She's Not Interested: A Cheat List For The New Guys

[VladPatton]

It seems as of late that there are several posts every week about a girl who did this and did that, or didn't do this nor that and what does it all mean? Everything is so confusing! Does she like me? Do I have a chance? What color flowers make her taco tingle for me?

There is remarkable text about all of this in the DJ Bible, but I would like to make a simple, concrete list for the newer guys desperately needing recovery from confusion or perhaps even 'rejection shock'. Below is a quick list of things that scream "I'm not interested, please leave me alone":

• She ignores your texts.
• She replies very coldly to your texts (or short, one word, cold answers 4 hrs later).
• She gives you the lines: "lets just be friends for now", "I'm not ready for a relationship just yet, let's take it slow", or the classic "I thought I wanted something more, but I think it's better we stay friends"
• She disrespects you during a multi-friend gathering by being rude, snobby, standoffish, bıtchy
• She avoids looking at you, blatant disinterest in what you're saying
• She flakes on you after you set up a date
• She makes no counteroffers after flaking
• She doesn't let you kiss her after several attempts/several dates
• She never calls or texts, you do all the work, and it's 50/50 at best if she'll say yes, but usually she'll say no
• She doesn't reciprocate touching when you touch her
• She always insists on meeting during a group outting
• She always brings a friend
• She doesn't contact you for weeks/months at a clip
• She's confusing you in any way, shape or form, and keeps you in a fog

And that's what I can think of as a quick, concrete list that should help set the newer guys on the right path to Nextville. That means you immediately drop her and go for a girl that does literally the direct opposite of the above items. Just stop right now, delete her number, and put her out of your mind. This girl is not worth pursuing, you're wasting your time. Get over it, save your dignity, and welcome to becoming a man.

To The Veteran/Experienced DJs:
Please feel free to add to the list to help our new lost posters with the ambiguous dealings of female disinterest.


Thanks.
VP

 

[Jitterbug]

The only thing I'll add is that despite knowing everything on such a list, you need a certain clarity of mind that can only come from an abundance mentality to be able to acknowledge signals of low / zero interest. If you have lots of girls in the queue, you will quickly filter out or push down the ladder the ones who aren't displaying signs of high interest. If you don't, then your brain does what it does best: rationalising away her lack of interest into BS women's mag stuff like shyness, playing hard to get, having lots of stuff (trans: c0cks) going on in her life etc.

 

[doctorj]

like to add this:

when you're on a date, she doesn't have her full attention on you and keeps on texting/looking at her phone

 

[zorg198]

I had a date like this last Friday... i sat down with a girl and she kept pressing the home button on her IPHONE... Next day she started to act differently . Got the hint... Went GHOST, bye bye.

 

[Trump]

Good list. My 2 cents:

1. Whenever you text/email, pretend her boyfriend is right beside her reading your email.

2. Get her to either (a) have sex with you (b) spend money or you. She does either of those 2 things, she's invested. Any email/words/reactions/feeling/talking/emotion/feeling/phone call/text that comes out of her mouth or phone means NOTHING

 

[donkeydnog29]

Thanks, however, there's one more thing that will be annoying us guys. What if she calls back after a while? Is she still worth it?

 

[zorg198]

I doubt she will do that... Just move one. She's not worth it.

 

[HariPoter13]

The only thing I'll add is that despite knowing everything on such a list, you need a certain clarity of mind that can only come from an abundance mentality to be able to acknowledge signals of low / zero interest. If you have lots of girls in the queue, you will quickly filter out or push down the ladder the ones who aren't displaying signs of high interest. If you don't, then your brain does what it does best: rationalising away her lack of interest into BS women's mag stuff like shyness, playing hard to get, having lots of stuff (trans: c0cks) going on in her life etc.

So much this!

 

[VladPatton]

The only thing I'll add is that despite knowing everything on such a list, you need a certain clarity of mind that can only come from an abundance mentality to be able to acknowledge signals of low / zero interest. If you have lots of girls in the queue, you will quickly filter out or push down the ladder the ones who aren't displaying signs of high interest. If you don't, then your brain does what it does best: rationalising away her lack of interest into BS women's mag stuff like shyness, playing hard to get, having lots of stuff (trans: c0cks) going on in her life etc.

Exactly. Even if you have zero other prospects, you should still feel you can get another and that the present uninterested girl is not the be-all-end-all of girls for you.

 

[SgtSplacker]

Yeah Jitterbug nailed it. The abundance mentality is king here. Having plates spinning makes it really easy to separate interested vs. non interested. Plain and simple if a girl is interested in you there is no denying it, you will know.

The way I see it entertaining the affections of a female costs time and money you can better spend on some other trim. I'll next a girl pretty quickly if she's not doing it for me.

I ain't got time fo dat!

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

1. Whenever you text/email, pretend her boyfriend is right beside her reading your email.

I like this. I'll add a little twist to it. Whenever you text a chick, pretend she's going to post those texts online for all the world to see, and then forward them to all your boys.

Nightmare right?

The point is, if you don't want anyone else to see them because to them they'd make you look like a wuss/douche/loser/creep don't send them. You may think she's special and reading your texts differently than everyone else would.... but she's not.

Be cool.

 

[Smok1nAce]

isnt most of this common sense?

 

[bigneil]

This list is good but it needs to be combined with a time graph because many of these are bad signs early on and others are bad signs later in the relationship. For example, early on you will find the "out of sight out of mind" phenomenon as you haven't become part of her inner circle yet, but when you see her there is strong chemistry. Don't expect lots of texts at that stage, though sometimes you get the 100-text-in-one-day "Get to know you" thing and that is obviously a good sign.

 

[nismo-4]

Women who are interested in you won't confuse you.

Seriously, women know what they want. Would a woman flake out on Brad Pitt? Would she give Ryan Gosling mixed signals? Would she tell Usher that she's not ready for a relationship? Would she tell Channing Tatum that she just wants to be friends? Would she tell George Clooney that she wants to take it slow? Would she tell Tom Cruise that she needs to be comfortable first?

F**K NO!!!

If she acts cold and distant, she has a better man in the picture. Or she's just not that into you. IOD's are very reliable. IOI's are moot.

Call her bluff.

Case closed.