Hey guys, been "seeing" this girl pretty regularly for a few months, hanging out/banging several times a week, and the sex is great. She expressed that we had been just hooking up/****ing for a while and id never taken her on a date. I actually had a good connection with this girl and decided about a week later to take her out. We didnt make set plans as i wanted it to be a spontaneous thing, so when she got out of work wednesday and called me, i told her we were going out but not where. She was being a pain in the ass about it, and had a friend in town who she hadnt seen in a while, whos mother just passed away and had to meet for drinks, and wanted me to join them, i expressed that i wanted to take her out and she continued to get pissy and tell me i wasnt communicating well. I refused to argue with her and basically just said ok if you need to meet your friend i understand and we can just do that. I go to pick her up at her house, which is a 25 minute drive and when we get there she tells me her friend bailed and were not meeting her. I was a bit aggitated and told her i had made plans for us and canceled them because she insisted on needing to meet with her friend. She told me she wished i had said i made specific plans because she would of went, instead of trying to meet with her friend. Instead of arguing about the miscommunication i just made the best of the situation and we went to a baseball game around her. She was being insecure and kept asking me if i was aggitated and if i was ok and that she felt like she let me down. I assured her that everything was fine and i wasnt upset about the situation and we could just go on the date on tuesday.
I had an audition the next day and she text me afterwards asking how it went and we chatted for a bit. The next day (friday) i had a show and she text me before wishing me luck, so all seemed fine. Saturday we didnt talk, and i wound up going out that night for halloween weekend. We didnt talk again sunday and i went out with some girlfriends of mine. She saw a snapchat of me out with the girls and sent a passive aggressive message just saying "cute". I responded "thank you for the compliment" she wrote back "i was being sarcastic". I didnt answer her and wound up going home with one of the girls that night. She must have been drunk and messaged me randomly at 430 am saying "lets not" (whatever that means) i didnt respond and she messaged me again 20 minutes later saying "not doing it" (again what the hell does that mean). We didnt talk again monday (halloween). I decided id try giving her a call tuesday since we were supposed to go out. It rung three times and went to voicemail which means she must have hit the ignore button. I didnt hear back from her the rest of the day or today. This girl has gotten upset before when i didnt contact her for a few days but never ignored me.
At this point i cant tell if this girl still has high interest and is mad at me and giving me the silent treatment after not calling her and seeing me out with girls or if shes lost interest and is moving on to other dudes. One part of me feels shes doing this to see if i actually care and the other thinks shes just fed up with my ****. I know shes had some bad relationships in the past and is very guarded. I feel i may have mad her insecure and sent her into autoreject mode. How would you guys play this situation? Should i just drop it until she contacts me or doesnt or should i put in some effort to break the silent treatment? She messaged me at 4 AM sunday so obviously i was on her mind.
I had an audition the next day and she text me afterwards asking how it went and we chatted for a bit. The next day (friday) i had a show and she text me before wishing me luck, so all seemed fine. Saturday we didnt talk, and i wound up going out that night for halloween weekend. We didnt talk again sunday and i went out with some girlfriends of mine. She saw a snapchat of me out with the girls and sent a passive aggressive message just saying "cute". I responded "thank you for the compliment" she wrote back "i was being sarcastic". I didnt answer her and wound up going home with one of the girls that night. She must have been drunk and messaged me randomly at 430 am saying "lets not" (whatever that means) i didnt respond and she messaged me again 20 minutes later saying "not doing it" (again what the hell does that mean). We didnt talk again monday (halloween). I decided id try giving her a call tuesday since we were supposed to go out. It rung three times and went to voicemail which means she must have hit the ignore button. I didnt hear back from her the rest of the day or today. This girl has gotten upset before when i didnt contact her for a few days but never ignored me.
At this point i cant tell if this girl still has high interest and is mad at me and giving me the silent treatment after not calling her and seeing me out with girls or if shes lost interest and is moving on to other dudes. One part of me feels shes doing this to see if i actually care and the other thinks shes just fed up with my ****. I know shes had some bad relationships in the past and is very guarded. I feel i may have mad her insecure and sent her into autoreject mode. How would you guys play this situation? Should i just drop it until she contacts me or doesnt or should i put in some effort to break the silent treatment? She messaged me at 4 AM sunday so obviously i was on her mind.
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" They usually text back within a few minutes and are like "What the hell are you talking about??" And then send a few paragraphs about what has been on their mind and we just clear the air and continue on from there