Shes gotta try it out

[trav_trav]

ive been dating this girl for some 2 and half years. we met in high school i being a freshmen and her being a senior.

now she some 2 and half hours away at college and im the senior and she college junior. she always had this friend whos your typical afc.

recently she been telling me that she been having feelings for this fella and shes been trying to fight it but cant. so i told her go for it.

this fellas got absolutly nothing going for him expect for one thing... hes so f*ckiing nice. my girl says im so much better looking, funnier, etc.

she also acknowledges that i too treat her good but not as good as he. she says she just wants to be happy.

so i like i says i told her to hop to it. she still wants to talk nightly on the tele. and shes coming back in two weeks to her decesion.

she says she just got to know. she has to try it before we can procced.

my question is this how do i handle the coming two weeks with her and the weekend when she gets back...hmmn?

 

[trav_trav]

nah really though? sounds simple enough. not when your in the situation. advice... cmon

 

[trav_trav]

now correct me if im wrong... but i was under the impression that this here forum was all about giving some advice and helping us less fortunate. now some master dj step up to the plate and give me some good honest advice. this is all ask. only this and nothing more.

 

[lerxst]

Well, you gave her the permission to go hook up with this guy. You say he's afc, yet he's done something right to attract her interest, no? I'll repeat this: You gave her permission to go sleep with another guy without any kind of relationship breach of contract. I take it you are okay with this.

My reccomendation is thus: Have absolutely no communication with this girl in coming two weeks or weekend. No more talking on the telephone, IM, email, SMS, whatever. Cut off the communication lines clean. If she happens to catch you on the phone, tell her you got to go, and get off the phone. Go out and met some new girls. Hook up with them. Get on with your life. Read the DJ Bible (it's that hightlighted link at the top of the header). If you work this angle correctly, you can set it up so you will have multiple long-term relationships with this girl.

 

[trav_trav]

anything else i need to know?

 

[trav_trav]

well were officially off. i let her go. i told her shes gotta do what shes gotta do. i dont want her to be wondering what she wants. so i let the girl go and try it out. and the girl is awefully relegious and i gotta tell ya she would never do anything of that sort. anything else i need to know?

 

[trav_trav]

bump

 

[trav_trav]

bump/help

 

[So pimp its scary]

You broke it off with her so that she could go experiment.

Therefore it is your manly obligation to go out and experiment. You don't know if she is going to come back, go meet some women. Simple as that.

If your not used to meeting women do the BootCamp...

You really haven't given me anything more that I can help you with. Maybe you'll be lucky and she will come back to you, but if she was looking for this relationship, it may have been the beginning of the end regardless... so take solace in that and go phuck some new women.

It'll be hard at first considering that you haven't had to talk to women in about 2 years, but it will come back to you. Good Luck!

 

[DJ_Dork]

stop bsing trav, you're the AFC here who is trying to play a switch-a-roo. A girl giving up a so called DJ , I doubt it.

 

[Walden]

This girl comes to you and says I want to bang some other guy and I want your permission to do it (and your balls in a little velvet bag).

You've said that you're happy with her sleeping with some other guy and you'll be waiting when she gets back.

WTF???????????

She wanted you to say "No, you're mine , sort your sh*t out". Girls like guys who show they've got great big hairy pendulous balls.

As far as advice goes I'd next her, change my name , move to another town and hope that she never tells anyone else about this ever.

 

[trav_trav]

fellas fellas fellas. dont you understand. when ya gir tells ya that. you gotta be like well do what you gotta do *****... but i wont be around unless you get this **** straightend out quick... you cant hang on and be needy. and nah she definityly wont **** the kid hes really quite discusting and she recognizes that but for somer reason shes in this phase where she says that to look at it like that would be shallow. and thats all i got to say about that.

 

[honeyshark]

Trav,
You are doomed and I don't envy you. I agree with lerxst however. Close off communication for those two weeks. Disappear. Overcome your unhappiness and try to sort yourself out.

But seriously if I had to bet money I would say; she is leaving you, your relationship is dying, this is going to drag on for a little bit longer than two weeks and leave an unhappy, bitter taste in your mouth.

Is there really anything more you can do to keep her? Not really. So go live your life and try to get over it.

Peace.

 

[white_hype]

dude, just forget about her, you might not be able to do that now but i guarantee you will once your in college

no offense or anything but she doesnt seem like a great catch... i mean who dates a freshman as a senior unless you guys are kinda dork or you are a superstudhass which i highly doubt if shes going after a AFC nice guy loser...

even if she comes back to you i wouldnt take her back, neither of you have experimented in the real world dating other people and finding out what each of you like, cut your losses and date/meet other women, TRUST ME

you will lead a much happier life this way... DO IT NOW

college is a whole other world... a much better one

2 things will happen after this

1- shell realise that guy was a loser and come back to you... even though shes not totally satisfied with you (WHO WOULD RISK IT IF THEY WEre? answer= no one) and she will eventually find someone else

2- she will like that guy and stay with him

3- she wont really like that guy, but use it as an excuse sayings theres so much out there... i want to see what i like.. etc


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