So if I read this correct, she is about 17 to 20? You say 3 years younger but dont give your exact age.
17yr old with mid 30s or 20yr old with mid 30s? Were talking Junior in high school and a Sophomore in college. Thats about the difference there in 3yrs.
Assume she's 20 and she's been with guys 35... Yea, that's a 15yr gap, and then down to you with 3yrs.
I'd suggest to pretend you dont know so your NOT nervous or anxious. I know its harder than it seems, but if you are too out of whack, she'll see it in your body language, and maybe even how you speak.
What I would do is find out why all the sudden its a guy your age now, or if you know her friends, see why she has been in 2 with older guys.
Some quite honestly like older guys and there is nothing more too it. They could date a high school guy, or a guy just in college, or a guy with a career, lots of life experience, and the whole deal.
Again it depends on the woman, and since I dont know her I cant say what her deal is.
I know a few girls who I could date at the age of 18 and heck even 16 if I felt like it, but I dont. I'd never date a 16yr old girl. lol
But what happens with some is that they see a guy who is NOT young, who isn't the typical high school or early college type, who has a career, goals in his life, may be successful, etc etc, and they just like that. So they try to go after a stable guy. They dont have to worry... What is this goof going to be like in 10yrs after high school? Instead they have a guy who is there.
Truth be told, some women settle down with these guys. Not all the time, but sometimes they do cause its so much easier since there is already so much there.
Again it varies. Some 18yr olds would say i'm as old as dirt, and mean it. Some would think its awesome, and be happy they are dating a more mature guy than a kid.
Anyway, if you dont have more info as to why i'd see if you can find it out, as it may help.
I know a girl who may like older guys cause she has never had a STABLE place to be. Dad hates her she thinks, mom and dad are divorced, she is always a different place every week, and an older guy with a stable life is kind of up her alley. She could very well think... I could have a great guy, one who loves me, one who will provide for me which I never had growing up, he can give our kids a great life, and not what I had, and he wont be a bad dad. It happens.