She's sick, what should I do?

jdomingos76

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Guys, I have this "spiritual" thing with a 34 years old woman. We are not in an official relationship, never had sex, but we connect by signals (mostly on facebook) and brief personal tense encounters (we have reasons for this behaviour).

Please beware that this is not the average bitc** party girl, it is girl with quality. And she's a lot into me. I also like her, but I'm keeping myself a challenge, having my own life, other options, etc. Also the aim of this post is NOT to look advice how to advance to a more sexual relation.

My aim is simple. At present we both post on facebook, every day at 23:45, one specific pic, to signal our love... (don't cry guys). I don't do more than that. We don't contact more than that at the present. But today she posted "I'm sick with amigdalitis... :(". She's obviously seeking some attention from me.

What do you guys would do? Should I keep my game and say nothing about her being sick?
 

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You're seem kinda contradictory to me...

If you wanted more from her, it would be understandable that you are unsure of what to do and come ask for advice here.

But you seem to say you do not want more from her... So in that case, what the fvck is the problem, what are you so indecisive about that you want our advice on the situation?

If I were you, I'd be honest with myself and ask myself the question: What the fvck do I actually want from this girl and this situation? Once you got that figured out, come back and ask advice about how to achieve whatever it is you wanna achieve. But as long as you don't know what you want to achieve, how are we to give you advice?
 

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Die Hard said:
You're contradictory...

If you wanted more from her, it would be understandable that you are unsure of what to do and come ask for advice here.

But you say you do not want more from her, so in that case, what the fvck is the problem, what are you so indecisive about that you want our advice on the situation?

If I were you, I'd be honest with myself and ask myself the question: What the fvck do I actually want from this girl and this situation? Once you got that figured out, come back and ask advice about how to achieve whatever it is you wanna achieve. But as long as you don't know what you want to achieve, how are we to give you advice?
I want her. But I'm not forcing, it's an investment for the future.
Because of personal circumstances I don't want to advance right now. I'm in the process of a divorce with kids... We are going to study together at night in September, so I'm aiming to that period to make more sexual moves.
 

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I have to agree with Die Hard. Somehow you've convinced yourself that all you want from this girl is a picture on facebook. I'm not sure how her having tonsillitis changes things. It's not like you want this relationship to get deeper or anything, right?

Also, hiding facts from the people you're asking help from doesn't do you any good.

Edit: Just saw your most recent post. My advice is to send her a message that you hope she feels better soon. This isn't going to be the turning point in your relationship either way.
 

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Guys I thank you your insights. I'm really not chasing girls or this one in particular at his moment of my life. I just keep this "spiritual" thing on facebook mostly because she started, and if it ends well it's ok, if not, I don't care. I'm not really rationalizing this relationship.
 

Never try to read a woman's mind. It is a scary place. Ignore her confusing signals and mixed messages. Assume she is interested in you and act accordingly.

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Quick said:
Edit: Just saw your most recent post. My advice is to send her a message that you hope she feels better soon. This isn't going to be the turning point in your relationship either way.
Thanks Quick.
Cheers
 

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Troll post is troll or AFC behavior is AFC.

There's no love, no relationship, and you're living in a deluded fantasy world ....

Relationships that operate this way either end in the person being a dude, she trying to scam you, or she's trying to suck you into a cult.

I'm being harsh because this whole thing is silly for a 35 year old.
 

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jdomingos76 said:
Please beware that this is not the average bitc** party girl, it is girl with quality.
Yeah we know. She's special and perfect.

Aren't they all....:rolleyes:
 

Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.

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Thank you guys.
I'm being AFC with this girl, and I'm aware of that.
This is not me, I'm doing it as a last resort to get this girl on the horizontal in a near future. Maybe I should dump her right now... You made me think about that.
 

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jdomingos76 said:
Maybe I should dump her right now...
No need. You actually have to be going out with someone first in order to dump them.
 

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jdomingos76 said:
Thank you guys.
I'm being AFC with this girl, and I'm aware of that.
This is not me, I'm doing it as a last resort to get this girl on the horizontal in a near future. Maybe I should dump her right now... You made me think about that.
I'm not sure if this thread was meant as a joke, but just in case its serious.
No need to dump her, just stop posting pics at 23:45.
 
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