time in better ways with other people. I know she's "perfect" but there are likely other people you'll meet who are equally attractive and compatable with you lurking about your college. You're only hurting yourself by dedicating so much of your valuable time to something that's progressing at a snails pace.

 

[penkitten]

dude, reread your manual. it clearly states in article 45b that you should :

:always remember the following :
everyone lies, cries, poops and no one is perfect in life.
there are no exceptions.

 

[backbreaker]

first off, if you think someone is too good for you, it's because they are.

seconally your ego won't let you enjoy what she has to offer, you are so damn worried about loosing something you don't have.

 

[Freddy1]

Deadly_Ripped becareful if she is more perfect than you she will eventually end up having less respect for you.

As David X warned about the "me too" syndrone. You have to have slightly more going for you if you want to continue to keep her.

 

[Shiftkey]

What does ASD stand for?

Yeah I'm not going to talk to her online or on the phone unless she calls until wednsday when it's time to hang out. Anyone here think I should let her call me even if that means she doesn't call and doesn't get back to me aboue wednsday night?

Anti-slut defence. When a girl wants to fvck, but doesn't want you, herself, or others to think she's a slut, she'll throw ASD at you. The most common example is when you're making out/fooling around and she stops you from taking off her panties. Usually you can bypass ASD if you have enough experience with freeze outs or knowing when to ignore her (without it being rape, obviously). But if you've done your job making her comfortable with you, you shouldn't get any ASD at all.

As for the second part of your post, you're thinking too much.

 

[The_Reaper]

What does ASD stand for?

Yeah I'm not going to talk to her online or on the phone unless she calls until wednsday when it's time to hang out. Anyone here think I should let her call me even if that means she doesn't call and doesn't get back to me aboue wednsday night?

ASD means anti-slut defence, I think. To ask my previous question, did she give you a BJ? How long after you met her did she give you the BJ? That seems a bit crazy to me...so soon

 

[st_99]

Um, I agree. Dude you just met her and she polished your knob. That doesnt sound like perfection..but maybe thats just me.

 

[Deadly_Ripped]

It doesn't matter anymore.

It was ****ing killing me and we had hung out a couple times and talked a few more so I figured if she was interested she'd be up for a date. I talkted to her online (I know that's a mistake but whatever too late now) and asked her to go on a date friday and she told me that she doesn't make plans in advance so maybe. Then I asked her if she was up for a date and whenever our schedules lined up well go on one and she didn't reply.


I've got better things to do than wait around to find out if SHE's interested in ME. I've got 3 other girls practically breaking down my door right now, and I'm stressing over the perfect one. I still feel like **** but at least I'll still be getting laid.

 

[Scorched]

.......
You asked her for a date online?
Well dude, she bull sh*ted you... "I don't set up plans in advance..."
BULLSH*T! FVCKING BULLSH*T!
2nd of all... She's a freshman I bet? You should have really waited a few weeks/months before trying to ask her "on a real date"...
3rd... Throw her on block on the internet...
Basically you dont' want her to see that you are online and sitting behind a pc ALONE! Then maybe take her off block once a week for a few mins just to see if she'll message you. Then flirt and little and get the **** off!
Now you have to wait for her to ask you out... Or you could just keep trying to freak her/get head/sex... That last option is the one I'd follow though... Simply because I can't date a girl I think is better than me... It wouldn't last...

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Let Her Breathe

Dude it has/had nothing to do with her not wanting you. Clearly, she was attracted, but felt like a slvt for sucking you off without really knowing you. She then tells her friend that she thinks you might be a player and what do you do? You completelly flip script and panic, turn into a complete chump and chase her like there's no tomorrow!!

Remember, attraction has a lot to do with creating high value. You put this byatch on holy ground before you even knew her, and your desperation showed. You asked her out a million times within a few days. You should've just chilled out, and left her alone for a few days or even a week and then tried again. If she wasn't up for it, then you could stop wasting your time. Instead you forced her not to like you by being desperate and chumpish.

Take notes, learn from your mistakes and go back up those other three ho's.



PIMP

 

[backbreaker]

amen

 

[Victory Unlimited]

Yo Troops!


Allow me to put on my Foote Homes Pimp hat for a few seconds:

Never chase a Bytch that ain't chasin' you.

Never show a Bytch higher interest than she is showin' you.

Never beg a Bytch for a date when you KNOW she's actin' vague, comin' up wit' excuses, and obviously dodgin' yo' ass.

And NEVER put a Bytch on a pedestal unless you actually DO want her to shyt on you and Peea on you.

Whew...now let me take my Foote Homes Pimp hat off and become the soldier known only as Victory Unlimited, once again...

Troops! If winning the war to find a quality babe is your objective, then know this:

ALWAYS stay above them. By staying above them, you remain at a vantage point where you can see the situation more clearly than you would if you let yourself stay down on the same level WITH them.

This is hard...BUT, this is how you maintain your composure. This is how you maintain your objectivity when you look at the situation. And, once again, for you young cats out there...this is how you keep YO' PIMP HAND STRONG.





Peace...one day.

 

[Deadly_Ripped]

Well, today after 2 days of me not messaging, calling, or talking to her, she left me a short but sweet
hey how are you
what are you up to
I hope I talk to you soon
good night message.

