she's catching up w/ex over lunch

[CJ Top]

I think it’s ridiculous and a dumb idea, but she was honest and told you about it. That’s a good sign.

 

[CJ Top]

I've only ever tried to get back in contact with an ex on a personal level for two reasons:

1. I still wanted her and was making some moves in that direction.

2. I was in a comfortable relationship with someone else and she mean't nothing to me anymore other than as a friend.

If you two are solid, then you have nothing to worry about.

However, you do need to draw a line on the frequency of their 'catch ups'. If she wants to meet him every week, or even every two weeks, then for me, that is too much. If it was once every month or two, or even just as a once off, then I wouldn't stress about it.

If she meant nothing to you then why even bother getting back in touch with her? If you’re in a comfortable relationship let the past be the past.

 

[CJ Top]

Forget that, we know damn well that women do this all the time just as an excuse to keep their options open. They say "he's just a friend" but they know damn well as soon as you guys break up or she doesnt want yoru ass anymore, thats when they become more than that. And its a tough situation because you can't say anything because u'll appear insecure and if you dont say anything u'll just be letting her plan work to perfection.

What i did with my ex was give her a dose of her own medicine.. i had a bunch of hot girls that i was just "friends" with that id hang out with just as girls normally do. This made her jealous but she couldnt say **** about it unless she stopped hanging with her own boyfriends. And this also was good for me because i was able to flirt with girls and keep MY options open in the event something didnt work out.

If she didn’t tell him upfront about it I’d agree, but if she had intentions like that, why tell him?

 

[Medina]

I think it’s ridiculous and a dumb idea, but she was honest and told you about it. That’s a good sign.

You keep replying to people from like 15 years ago

 

[In2theGame]

My girlfriend told me she was making plans to have lunch with her ex this friday. She says they want to "catch up." Originally, she said she was going to have dinner with him, but I told her dinner sounds like a date, so she quickly said, yeah, ok, we'll just have lunch.

It seems like things are going well with us, and I really trust her, but I don't understand why she wants to catch up with her ex. She always tells me their relationship was so screwed up and bla bla bla, so why is she going to see him, and why didn't she invite me to go along. I mentioned that I'd like to meet him too , and she said that would be great, she thinks we'd really get along. But I'd really rather eat ***t, than hang out with some guy that used to f*** her.

Should I put my foot down? (she'll probably object to this, says ex is like a brother to her- whatever) If so, how? Or, should I quite worrying, and just work on myself, ie keeping her interest level high (she finally got me to meet her parents, she's very good to me, we have a lot of sex - the other day we had sex in the women's locker room at my college

Fvck. No. Period.

 

[soulforge]

I absolutely would not tolerate that shyte..

 

[soulforge]

This thread is like old as fuk

 

[Julian]

Lol what kind of wack troll sht is this

 

[Focal core]

Triangulation, huge red flags.. I would ve just ghosted her, even if she tell me its just a catchup,, what to catch up is for? To measure size of his d! Ck has changed? well its 15 years too late.

 

[CJ Top]

You keep replying to people from like 15 years ago

Thanks for micro managing the forum for us all

 

[soulforge]

Why da fuk does she need to put her current relationship through this much turmoil over an ex that she apparently doesn't give a shyte about?

Bich should be doing anything and everything not to jepordise the current love of her life? The man she adores and loves.

Or does she? Her current actions suggest not!

 

[soulforge]

Meh this is bull shyte... OP you will live to regret over looking this..

That hoe has absolutely no reason to meeting her ex.

A woman that values you, would never do anything to jepordise her relationship.

Be prepared to get fuked up the azz by her!

 

[Focal core]

Or this!!

 

[soulforge]

Or this!!

Yeh man.. Too many male freinds in her life. Always spells trouble.

 

[Focal core]

Yeh man.. Too many male freinds in her life. Always spells trouble.

As long as I sense that or triangulation, it's over, no matter how much feelings I had for these chicks. Just spells she's not a quality partnership I'm looking for in a long run.wasting your time with them any longer simply means you doesn't respect yourself.

 

[soulforge]

As long as I sense that or triangulation, it's over, no matter how much feelings I had for these chicks. Just spells she's not a quality partnership I'm looking for in a long run.wasting your time with them any longer simply means you doesn't respect yourself.

I experienced the triangilation type situation recently.. I totally dodged it.

Would you dump? Or downgrade to fuk buddy

 

[Focal core]

I experienced the triangilation type situation recently.. I totally dodged it.

Would you dump? Or downgrade to fuk buddy

I never downgrade myself to a women I had feelings for to be fb.. Just no! Too many will ended badly, plus they have lost your respect. Get another chicks for that the ones who want to fvck and respect your boundaries at the same time, yeah I dump one too recently, shes busying keeping her options while I'm already gone, when she suddently came back there was nothing for her lol. I guess she took the hints. Hard.

 

[soulforge]

I never downgrade myself to a women I had feelings for to be fb.. Just no! Too many will ended badly, plus they have lost your respect. Get another chicks for that the ones who want to fvck and respect your boundaries at the same time, yeah I dump one too recently, shes busying keeping her options while I'm already gone, when she suddently came back there was nothing for her lol. I guess she took the hints. Hard.

Same here Mate.. Downgrading isn't always that simple either.

Sex itself overtime starts to create some feelings of bonding all over again.

I always look out for signs, of her mentioning dudes.

I know a male personal trainer
I know a drug dealer
I have a male tattoo artist freind
I have a male business partner
I have a male freind to go out for meals
I have a male freind moving in with me

Etc etc you know the script here.. They always have some dude lurking around

 

[soulforge]

I never downgrade myself to a women I had feelings for to be fb.. Just no! Too many will ended badly, plus they have lost your respect. Get another chicks for that the ones who want to fvck and respect your boundaries at the same time, yeah I dump one too recently, shes busying keeping her options while I'm already gone, when she suddently came back there was nothing for her lol. I guess she took the hints. Hard.

Haha her options probably turned out worthless.. So she came back with tail between her legs.

 

[Focal core]

Same here Mate.. Downgrading isn't always that simple either.

Sex itself overtime starts to create some feelings of bonding all over again.

I always look out for signs, of her mentioning dudes.

I know a male personal trainer
I know a drug dealer
I have a male tattoo artist freind
I have a male business partner
I have a male freind to go out for meals
I have a male freind moving in with me

Etc etc you know the script here.. They always have some dude lurking around

If it's been easier I would have been back with my ex wife and live happily ever after with my kids, but no simply when we lost that respect to a women it never came back, in my case new relationship are always healthy ones, however finding a meaningful connection with a girl nowdays is a hardship to pursue, its requires works and patient I guess.

Haha her options probably turned out worthless.. So she came back with tail between her legs.

Yup I know it isn't a good choice even before she went back, I just quite disappointed with her poor choices towards men. Yup those battling eyes lashes and so on lol..