It's been two days now, so I'm pretty much over getting rejected. I've managed to feel almost neutral about her existence now, and about not having her versus having her. Now I can start having some fun and see if I can flip the tables. I'm going to wait a day or two before calling her, and I'm definitely leaviny my AIM off unless I'm actively using it and need to talk to people online. Thanks for the tips, and you were DEAD on about her being a freshman and I probably jumped the gun, especially because she just got off of a 3 year relationship over the summer with a hardcore A hole. I also freaked because I found out that she's supposedly thinking about dating this guy from a nearby college who she's known since high school and boned at the beginning of the semester. So now the thought that I'm being played will be in the back of my head this whole time.

I want to next this chick, but I need to see if it leads somewhere. As much as I've convinced myself that I don't care one bit about her or being around her, I can't overlook the fact that we have virtually everything in common.... I mean come on, she even wants to see the new Jackass movie, and loves monty python.

 

[librito]

Deadly Ripped Is Guilty Of Big Time Oneities,
Case Close ....next Case On The Dock Please.

"perfect Girl" What A Joke That Is.
Does Her Shhiiiittt Smell Like A Calvin Klein Perfume? No...then She Is Just Another Human On Planet Earth.
Whats The Big Deal?

 

[Nighthawk]

She dated an 'assh*le' for three years. She likes to be challenged.

She gave you head because she thought you were an irresistable player, or failing that, an AFC to toy with. You couldn't handle her, put her on a pedestal and and she lost interest. I'm guessing there may have been some subtle shyt-tests you failed too - not standing up for yourself because you didn't want to upset this perfect little angel.

You sabotaged your success because you thought she was out of your league and the universe was going to take her away sooner or later anyway. Until you believe that you are so f*cking awesome that the hottest most perfect babes have hit the jackpot getting you, they will continue to slip through your fingers.

Read my apposite thread on the subject of creating and maintaining attraction in the uber-hottie here

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?p=946079#post946079

 

[wayword]

she just got off of a 3 year relationship over the summer with a hardcore A hole.

I'm starting to see the power of "a-hole"ness. Giving a girl something to bych to all her friends and beta orbiters about. In fact, if she never gets mad, you're not pushing the right buttons cuz you're too scared. You're too afraid to lose her, even though sometimes you have to piss her off in order to KEEP her. And safe cowardice is NEVER attractive to a woman.

Now, I don't think "a-hole" may exactly be the right term here, because it implies you're wrong or acting against her best interests. Similar to "jerk" vs "nice" guy. But, that whole semantic debate is another thread...

 

[Deadly_Ripped]

By A-hole I meant he was a drunk who hit her once or twice, and he knew the game because he always acted like he didn't care if she was around or not.

Last time I got my panties in a bunch about this chick I couldn't concentrate on school at all. This time I'm definitely more balanced about it. I'm going to play the game as hard as I can. First thing I'm going to do is not call her until friday or saturday, beacuse I told her earlier that I had a test I was studying for on friday, and that I would be really busy. Either way I'm just too damn busy to get sidetracked with her ShyTe right now.
I prob came off as an AFC to her because we actually have like almost everything in common, and it may have seemed like I was just agreeing to appeal to her.

I definitely got ****ed in the head for a few days there. I couldn't think about school, or really much of anything. It's never happened before because I have such a hard time respecting women. This one is worthy of respect and in 2 days I was completely and utterly infatuated with her. I'm glad I thought it was over, because now I've realized that my life is just as good as it used to be without her around, and I will always have that thought to keep me from letting any AFC come out.

 

[wayword]

By A-hole I meant he was a drunk who hit her once or twice, and he knew the game because he always acted like he didn't care if she was around or not.

You know, girls aren't made of porcelain and even though I've never hit a girl, maybe that's just AFC programming not to. Maybe a little smacking here and there when appropriate would be like SM xhardcorex kino? Maybe that is real cavemanning that shows primal dominance and superiority? Stuff that women might SAY they would never want, but deep down are hardwired to find irresistible... :trouble: :box:

I mean, she stuck around for 3 YEARS, didn't she? And let me guess, HE dumped HER...or cheated on her/could care less so many times she was basically out anyways?

 

[Nighthawk]

I'm not defending spousal abuse, but I have realised over the years that a great percentage of men hitting women is because the woman likes to keep on pressing his buttons to see him lose control. Of course a real man doesn't lose his cool over a woman, but some of them will not rest until they have tested your limits.

The media image is always of a cowering female victim and a bullying male, and this is sometimes the case but not always.

 

[Deadly_Ripped]

Yeah this girl LOVES to be dominated all kinds of freaky ways.... I'm insanely dominant (when that's what they want) in the sack, and even when they don't I still take control, but I'm much less aggressive the rest of the time in a relationship. I'm not really sure how to be aggressive in a way that would make me more attractive to her without making her uncomfortable around me. I mean there's this other guy I heard she is interested in and they've known each other since high school.... Kinda wierd, but the way my personality goes now always lands me in the comfort zone, and when I'm playing the game too I usually get laid. Usually I get laid so fast, that the comfort zone follows.

I talked to a female friend about it, and she said that she has a sister who got off of a 4 year relationship and is now just enjoying attention from guys. She has no intention of getting into another relationship for a while, but she'll flirt and keep them on the hook as long as possible. I suspect thats what this girl is doing, especially because of how fake her messages to me sounded about wanting to talk to me again.